2 kids at 19... can anyone talk 2 me about it stressin....

I got pregnant with my son at 16 and had him at 17 . i am now 18 and pregnant with my second child and will be 19 when this child is born. i am with the father . both of my children have the same daddy. and he works in the oil feild indistry but i feel as if i am the only one worried about having two children and depending on him. he is 24 and will be 25 this oct. and his main concern at this point is buying another car to had to his collection of trucks . and i don't know im worried about having to babys and how we are going to financally handel it & i don't think where on the same page

Let him know that he has to get his priorities straight.

My friend had the same thing going on, and she just had her third baby at 21. She doesnt have a job and gets by on welfare. So I think if your SO has a good job then youll be alright

I had 2 at 19. It was tough, but we managed.

Im 20 an pregnant with my 2nd so I know how the feeling can be but I just know I am going to prevent ever getting pregnant again an hopefully j can succeed in life. My bf also has a good job an provides for us. I just stopped working because I am due in a month. As far as your SO I would tell him he needs to get his priorities in check because babies are expensive hopefully you have family that can slightly help.

Just do your best. Keep moving. I don't know if you've considered maybe going back to school or working part time, if that would help put your mind at ease about finances?

It will all work out.... I am 29 and pregnant with baby #6 after doing everything possible to prevent it. I always wondered why I was given another baby and pregnancy that was VERY unplanned.... But i know why now. I recently found out that my 11 year old brother has Hodgkins Disease and needs chemo and radiation starting next week... My babys cord blood will be used to help him. It will be stored until it can be used but it WILL HELP HIM.... This baby wasnt planned but is a welcomed surprise  

I know this is long... but I hope you can take something from it.

I had my first at 18, second at 19, and third at 20. They all had the same Father. He was about 5 years older than me, so our situations sound similar. He never really had his priorities straight. Looking back on it, it seems like we were always struggling with money bc he jumped from job to job. I was really stupid to have kids that young and with someone that was never going to amount to anything in life. But when your young and in the moment, you kind of have tunnel vision I guess. He was older and I guess I thought that was cool. I didn't really know what I wanted back then. Our relationship was off and on for about 5 years and ended when he commited suicide. I became the strongest person after that experience. After awhile on my own with my girls, I realized that our relationship was always dysfunctional. It wasn't until I met my husband that I really saw how a man is supposed to treat his wife and partner.

I have tried telling him about his prioritys but he tells me if i don't like it then i just won't drive it and it doesn't help. yes he use to have a wonderful job working 70-96 hrs a week but the have gotten slow and now he is down to 38-40 a week and we made our money on over time. he only makes 13.50 an hr and with our insureance coming out now its even worse on us and he makes to much for welfare

Well welfare is only for single moms that don't receive child support bc the dads wont pay. My family helped out a lot with my girls, so the only expenses we really had for babies were diapers. I got wic with all three of my girls for formula. I know you are stressed now, but try not to let it get to you. It's not good for the baby. Just don't be like me and have another after #2... trust me... that will be another world of stress.  

I thought oil rig ppl made good money? I'm getting my iud put back in after these twins r born. We can't afford another one kids enough. Til DH goes to school and gets a better job.

i had two kids at 19. its not the end of the world, you have to make it and deal with the choices you have made regardless of what you do.

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Sweetie dont feel so stressed. Ur actually going to do better than probably most moms. But hey at least ur not in a bad predictament lik my cousin. She is bearly 20 with 4 kids already! Thats a wowzer

The oil field was booming there for a while but its mainly in the winter when he gets most of his work because pipes freeze and lines break... i guess i should have rephrased is job title ... he is an oil field tech. for a company named rig tools. they supply rigs with the equipment they need and do hook ups pick ups and fixes. his comp. is kind of flipping and flooping him..... he use to be strickly in the fields (all the over time).... and they lost there shop foreman about

I had my first at 17 and my 2nd at 20, 3rd at 24 and my 4th now at 25 its hard