Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" He only does that if I bring it up, for example, as an argument for why he should have asked me about ... [snip!] ... about this, etc. If it is making a point against his actions, he dismisses it. When it serves him, I am his wife though  "

He's on a power trip. He sounds like he is controlling.

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Exactly. She would be causing drama and it seems she's not. "

Yeah "She's trying to break us up so she can be with me".....she never called me though. LMAO I CALLED HER. When I found the emails. So she must have just decided "oh perfect, now I finally have the chance to break them up" lmfao For real?  

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" Yeah "She's trying to break us up so she can be with me".....she never called me though. LMAO I CALLED ... [snip!] ... the emails. So she must have just decided "oh perfect, now I finally have the chance to break them up" lmfao For real?  "

Ugh. He's not too bright...lol

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Ugh. He's not too bright...lol"

It's smurfing stupid. His defenses for smurf are priceless.

Me: Are you smurfing someone?
Him: WHAT THE SmUrf!? Why are you asking me that? If I wanted to smurf someone I'd just take one step in the door of your job and find someone to smurf. You don't even know how many chicks hit me up in there.

 

A) Nobody "hit him up" at my work
B) Saying, if I wanted to smurf someone, Id just go to your job is not any type of evidence or dispute of whether or not you are smurfing someone now. Like he literally says smurf like that as though it's a defense or some kind of proof. Like it would be impossible for him to be smurfing someone if he didnt do it right under my nose or something.

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" It's smurfing stupid. His defenses for smurf are priceless. Me: Are you smurfing someone? Him: WHAT ... [snip!] ... kind of proof. Like it would be impossible for him to be smurfing someone if he didnt do it right under my nose or something."

Yeah...I'd wanna punch him in the face if I were you..lol

Arguments get so smurfing confusing and off topic, they no longer make any sense and are just a screaming match.

Then it's always how after I caught him red smurfing handed chatting dirty on facebook or something and messaged someone and asked them if he talked to them, that they later on write him and tell him I'm psycho so they can't talk to him anymore.

I highly doubt anyone said I was psycho because I *gasp* asked them a question and then never spoke to them again.

Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Yeah...I'd wanna punch him in the face if I were you..lol"

Same thing. if I'm like where's the proof? He's always like "Well I already told you I didn't do it"

Smurf good thing he didn't try to go to law school.

Then when I say that he says "What it's not illegal?"

*facepalm*. Straight over his head by at least 6 inches.

It's aggravating.

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" Same thing. if I'm like where's the proof? He's always like "Well I already told you I didn't do ... [snip!] ... when I say that he says "What it's not illegal?" *facepalm*. Straight over his head by at least 6 inches. It's aggravating."

I bet.

DH used to pull some smurf like that, it was over dumb smurf. I'm so glad he learned that I won't fall for it cause it made me want to pull all of my own hair out.

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" Even if it was donated to a specific person whom he'd had a sexual relationship with in the past? And it wasn't done "privately" per se?"

If we weren't together no but if we were he would at least need to talk to me first.

Hey OP, just wondering how things are going? Have you two talked things over?

Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Hey OP, just wondering how things are going? Have you two talked things over?"

Not really. Just a bunch of yelling and smurf and him basically saying he doesn't care how I feel about anything. Then diverting it to the fact I never care how he feels about anything and using me telling my mom as an example of that.

Today everything is calm though.

Quoting "The Boob" [HM]:" Not really. Just a bunch of yelling and smurf and him basically saying he doesn't care how I feel about ... [snip!] ... I never care how he feels about anything and using me telling my mom as an example of that. Today everything is calm though."

Im really sorry he put you in this situation. I won't lie and say I know how you feel, but I can imagine. But to be honest, you seem like a really good woman, and you don't deserve to be with an asshat like that.