re: [ I FKNG HATE HIM !!!!!!!!!!!!! (edit on pg 4) ]...

Believe it or not, part time Dads... end up hurting the child when the child can collect what is happening. I understand joint custody Dad's... but for a Dad to just show up when he wants thats stupid. He'll end up causing the child more grief then anything. Sorry if i'm blunt, it's not directed to you, it's just my opinion abour baby's father lol.

Quoting Baby_Majic:“ Believe it or not, part time Dads... end up hurting the child when the child can collect what is happening. ... [snip!] ... the child more grief then anything. Sorry if i'm blunt, it's not directed to you, it's just my opinion abour baby's father lol.”

i totally agree.
my dad was a "part-time" dad.
not by choice.. b/c of his job.
but even when i was there he wasn't home.
i would go to his house on the weekends he was home.. about 1 weekend a month.. and even then he would leave me home all night by myself [at the age of 12] to go out to the bar allnight..
i resented him for doing that to me for a long time.
i never got along w/ him till he cut back on drinking and changed his attitude ALOT... he calls me to see how i am all the time.. i mean its sad it took about 10 years for him to start doing that.. but still... i went through crapp through my teen years b/c of him.

Quoting Ashley [Sophia's Mama]:“ so NOW do yall all understand why i have talked SO much shit about him up til this point? and why ... [snip!] ... visitation that HE supposedly wanted so bad. GOD i wish hed just drive his car off a bridge already. what a fucking loser”

hahhahaha omg i said the SAME thing to my husband last nite!!!! although unforunately he came home alive. lol. richard sounds like such a dickhead, i'm sorry you have to deal with all that! hopefully he will just stop bothering you, it sounds like he's just trying to piss you off, not cuz he really cares about sophia. my husband has another kid (she's 10), and he just pays child support and never sees her. hopefully that will happen to you!! the best of both worlds!

Quoting Baby_Majic:“ Your daughter doesn't need a part time Dad. I'd knock him out of the picture if I was in your shoes. ... [snip!] ... there. Then doesn't show up when you do have other things you have to do. I'd say you had your chance, sign your rights over.”

i already tried to go on with my life without him involved at all...but then i got a knock at my door @ 10pmlast monday from this guy serving me with papers (from richard). so this is ALL on him. i NVR even wanted richard in our lives at all.

hes a fuck-tard

Quoting flirtychick84:“ hahhahaha omg i said the SAME thing to my husband last nite!!!! although unforunately he came home alive. ... [snip!] ... kid (she's 10), and he just pays child support and never sees her. hopefully that will happen to you!! the best of both worlds!”

yea my parents keep saying that will prolly end up happening. but i just dont see it =/

richard doesnt give a shit about sophia, we can all see that by now...he is only doing this bc he wants to still be apart of MY life.
he told me before he left me for the last time "you'll see ashley, ill ALWAYS be in your life."   He just wants to make MY life a living hell.
God, i just feel so bad for Sophia for having such a dumbass "father"

Quoting Ashley [Sophia's Mama]:“ yea my parents keep saying that will prolly end up happening. but i just dont see it =/ richard ... [snip!] ...   He just wants to make MY life a living hell. God, i just feel so bad for Sophia for having such a dumbass "father"”

Just goes to show how much he really does need to grow up...
If he ever does.

Quoting Paiger [Kaleb's Momma!]:“ i totally agree. my dad was a "part-time" dad. not by choice.. b/c of his job. but even when i was ... [snip!] ... sad it took about 10 years for him to start doing that.. but still... i went through crapp through my teen years b/c of him.”

im sorry

ive seen too many of these situations..

i know thats what richard will do to Sophiathroughout her life as well. its obvious...richards dad does the SAME shit. so thats how he learned it.
Its like my life is just set up for a handful of disappoinments, and soon, so will Sophias =[

its not richard who wants to see her, its only his MOM.
She will be the one watching sophia while richard goes out all night w/ his new whore ass girlfriend
and God, i fucking HATE his mom

Quoting Asher:“ Just goes to show how much he really does need to grow up... If he ever does.”

he wont.

his dad is the SAME way.

like i said, sophias already set up for disappointment by him

its so sad

Quoting Ashley [Sophia's Mama]:“ yea my parents keep saying that will prolly end up happening. but i just dont see it =/ richard ... [snip!] ...   He just wants to make MY life a living hell. God, i just feel so bad for Sophia for having such a dumbass "father"”

my husband's baby mama tried that same shit.. SHE wanted to see him, didnt care if the kid did. She always wanted the 3 of them to do stuff together (meanwhile we've been married for 4 years) finally he said he's only going to see his daughter, not the mom, and she stopped letting him see her. such a bitch, but better off for me lol one less kid for me to take care of. i'm sure you're parents are right, and eventually he'll just end up paying support and not seeing her. you shouldn't be the person to moitor the visits, have your mom or dad do it, and dont have any contact with him.

Quoting Ashley [Sophia's Mama]:“ i already tried to go on with my life without him involved at all...but then i got a knock at my door ... [snip!] ... serving me with papers (from richard). so this is ALL on him. i NVR even wanted richard in our lives at all. hes a fuck-tard”

he must be a true fuck-tard if HE is the one who started all this w/ the court and what not... but doesn't even show up when he is supposed to to see his daughter.... i just feel for ur baby [well, you too of course] b/c i know what its like to have a shitty dad.. it was really hard on me when i was younger.. knowing my dad would rather spend all night at the bar rather than w/ his daughter that he hasn't seen in forever!
aww i hope that he grows up and realizes that he has a daughter.. maybe it just hasn't hit him b/c he hasn't even seen her.. maybe once [if he ever] he does get to see her he'll realize that he needs to step up for that beautiful little girl.

Quoting Baby_Majic:“ Believe it or not, part time Dads... end up hurting the child when the child can collect what is happening. ... [snip!] ... the child more grief then anything. Sorry if i'm blunt, it's not directed to you, it's just my opinion abour baby's father lol.”

no, that is very true.
and last night when we were sitting there waiting for him to show up and he didnt, i looked at sophia and started balling my eyes out. I dont want her to go through that.
I know that I am ALL she needs and just KNOWING that he is just gonna hurt her someday really kills me.
I really wish it was just me and her. =[

Quoting Paiger [Kaleb's Momma!]:“ he must be a true fuck-tard if HE is the one who started all this w/ the court and what not... but ... [snip!] ... her.. maybe once [if he ever] he does get to see her he'll realize that he needs to step up for that beautiful little girl.”

even if he sees her or not, he still doesnt give a shit. he doesnt know what its like to take care of a baby. he hasa "GIRLFRIEND" and thats all he cares about. he skipped out on seeing his daughter for the very first time last night to go out to his girlfriends house.
which is why i just started balling my eyes out bc i dont want Sophia to ever go through that. my mom had to calm me down bc i was crying so hard.

my dad wasnt like that AT ALL...we actually lived with my dad for years and all throughout high school. so i didnt have to go through that.

Quoting aberoxy18:“ What kind of job does he have that makes him think he's going to be able to support her anyways?”

WAAAAALLLMARRRTTT
 
 
 

Quoting Ashley [Sophia's Mama]:“ even if he sees her or not, he still doesnt give a shit. he doesnt know what its like to take care ... [snip!] ... like that AT ALL...we actually lived with my dad for years and all throughout high school. so i didnt have to go through that.”

hm. well maybe at ur next court apperance the judge will see that he sucks ass and give u sole custody.
in my opinion, its better to not have a dad at all then a dad that is gona make ur life suck.
i would have been just fine w/o my dad when i was younger.. probably alot happier [we get along now.. but it took alot of time.]

Quoting Asher:“ I thought that he was obligated to tell you when is hes going to come over? Thats bullshit. If i ... [snip!] ... if he wants to support her than act like it first. I think its time for him to put his big boy panties on one leg at a time.”

yea hes supposed to.
and when icalled him last night i said "um you should have called me sooner in the day to let me know if u were actually gonna show up or not richard" and he said "um you could have called me too"

GOD i fucking hate him

this isnt MY visitation, its not MY responsibility to contact his ass.

so i have to get MY attorney to call HIS attorney to tell RICHARD that it is HIS responsibility to call me.
Thats sad. but morons have to be walked through things step-by-step