Quoting Mamas Boy Liam:" Personally? Id be looking for any sign that someone is hurting the neice. Those behaviors in a 10 year old are usually indicative of some sort of abuse or neglect.... JMO"
My niece is not abused nor is she neglected. If ANY of us thought she was we would go on one hell of a mission to find out who is hurting her. I mean, my sister was pulled into a car at the side of a road, raped, and had a baby from it that she gave up for adoption. She knows more than anyone the trauma of sexual assault/abuse.
But I can't just not be around her. I mean I try to be around her as little as possible. I love her but ugh... the girl drives me INSANE with how she acts! So I dont want to see her but I can't totally not see her. At least I don't feel I can. My daughter never wants to go to my sisters house. She wanted to about a month ago and I was happy she wanted to spend time with that side of the family. Well my niece made her sleep on the floor without blankets(besides my daughters blanket that she's had since she was 1). She wouldn't let her sleep on the bed and my sister denies this. I do plan on showing her the texts tomorrow and call log so she can see that I'm not insane, she IS calling me. My Mom talked to her last time.
It started because my niece got a cell phone different than what my nephew has (we pay for his phone). I kept having someone call and hang up on me, so I'm all "Whatever" with it. But then I find out it was her, and I showed my Mom once Kaitlyn told my sister "I was asleep then!" and my Mom backed me up... she was calling me! I just didnt know it was her phone because I didnt know the number.
She called and hung up on me the other day because she said she was ticked off at my Mom, but called her by her first name. I said "First, you don't call her that. Shes Grandma. Two, you don't hang up on people just because you are mad." She pitched a smurfing fit and didn't want to see my Mom because she would rather sit at home and do nothing or hang out with her friends. She asked me "Will she buy me something?" I said "No, she doesn't need to buy you something to see you." She said "Well then I don't want to see her, she ticks me off." THEN she said she didn't want to spend time with my Mom because her head hurt. Then her foot hurt. Then her back hurt. She said "I can't do anything, my body hurts, I can't walk around a mall." Now keep in my mind my Moms smurfing disabled and has a bratty granddaughter she's trying to see and she won't go. But I said "Well okay then, if your body hurts that bad I guess we should cancel your birthday party because swimming will hurt it even more." She said "I don't care if it hurts me swimming, its different to see my friends than seeing grandma." I tell her that she makes my Mom cry because of how she acts and she says "ya ya dont care."
I swear, if she was my child she would be backhanded so smurfing hard.... but wait, my child doesn't act this way! My sister says my daughter doesn't act right at their house and teases my niece... Im sorry but I dont believe that for a second because my daughter knows the unholy monster in me will come out if she teases someone... I do NOT tolerate bullying. At all. Lily is the type to hang out with the "rejects" in school because she knows it's right and isn't friends with those that are mean to others because of who/what they are.
As for changing my number... I can't. I can't ever change my number until I get the custody smurf taken care of, which may be years away. If ever. So that's not an option.
But as everyone said, it's a major fear of my Mom and mine that Kaitlyn will become pregnant by the time she's out of middle school. She wants to act like she's way older, CRAVES boys attention, and puts down those that do act their age. I mean she texted me the other day to say she needs new shorts because she cut up hers to be really short and now my sister won't let her wear them. I said "Well you can't be rewarded with shorts for doing something you knew was wrong. You can wear my old shorts though." She said "But pants are hot and I only have pants so Mommy is mean." I said "Mommy isn't mean, she's trying to teach you that you can't do that to your clothes. You can have my old shorts." She put Lily down for wearing a Littlest Pet Shop shirt and said "Thats for babies!" I said "Kaitlyn, she can like what she wants. Not too long ago you liked them too. I'm 28 and love Pikachu still, and that's just okay." So I went and put on my pikachu shirt to make a point. If it doesn't make her seem older or "cool," she won't do/wear it.
She talks back all the time too. I am really protective of Lily because of her father and when Kaitlyn, her friends, and an older girl I trust were with Lily on a playground I said "Please watch Lily, she doesnt know this area and you can't run off on her. If you don't want to hang around take her back to me, but don't leave her alone here." Kaitlyn rolls her eyes and says "Yeah whatever we will do what we want." Her older friend tells her to stop and be respectful (I really like this girl). I stopped and said "Kaitlyn, that's the last time you will disrespect me today. I can guarantee you will not like what happens the next time you mouth off in front of your friends. So I advise you to be a good girl like you can be and talk right to your elders. You stay here, and you do not leave Lily, you understand?" Her friend is telling her to please be good so she doesn't get in trouble.
I love my niece, I really do, but I get SO FRUSTRATED with this constant bickering and with her thinking she can rule the world and make fun of Lily. I mean she even made fun of Lily and her encopresis. I SNAPPED at that... seriously, that made me absolutely lose it and I said something I shouldn't of to her, but I was so sick of her hurting my child.