support from bd

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I'm currently almost 14 weeks pregnant and the father is a ex boyfriend of mine who i still have feelings for.

I have been feeling very alone in this pregnancy, liike i have no one to talk to etc only my bg mamas on here. My mom lives in texas which is across the us and only get to speak to her on the phone and she wont be able to make it when i have the baby.

I have expressed this to him and he says he doesnt see what he is doing wrong or how he can change it? I've told him i wouldd just like for him to act like he is somewhat supportive, we have tried to discuss names but that is it.

What can i ask him to do? Does this make any sense?  

His age will play a role if he's younger.also if its his first kid fear plays a role. Jealousy over baby plays a role. My SO was all excited for baby and then trailed off he asked me same type questions. They can't feel what we go through and don't understand. We are having a million changes and they aren't exactly included in the same way we arw

If he isn't showing much interest in being involved or being very supportive of you, then all the explaining and expressing you do to make him get the point is just a waste of energy and emotion. He has to want to be involved/supportive, and nothing you do can make him. I know it's hard, but he has to realize on his own what he is missing out on. My advice is to find another outlet (journaling really helped me, and just doing things to focus on myself that made ME happy) and don't rely on him for anything. He will get the point if he really wants to. If not, it's his problem--try not to make it yours. You have yourself and your LO to worry about, you will drive yourself crazy trying to get him to understand.