A bit jealous

I really feel terrible but I am soo jealous of all the preg ladies on BG. I am so happy for everyone yet I wonder why not me. I had my second m/c 2.5 weeks ago and have been TTC for a little over a year now. Am I the only one feeling this way? Do I need to get my head checked?

I always feel bad for ladies who have to try so hard to get pregnant and often suffer miscarrages. Pregnancy comes easy for me and as much as I feel blessed for that I always end up feeling bad for people that it doesnt come easy for.

Im so sorry that youre having troubles conceiving   I cant pretend to understand what youve been through and are going through, hopefully it will happen for you though!  

I think a little bit of jealousy is only natural its just the way you handle it that counts.

I think it's normal to feel that way. It doesn't make you a bad person. I don't understand why some people have to try so hard to get pregnant and suffer so much, then other people can get pregnant by just touching a man.  
I always felt bad while I was pregnant when I would read a post about someone trying to get pregnant or someone suffering a m/c. I wish it could be easy for everyone to have a child.

I think that it is normal to feel that way. My step-mom told me that her ex and her tried for years and years to get pregnant, and 13 miscarriages later they did. but in the mean time when she would see all those young girls getting pregnant when they didn't have to try, and din't really even want a kid, and she had to work so hard to be able to get pregnant. I think it sucks, and personally I always feel bad when people have to try to get pregnant, and here I am 3 pregnancies later, and haven't had to try even once. But I am sure that what you are feeling is completley normal. In fact, my SIL and BIL were trying to get pregnant when we announced that we were pregnant this time. (they have been trying for years, whent ehy finally got pregnant she had to have an abortion because there were some things really wrong with the baby) and since we told them we were pregnant, they haven't wanted anything to do with us, and thats family. so like I said, I am sure it is normal, but good luck to you, and I hope you can join us pregnant people soon!!!

Quoting 5.23.08 = Boy or girl!:“ I think that it is normal to feel that way. My step-mom told me that her ex and her tried for years and ... [snip!] ... thats family. so like I said, I am sure it is normal, but good luck to you, and I hope you can join us pregnant people soon!!!”

Thank you, we can start TTC again in July so hopefully I will be on that side of the fence in Aug!!!

If that makes you a bad person, then I will be right next to you. It's normal to feel that way. I think that being a mother is such a blessing that we just want the chance at having a healthy child. It doesn't make you a bad person, keep your head up. Because when our time does come we will be great mothers and we will be so happy.

Quoting CarmenDe:“ I really feel terrible but I am soo jealous of all the preg ladies on BG. I am so happy for everyone ... [snip!] ... weeks ago and have been TTC for a little over a year now. Am I the only one feeling this way? Do I need to get my head checked?”

Its okay to be jealous especially when mommies dont take care of their children. You will have your chance. Keep your head up sweetie.

Quoting CarmenDe:“ I really feel terrible but I am soo jealous of all the preg ladies on BG. I am so happy for everyone ... [snip!] ... weeks ago and have been TTC for a little over a year now. Am I the only one feeling this way? Do I need to get my head checked?”

no dont feel bad i was the same way after i lost my baby boy everyone was getting pregnant and not me and i couldnt help but feel awful and wonder why it wasnt happening to me. when i least expected it it happened. and it will for you too. just try to keep your head up and try not to stress to much, even tho i know its impossible not to get stressed at all. you dont need your head checked.
good luck

oh im the same exact way! It doesnt stop at BG though.. a woman i work with just found out shes pregnant... and i dont want to sound rude...but i work at the prison.. and i know how she is with the Custody Officers that we work with.. lets just say she doesnt know who the father is...


atleast i'd know  

lol

Quoting xholdingmyheart:“ no dont feel bad i was the same way after i lost my baby boy everyone was getting pregnant and not ... [snip!] ... not to stress to much, even tho i know its impossible not to get stressed at all. you dont need your head checked. good luck”

where have you been? Are you OK?

Quoting CherryGarcia:“ oh im the same exact way! It doesnt stop at BG though.. a woman i work with just found out shes pregnant... ... [snip!] ... the Custody Officers that we work with.. lets just say she doesnt know who the father is... atleast i'd know   lol”

do you work state or federal? In did both I understand about "those girls" LOL Almost all the nurses were dating or married to the officers!

Quoting CarmenDe:“ do you work state or federal? In did both I understand about "those girls" LOL Almost all the nurses were dating or married to the officers!”

I work state, lol... i work in the ohu or tta and i had a nurse say something the other day like "if you ever hear a co talking about 'if you want pussy go to the ohu' just ignore him"

i was thinking "EFF that... if they want pussy they can go home to their wife"

so many of those officers are married and screwing with the women. it makes me sick.

Quoting CherryGarcia:“ I work state, lol... i work in the ohu or tta and i had a nurse say something the other day like ... [snip!] ... pussy they can go home to their wife" so many of those officers are married and screwing with the women. it makes me sick.”

same in MA LOL I guess prison is prison no matter what state... We even had a few nurses get walked off for screwing the inmates...gross!!!

No, you don't need your head checked. I got my first neg after my m/c and I'll admit that when I saw all the women getting BFP, I was jealous as hell. I'd even sadly go as far to say that I resented them because I wanted to be them. Don't get me wrong, I love them all to death and I'm happy for them, but I wanted to be there too!  

Try not to feel too bad. It's completely natural. I had a m/c in Feb and would have been due in August. Have since found out the woman I share an office with is due November and another girl in our department is due in October. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't seriously jealous of them, especially knowing that I would have had my baby first if things had gone differently, but I have to believe that I'll get my turn. I'm making a real effort to be supportive and excited for them, looking at the pictures and talking about names, even though I secretly wish it were me. Trust me, you're normal.