Anxiety, Stress, & Depression

My daughter is 2 weeks old. I love her to pieces, but motherhood is really taking its toll on me. She can be very fussy & cries every time I lay her down unless she is absolutely oblivious to the world while sleeping. Because of this, life is almost impossible. I cannot eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, or take a shower. I feel trapped & I should not feel that way. As I said, I love my daughter & I have fun with her but when I cannot get a break, all I can do is sit there & cry. I'm barely having time to eat & I'm afraid that is going t cause complications with her breastfeeding. I just do not know what to do at this point.

call your ob doctor. he or she can help. it could just be baby blues but it could be ppd and you should inform them of this. i hope you get to feeling better soon.

you really need to talk to your dr. you could be experience PPD and that should really be managed. There are some meds that are compatible with bfing, and if you choose to opt out of meds (if that is what is suggested) then you could always go to a therapist.

Call your OB, mama. It sounds like PPD, and it will only get worse. I didn't get help with my first, and I hate it because I mostly remember being depressed and stressed. <3

sounds like new motherhood to me. If she really crying that much maybe she's colicky.. my son was that way and i put him on efamil nutramigen at 2 months and he was fine after that. Just keep nursing her. you'll be fine. Just rememebr..IT GETS BETTER. once you form a routine..and once you realize THIS is what you are suppose to be doing..it gets better. congrats on your little one!
I also started taking Sam-e vitamins to help my moods...cause mine are still all over the place... they help..i would look into them..se if you can take them while breast feeding. I also got use to the few showers a week thing..lol

Call a friend or family member to come give you some time alone. I would try this step before automatically thinking it is PPD etc.

My daughter also always wanted to be held. we coslept and she slept on my chest during naps because I couldnt put her down either. theyre just so used to be snuggled up tight in your tummy that it takes time to adjust to the real world. We just cobathed. that was helpful. I would just lay her on my legs or chest while I washed up. You do need help when you need to shave and stuff, like someone needs to take them from you after you wash them up. or just lay them on the floor. Does she like the bouncy seat or swing? Can she sit in that while you shower? sometimes she will have to cry while you pee, it happens.

Quoting 3M'smom:" Call a friend or family member to come give you some time alone. I would try this step before automatically thinking it is PPD etc."

this.too. but if it is PPD you dont want to let it go untreated because that is not good. But definitely try these suggestions first. go get a mani pedi, or see if some of your friends will go out with you.

I feel ya. I had my first baby, a boy, on June 30th--also by emergency c-section! Haha,. But anyway, my son is VERY needy. He's on home oxygen right now, he was in the NICU for a week before then. He cries constantly, doesn't ever really sleep, and I'm breastfeeding him as well. I have to force myself to take a second to eat something/drink water when I can, but I'm having trouble managing that, too. Showers are pretty non-existent, haha. I haven't left the house since he's been here. I'm feeling very trapped, too...so I know what you're going through. I just keep trying to stay positive and remember this will pass one day and we just gotta push through..not only that, but hard to believe, we'll miss them being babies at some point in their lives..even though it doesn't feel like it now. Just try to love the baby as much as possible, and talk to your doctor next check-up like I intend to do.
Also; can someone maybe watch her for an hour or two while you get out?
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Saleen has problems with gases & another is that she spits up amost every time she eats because she eats so much, so fast. I've cut her time down & she's on gas drops but it has not done much good. I had help for a few days, but my mom had to go back to work. I would take care of her but I could also hand her off long enough for me to eat, etc. Now, it's just me & it does not help that her dad keeps blaming the crying on the breastfeeding. He went as far as going to the store & buying formula. I'm just over feeling a wreck when I'm doing everything I can think of to take care of my daughter. It's the taking care of me part that is out of control.

Quoting Saleen's Momma:" Saleen has problems with gases & another is that she spits up amost every time she eats because she ... [snip!] ... when I'm doing everything I can think of to take care of my daughter. It's the taking care of me part that is out of control. "

Yeah, I think this will be the craziest time. Like I said, I'm in the same boat--no time for me to even do simple tasks like eat. Jackson spits up just like your daughter, I'm mentioning it tomorrow to his pedi for his first visit. My husband also said BFing is the issue and to give him formula sometimes, but stick with it if it makes YOU happy.

Quoting Saleen's Momma:" Saleen has problems with gases & another is that she spits up amost every time she eats because she ... [snip!] ... when I'm doing everything I can think of to take care of my daughter. It's the taking care of me part that is out of control. "

try bfing her paying on your back. it almost sounds like you could have a heavy let down, which can cause babies to eat too fast, gag or choke, and spit up. it really does sound like you need to go get some mommy time and pampering   pump for her, or hand express a few ozs and get a sitter for a couple of hours.

Try to relax! And then remember what your body is going through right now with healing. To me, it sounds like the baby blues which are very common and usually only last for a few weeks. i remember being so totally exhausted with my first LO in the first few weeks that all I did was cry when she slept...and I actually had a moment in the shower one day when I was thinking to myself "how long can 18 yrs really be", lol. It's easy to think that this stage will last forever because it is so taxing but it won't, trust me. Sleep when she sleeps-that's honestly the best advice i can give. However, if you still feel this way after a few weeks or it gets to a point where you think you might hurt the baby or yourself, call your doctor. Hang in there and good luck!

I have to take showers because of my incision from the c-section or I could just take her with me. She'll be in her bouncy for about 2 minutes before she starts crying. I really do not understand it. She'll fall asleep on my chest & then as soon as I try to lay her down she'll wake up & start crying.... Yeah, her daddy is not much help when it comes to supporting me on things like breastfeeding & he is a big guy so he acts scared to death just to hold her. It can be very aggravating so I just try to ignore him as much as possible @ this point.

Quoting Saleen's Momma:" I have to take showers because of my incision from the c-section or I could just take her with me. She'll ... [snip!] ... acts scared to death just to hold her. It can be very aggravating so I just try to ignore him as much as possible @ this point."

ooh ok. she can go in the shower with you. put her in her little bath tub, wash, pick her up while rinsing. put her back in the tub, wash hair, pick her up while rinsing, etc.