Someone told me that this story truely happened but I'm not so sure it is 100% true. Anyways, I wanted to know your views on this matter.

Imagine..

A teen girl ( 15-18 ) who is told she has an incurable disease and that she won't have much time. Her biggest wish in life is to have a baby, and be a mom, but given the circunstances, holding her baby in her arms is the one thing she wants the most before she dies. She still has time to have a baby and deliver them, but just a few weeks to see the child's life. There are absolutely no complications at all, for baby and mother. Her boyfriend accepts and wants to, too.

Do you agree she should have a baby and have the feeling of being a mother, that endless love in her arms, and die happy?

OR

Do you think she shouldn't have the baby (specify why) ?

Its one thing to already be pregnant and go ahead with the pregnancy, but its another to want a baby just because you're going to die soon. idk, seems like if they did have a baby just because she's dying that it would just make things ten times harder on her family after she passes but at the same time, atleast they would have a piece of her.
who knows. lol

I wouldn't have a baby if i knew i'll die soon. What s the point of creating a life, loving a baby and make the child suffer because he lost his mother

I think raising the baby would have to be discussed. Since she won't be around anymore to take care of the child she should make sure the baby will be loved and have a stable home. I think it's probably a little selfish but I can understand the desire to have and hold your own child.

I personally would not do it but if someone else wanted to and it was their dying wish? Sure, why not as long as it is discussed how the baby will be taken care of before hand.

i wouldnt do it. Growing up without a mom is brutal, no child should be subjected to that purposely.

Sounds like the kind of stupid, selfish decision a teenager would make.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" Someone told me that this story truely happened but I'm not so sure it is 100% true. Anyways, I wanted ... [snip!] ... of being a mother, that endless love in her arms, and die happy? OR Do you think she shouldn't have the baby (specify why

Quoting Máthair:" Sounds like the kind of stupid, selfish decision a teenager would make."

I'm not saying I agree, but I don't really think you should judge people the way you're doing. If you've never been in their shoes, what makes you able to say rude things about them? We never really know, we might as well just be polite.

While I can kind of understand the girl's wishes, I would still have major issues with that situation and I wouldn't be supportive of that decision. I know it is her dying wish, however, she isn't the only one involved. There would be a new life brought into the world to be parented by a single teenage father.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ inês:</b>" I'm not saying I agree, but I don't really think you should judge people the way you're doing. If you've ... [snip!] ... been in their shoes, what makes you able to say rude things about them? We never really know, we might as well just be polite."</blockquote>




Yeah... No. and I don't need etiquette lessons from you, thanks.

Some little baby is going to have the pain of never knowing it's mother because she was too stupid and selfish to consider how her death will effect the baby., but no, she only cared about how it would make HER feel to have a baby.

Quoting wombie:" While I can kind of understand the girl's wishes, I would still have major issues with that situation ... [snip!] ... she isn't the only one involved. There would be a new life brought into the world to be parented by a single teenage father."

Yeah that is my thoughts too, the father isn't going to be able to have everything for this baby even with support. He will be a single teenage father who will also be grieving over the loss of his girlfriend at the same time as dealing with a newborn.

I believe one should TTC when they are capable of taking care of a baby. It shouldn't be an impulse decision based on circumstance, but a well thought out plan to have and raise that child.

Quoting Clk:" Yeah that is my thoughts too, the father isn't going to be able to have everything for this baby even ... [snip!] ... of a baby. It shouldn't be an impulse decision based on circumstance, but a well thought out plan to have and raise that child."

absolutely

it's not a puppy, it's another human life

Absolutely not. Incredibly selfish to bring a baby into the world knowing that you won't be able to raise/care for/love it. And as a teen, at that-- no way.

Idk that's one of those very tough decisions to make that you never know what you would do unless you are in that moment.

I did see a story about a girl (18 or 19) who found out she was pregnant but either right before that or right after she found out, they discovered she had a later stage of cancer. She was given a due date and the option to terminate for treatment but that was still only predicted to get her abut 6 months to a year after her due date. Or she could keep the pregnancy and she would have a few months after birth. Either way she was dying soon. She decided to keep the baby and she lived 3-6 months after his birth and she was very happy. The baby is now doing great and the father is very much in his life and shares custody with her parents.