Financial Support or Love?

So I'm young, and I'll admit.. I don't know everything. That's why I want your opinion. So I'm doin bad right now.. I'm 15 weeks pregnant, 18 years old, work a smurffy part-time job, and have hopes of still completing college. My parents love me, but do not support me in any way; they haven't for a long time. Consequently, I've been living with my grandmother - who says I have to get out before I have the baby 'cause she's too old to raise another kid. (Even though nobody said anything about her raising it.) Anyways.. My mom was telling me how she just wishes I had a man around to help support me. The thing is.. All the guys I fall for are pretty worthless, to be honest. No job. No goals in life.. No motivation. Yhea, I know.. I really can't help it though. You don't get to pick who you're attracted to in life. My question is:

Is it worth settling for someone you don't really love just because they're a good provider? Should I settle for someone with a good job who will help support my child, even if there's no chemistry?
I don't want to live a boring life.. But I gotta make something work for my baby. This isen't about me anymore.

never settle. whats the point if you arent truly happy? have you considered adoption?

Quoting Becca&Baby.:" So I'm young, and I'll admit.. I don't know everything. That's why I want your opinion. So I'm doin bad ... [snip!] ... no chemistry? I don't want to live a boring life.. But I gotta make something work for my baby. This isen't about me anymore."

Why would you settle?
I second adoption, honestly.

Raising a kid is hard when you're young.

I wouldn't, why put my child and someone else through that? I would rather look for a better job and be a single mother rather then play head games with my child and a man.

I would say the same if I was your grandma. Even if you don't plan on her helping, who is not gonna step in and help when it's needed if they are there? Being a single parent is hard. No you shouldn't have a man support you. What DO you plan on doing? Are you sure you wanna keep the baby? And you CAN decide what you put up with in a relationship.

Never settle for less. Keep looking until you find someone who can provide and love you together. Don't be ashamed of being picky and not wanting to date that hot ass guy because he has a record and a lame job. I mean do you want to be stuck forever in this situation. You need to find someone who is motivated in life that understands the role of being a father and having that huge responsibility.

Quoting Becca&Baby.:" So I'm young, and I'll admit.. I don't know everything. That's why I want your opinion. So I'm doin bad ... [snip!] ... no chemistry? I don't want to live a boring life.. But I gotta make something work for my baby. This isen't about me anymore."

If you don't want to give your baby up for adoption there is a lot of help out there for single mothers. It's not going to be easy though. It's tough to get back on top when you get knocked down so low... I suggest college and soon because if you want to make it as a single mom you have to be able to provide for yourself.

get a fulltime job...get assistance. get wic. you are only 15 weeks....so get crackin!! and no its not worth it....raising a baby is hard but if youre miserable it will be harder.

Adoption is an option but she CAN make it as a single parents..just takes a lot of will power and knowing all the help that Is available to you. Also as soon as that baby is born file for child support ASAP. No one should get free rides...

Save up, get abetter paying job if you can, while you can, get a place, get a roomate, get some classes done while you have the time, you can do it! & also get child support when the baby is here   good luck if you really want to you can get it done and get through it

Your baby comes first even before you. With that being said I think you should look into subsidized housing apartments that go by your
income and look into colleges online such as Post University. I got two master degrees while working and taking care of my baby on my own its really hard work but you can do it. I met a wonderful guy who is amazing to my son and for the first time ever I didnt base it off of loooks (he is attractive but a little out of shape) and im in love and expected my second child (his first). Youll meet the right guy some dau bit dont settle or date someone simply because they are hot especially as a mom. Your child is the most important person in your life and you dont want her/him to meet a new guy every month. You wantyour child to habve a fole model to look up to.

Adoption is perminant. You ate not always going to be a teenage mother. Seek help. It's out there. Keep your baby.

I look at marriage completely logically. It's a partnership, not a love match. I want a partner, a friend, someone to love my kid and provide me with more and be a good father. I don't believe in true love so i'm not looking for it.

So yes, if I found a good guy I'd "settle" for him.

And google your local disabilities department and get a job working in a group home. They pay well.

Also start getting on some low income housing lists.