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It sounds like you are trying to make things difficult and he is trying to be reasonable. You cannot just get full custody because you want it. If he wants to be a part of his child's life then let him, don't cause drama when it's not needed.

Well here... He can petition the courts to change the name... The courts also decide based upon his pay what CS is to be paid... The courts also determine custody... Which they do everything possible to have parenting shared. I am the custodial parent of my daughter... Ex pays CS and never sees her. His choice. Hes the one missing out. Child support and visitation are 2 seperate issues here... Check into how it is there for you.

Also I'm pretty sure he can't change his last name without both of your approval.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:</b>" It sounds like you are trying to make things difficult and he is trying to be reasonable. You cannot ... [snip!] ... custody because you want it. If he wants to be a part of his child's life then let him, don't cause drama when it's not needed."</blockquote>



This...

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" It sounds like you are trying to make things difficult and he is trying to be reasonable. You cannot ... [snip!] ... custody because you want it. If he wants to be a part of his child's life then let him, don't cause drama when it's not needed."

 

I don't know about where you live but Here he cant change name and it would cost him quite a bit in legal fees to do it if you agreed. You may not get full custody but will get physical and power over medical. Then again you might get full... just depends.

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" It sounds like you are trying to make things difficult and he is trying to be reasonable. You cannot ... [snip!] ... custody because you want it. If he wants to be a part of his child's life then let him, don't cause drama when it's not needed."

I honestly don't want him around him anymore, until the DNA results came he told everyone that I'm a hoe and that the bastard that I'm waiting it's not his. I don't trust him at all.

And... Like the other lady said.... U seem like you are trying to make things difficult.... DONT. The courts will come down on u much harder and u might end up getting nothing u want. U have to show you are looking out for the best interest of your child... Not getting back at the father for screwing up.

I Have an aunt who was told she couldnt get child support unless she had the daughters named changed to his last name . .so she did

Quoting Bianca Rahul:" I honestly don't want him around him anymore, until the DNA results came he told everyone that I'm a hoe and that the bastard that I'm waiting it's not his. I don't trust him at all."

It's not about what YOU want. It's about what is best for the child.

Unless you have proof that he is abusive, neglectful, or a drug addict or something, he will at least get visitation.

Just be fair about everything.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca Rahul:</b>" I honestly don't want him around him anymore, until the DNA results came he told everyone that I'm a hoe and that the bastard that I'm waiting it's not his. I don't trust him at all."</blockquote>




Too bad if you trust him or not he's still the father and he still has rights. If he's not abusing or neglecting the child then he has every right to see his child. Put both your childish games away and start making a decent life for your son without all the immature bs. Time to grow up!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca Rahul:</b>" I honestly don't want him around him anymore, until the DNA results came he told everyone that I'm a hoe and that the bastard that I'm waiting it's not his. I don't trust him at all."</blockquote>




You have to remember... Its not about u and what u want anymore. If hes wanting to be a father to his child he has that right. The courts will back him and could come down on u for not letting that happen. As long as he wants to be... This guy will be part of your childs life. U need to accept that right now before saying anything in court to make yourself look bad.

Quoting Bianca Rahul:" I honestly don't want him around him anymore, until the DNA results came he told everyone that I'm a hoe and that the bastard that I'm waiting it's not his. I don't trust him at all."

You don't trust him because he called you a ho? Remember, he has a right to question the paternity until the DNA came back. Sorry he called you names but that's no right to keep his child away from him. Keeping his child away from him because he called you a name will make YOU look bad.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*Mommy of 5*~:</b>" Well here... He can petition the courts to change the name... The courts also decide based upon his pay ... [snip!] ... choice. Hes the one missing out. Child support and visitation are 2 seperate issues here... Check into how it is there for you."</blockquote>



  This!! OP idk how Canada is, but here custody and CS are separate issues. The court will decide what's best, if he wants to be involved then he will at least get some visitation. I don't think he can get the name changed unless you agree, but he can take it to court.

My situation is as follows:

I have primary physical custody of DS, BD gets 3 weekends a month during the school year and 2 weeks a month in the summer. Holidays are flip flopped yearly. BD pays CS. DS has my last name. BD hates this but I said oh well, if he wants it changed he can do it himself when he turns 18. Right now DS is 6, almost 7. We've had this setup since DS was a baby. It works well when BD isn't being a douche.

IMO, if he wants to be involved with the child and he isn't dangerous then let him see his child. Regardless of how you feel about him, you are both parents now so you both need to see the child and be financially responsible for the child.