would you.... for two men

would you carry a baby (or two) for two men... i mean surragate (sp) i am watching tlc bringing baby home. now i know men are just as capable to care for babies as women but i feel every kid needs thier mom. (a mom) i mean there are just some things that a mom has that a dad (or 2) just don't have. and i could never carry my own baby and give it up. how hard is that (call me selfish if you want) so what are your thoughts.

oh they had girls by the way...

umm I know I could never be a suragate mother. Call me selfish but I'm already so attached to my little one, there's no way i could do such a selfless act like that haha.

the only people i would carry a baby for is my sisters.

I would never be able to do that, my question is why can't they just adopt the babies that have no mommy or daddy? But then again I'm with you on believing that every baby should have a mom, if not both a mom and a dad. If I'm going to carry a baby for 9 months that I'm sure as hell going to keep that baby.

I think that if two good people in a loving relationship want to have children they should have the right to. My son doesn't have a father in his life but he has some good strong men who love him and will be good influences on him. I'm sure these men have not entered into parenthood lightly. In fact, their journey into parenthood has taken a much greater effort than most. I'm sure they will have strong female influences for their daughters. I'm not sure I could be a surragate for somebody but I would never say that somebody who is good and loving doesn't have the right to a child.

Quoting Amy_Victoria.:“ the only people i would carry a baby for is my sisters.”

i don't even know if i could do that. maybe if they start growing the baby with her eggs... but if they were my eggs. that would be my baby. (part me) if it were part her no prob...

wierd thing one baby is one mans and the other is the other guys. they planted 3 eggs and 2 took

Quoting Elizabeth (mountainbaby):“ I think that if two good people in a loving relationship want to have children they should have the right ... [snip!] ... could be a surragate for somebody but I would never say that somebody who is good and loving doesn't have the right to a child.”

i'm not saying that either.. i am okay with them having the child... but should the mom of the girls (since they know who she is) be a part of the babies life... from what i can tell i don't think she will and i think if they could know thier mother they should.

I definitely want to be a surrogate one day (after I've had my babies) but, I don't think I could carry for two men... my beliefs would get in the way there.

It would depend on the situation. If they were a couple I knew well and they specifically asked me, for example, I would. If it was for 2 men I had never met, I wouldnt.

I think its extremely ignorant to say that a child needs a mother if you are implying that 2 men couldnt be exceptional parents just because one of them doesnt have a vagina.

Quoting amanda_mommy:“ i don't even know if i could do that. maybe if they start growing the baby with her eggs... but if ... [snip!] ... were part her no prob... wierd thing one baby is one mans and the other is the other guys. they planted 3 eggs and 2 took”

my sister said to me that she would do the egg thing for me cos i seem to get pregnant just dont hold on to them very well, i say good luck to the guys if the kids have gine in to a loving home and are wanted good for them, i agree every child need a mom and dad but it dont always work out like that so having 2 dad from the off wont change much.

I saw that show awhile ago and I thought it was highly interesting.. I have two brother in laws who are gay so yes, I'd do it for them - they're family.. But I'm pretty sure the guys know that having a strong female figure/role model is important to their daughter's childhoods and have already accounted for that.. Who knows, maybe the surrogate Mother WILL pay a big role in their lives.. It would only seem natural

I've seen that episode and I felt that couple would be better parents than many other couples. Like many have stated in Mothers Day posts, it isn't birth that makes a mother, it's the love for the child... and for those two men to go through all the efforts to have children, they must love them very much, unlike many "mothers" who don't plan and later resent their children. *not saying all unplanned pregnancies are resented children, but it happens.*

Quoting amanda_mommy:“ i'm not saying that either.. i am okay with them having the child... but should the mom of the girls ... [snip!] ... part of the babies life... from what i can tell i don't think she will and i think if they could know thier mother they should.”

I don't think she is "technically" the mother. I don't think she was the egg doner just woman who carried them.

Quoting Kailyn's Mama:“ It would depend on the situation. If they were a couple I knew well and they specifically asked me, for ... [snip!] ... needs a mother if you are implying that 2 men couldnt be exceptional parents just because one of them doesnt have a vagina.”

i'm not saying they wouldn't make good parents but tell me were there things as a girl you felt uncomfortbale talking to your father about. i know i could talk to him about girly stuff (like my period boobs and wierd things like that) and i've never been a boy but it must be hard to have 2 dads and at least if they had contact with thier mom they could feel a little less "wierd" around the other kids knowing he still can talk to his mom

Quoting J&LsMommy:“ I don't think she is "technically" the mother. I don't think she was the egg doner just woman who carried them.”

she is the egg donor.