advice please...

okay so my grandmother, my son, and my husband and I all got a house together two years ago bc i was pregnant with my second. we were moving in together because both my husband and i worked at night and she wanted to watch the babies while i worked. well i ended up having an ectopic pregnancy but we still ended up living together. well...im pregnant again. like i said the main reason we moved in with her was bc she said she wanted to help out with the kids. so she went behind my back to my cousin and told her she wasn't going to have two youngins running around. im just confused bc she is the one who WANTED to watch the kids..so i want to move out..i try to please everyone and i dont want to put her in a bind but...its time for me to get out of here and raise my own family. she is so negative about everything so i am so stressed about telling her. i dont want anyone mad, im the kind of person who tries to make everyone happy..i just cant keep dealing with her negativeness..its getting really bad and i dont need the stress. so how do i tell her we want to move without feeling bad and without making her mad. please help!!

Just tell her that your family is growing and you don't want to be a burden, so you're moving out.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" Just tell her that your family is growing and you don't want to be a burden, so you're moving out."

thats what i want to say..but like i said she is just so negative about everything. she can never say anything nice. i dont want to make her mad and im afraid that i am.

Quoting andrea ♥:" thats what i want to say..but like i said she is just so negative about everything. she can never say anything nice. i dont want to make her mad and im afraid that i am. "

You can't please all of the people all the time. I'm the same as you, I like to keep the peace, but it's just not possible all the time.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" You can't please all of the people all the time. I'm the same as you, I like to keep the peace, but it's just not possible all the time."

your exactly right. she might get mad but she will get over it. it just makes me upset bc not too long ago before i found out i was pregnant we told her we wanted to move and she got mad saying that we would be putting her in a bind with finding a place to stay and money and everything but now that im pregnant she is making the comment about two youngins running around and how she doesn't wanna watch them and that would be putting me in a bind. so its just unfair.

do you think she could move in with your mom since your mom has an extra bedroom? I'm assuming she does. If not, do you think your grandma could move into one of those low-income/disability apartments. I'm not sure if she's on diability or not. I think you and kenz would be so much happier living on your own, without having to try to please someone else. Two families under the same roof is never a good thing. If you ever need a baby sitter, i'm always here, don't hesitate to call me. I'm a stay at home mom, me and the girls get bored quite often, i'm always home and i'd love to babysit for you and kenzie!