Supporting something you're not comfortable with.

I had an abortion last month, I was raped.
My best friend had an abortion on Saturday, her and her boyfriend are breaking up.
I understand and respect situations different than my own and I love her to death, but I've almost been feeling like I'm mourning for her? In a sense. I don't want to talk about her abortion and I tried everything I could to beg her to do adoption. I've tacked it up to me feeling awful about my decision regardless of what happened. I could have made it work. Any suggestions? Have you ever disagreed but didn't express it?

Edit: Also, how can I be more supportive to her? I am not good with grief and I know she is sad.

It's not your place to disagree with her decision. That being said, yes I have, sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut

I couldn't find the right way to word it. I don't really DISAGREE per say, I think I'm just sad because I know exactly how she feels..

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" It's not your place to disagree with her decision. That being said, yes I have, sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut"

 

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" It's not your place to disagree with her decision. That being said, yes I have, sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut"

This.

C.

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" It's not your place to disagree with her decision. That being said, yes I have, sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut"

      

I think you need to resolve the issues within yourself before trying to extend a hand to someone else. IF you still havent fully accepted your own abortion how could you help her get through the aftermath of hers?

Quoting Witty Whit™:" I think you need to resolve the issues within yourself before trying to extend a hand to someone else. ... [snip!] ... to someone else. IF you still havent fully accepted your own abortion how could you help her get through the aftermath of hers?"

I think I agree. I just feel bad because she needs me. She hasn't reached out quite yet, she's mentioned it a few times and sounds very sad and tired. She didn't agree with my decision when I made it either, but she was still there for me. I want to be there for her too.

Quoting Witty Whit™:" I think you need to resolve the issues within yourself before trying to extend a hand to someone else. ... [snip!] ... to someone else. IF you still havent fully accepted your own abortion how could you help her get through the aftermath of hers?"

thats exactly right.