I have no idea what to do!

I talked to my boyfriend last night, and he's had some issues with telling his family about the baby because of the situation we are in. He finally told his older sister, which he said he'd tell her first no matter what. He still hasn't told his parents, but hopefully that will come soon.
Last night I asked him what his sister had said. He wouldn't tell me at first just saying that I didn't need to hear it because it wasn't nice. I told him that I was sure that it wasn't, but I was a big girl, I could handle it. He ended up telling me, and I guess his sister's view on it is that he needs to leave me (which I expected) and once the baby is born he needs to fight me for custody. I was in complete shock. She doesn't know me that well, at all. And I just couldn't believe that she's making assumptions like that as to how good of a mother I will be. I would NEVER keep the baby from my boyfriend, it's his baby to. So I really don't understand.
I've always known that his family wasn't really fond of me, but I never knew why. I'm still very confused as to why.
What should I do? Anyone have any advice??

My boyfriends family wasnt fond of me either.. i dont know why..but a few months before i got pregnant everyone turned around.. now we are all okay and his mom is like my best friend..so is his sister! i think thing will turn around once they see the baby!.. do you know why they are acting like that
[sorry if i misspelled something holding baby & typing]

well for one thing hes a big boy and can make his own decitions and if all the family is going to do is stress you 2 out and cause problems with having a nice and healthy relationship then i would not have contact with them. Dont take familys crap its really not worth it.

What would give her a reason to say that if she doesn't know you that well?!

I would wait it out...a baby can be a big surprise to the guy's family...

My bf and I were only together 3 months before we got prego the first time (here we are 3 years later with another one on the way), and EVERYONE, including his mom, aunt, boss, you name it, on his side thought I was STUPID for having the baby. BUT I DON'T KILL MY CHILDREN...so of course I kept it. I even told my bf that if it were too much for him, he could leave me, and that would be fine, but I wasn't getting rid of the baby that we made. It was our decision when we didn't have protected sex. But, we stayed together, and his mom is one of my biggest allies in the family. I'm pretty sure his family really likes me now! At least that's what they tell me...but at the beginning I never ever wanted to show my face around them...

Don't worry, hang in there!! They have to like you...because regardless of if he does try to FIGHT you for custody down the road...you have to be in their lives for at least 18 years so they better get used to it!!! And most likely will!! Honesty is the best policy...his parents might be upset they found out last if he doesn't hurry up and tell them...plus, the more time they know, the more time they have to get used to the idea of a grandkid!

I wouldnt let it get to you , and would blow it off for now .. I got pregnant with my first before me and my hunny were married and his family flipped out .... he had 3 kids from another marriage . They kept telling me what was I going to do with the baby , because he had so many already , and kinda treated me like crap for the longest time . But as soon as maddy got here , every negitive thing and everydislike fell apart and now the treat maddy as if she were their fav. out of all the kids .. Go figure   But just take everything they say and blow it off , and hopefully they will come around , if not its their loss .... Good luck ....  

Wow thats really messed up. But maybe you should call his mother/parents and sister and ask them why they don't like you. It could be an old gf putting thoughts in there mind. Try to look at it from all angles....but even though you might want them to accept you and like you, try not to make that your main concern right now-you have a baby and a pregnancy to think about.

You should tell your boyfriend that he needs to stand up to his family for you and your guys' baby. They don't need to get involved in any negative way. You two are old enough to start a family then you're old enough to deal with it in the way you want to. She shouldn't be encouraging him to break up another family and put the child through custody battles. That's the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Unless she's going to be respectful and supportive then she needs to stay out of your business. Like you don't have it hard enough just being pregnant. How Rude!!!

His family is always nice to me when I'm around, but you can just tell it's not really a genuine kind of nice. But they aren't rude people so of course they are going to play nice to me.
He is already under a tremendous amount of stress as far as this, and school, and getting a job, and money goes. I'm just afraid that his family will have a huge effect on the way he thinks. He's really close to his family, and values their opinions. I just hope that we are able to work things out and I hope I can show him that listening to the negative things they have to say isn't the best idea, because we are having a baby together whether he or anyone else likes it. He actually asked me to terminate the pregnancy early on knowing full well that it goes against EVERYTHING I believe in, I told him I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did. He understood and later I found out that he was talking to a mutual friend of ours and had told them he was glad I didn't do it. He goes back and forth a lot on the baby thing. He goes from being excited, to scared, to idk what. It's just really stressful and I'm not sure how to deal with it all!

Maybe you should talk to his sister? Like through an email or a text, just tell her it wasn't planned but you two are trying your best to make it a good situation and you would appreciate all the support you can get. Idk i just can't imagine someone suggesting something so stupid! lol. I really hope everything works out with you and your boyfriend and he doesn't listen to her. The best thing is to keep the parents together and try to make it work :]] good luck!

And you know another thing is and maybe you should find out, but females typically get mad at other females b/c they can't have any children, does she has any? I've heard so many horror stories about it. (NO I'M NOT SAYING EVERYBODY THAT HAS A HARD TIME HAVING CHILDREN ARE LIKE THIS) but some very much are.

Quoting SNUGGLES0414:“ And you know another thing is and maybe you should find out, but females typically get mad at other females ... [snip!] ... stories about it. (NO I'M NOT SAYING EVERYBODY THAT HAS A HARD TIME HAVING CHILDREN ARE LIKE THIS) but some very much are.”

Actually, I thought about this too. Because no, she doesn't have any children of her own, and was told that she shouldn't get pregnant because it could kill her (she has a lot of other health issues). Then her husband had a vasectomy *sp?* and I guess they found out after that "well maybe it wouldn't kill you". So no children for her, and it's looking like none in her future. So I definitely thought of that too, but i didn't want to say anything to my boyfriend and be a complete bitch about things like that.

she has no right to say anything about your business, especially if you dont even know each other that well. How old are you guys? Everyone always will have something negative to say to you or to him, but i suggest to just ignore the people who dont have something nice to say. A baby is a blessing, and if someone doesnt respect you and or what your decisions are then I would not let them get to you. Be strong and do what makes you happy.

Quoting qdhilton88:“ she has no right to say anything about your business, especially if you dont even know each other that ... [snip!] ... doesnt respect you and or what your decisions are then I would not let them get to you. Be strong and do what makes you happy.”

I'm 20 and he's 19. A lot of it I know is because of how young we are and that this wasn't planned in ANY way...and of course we're still in school, I'm taking a break now since the baby should be here during fall semester...but he's still set to graduate in December (it's a 2 year program). I feel the same way...this baby is a blessing, especially since I was on the pill and it's still here! (I know the pill isn't 100% effective, but it's still pretty effective if you take it correctly, and I was). I'm trying to get excited and be as positive I can be even though it is not the way we wanted things or really a desired situation, and I just wish that everyone had that attitude, of course I know not everybody will think like that...but it would be AMAZING!

Quoting Samantha10.31.08:“ I'm 20 and he's 19. A lot of it I know is because of how young we are and that this wasn't planned ... [snip!] ... and I just wish that everyone had that attitude, of course I know not everybody will think like that...but it would be AMAZING!”

Well you seem to have your head on your shoulders!! Just keep thinking positive and hopefully it will all turn out GREAT!