Just fed up!!
408 postsposted 11th May
Well I did it now. Now Jack (my BF) won't even talk to me. Damn hormones. I was talking about how dinner would be nice to not have to fix for once, and how he wouldn't even get up with the boys to let me sleep in a little. He yelled that if he could find the sink under all the dishes he would cook dinner, yeah right, good excuse. So I shot back saying that maybe if someone besides me could unload the dishwasher once in awhile, it would make it easier on me. So he threw what he had in his hand on the floor, and stormed into the bedroom. Well I forgot he did the dishes last weekend for the 1st time that I can remember since we've lived in this house, which will be a year next month. Maybe I was a little bit of a bitch, but come on, I have to do the dishes, unload and load them, plus rinse them off before loading them, just so that he can make dinner for me for mother's day. I guess I fell mother's day should be a day off for once for me. It's one day out of the year. I don't even expect this much on my birthday. But I guess whatever. So now he's in bed, and I'm stuck with the kids once again, and my feet are swollen and killing me, I'm exhausted from waking up early, and I'm just plain crabby. Is that so wrong of me??
quoteI have 3 kids & live in Washington
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1602 postsposted 11th May
Quoting ~Expecting*number*3~:“ Well I did it now. Now Jack (my BF) won't even talk to me. Damn hormones. I was talking about how dinner ... [snip!] ... are swollen and killing me, I'm exhausted from waking up early, and I'm just plain crabby. Is that so wrong of me?? ”
The only wrong thing you have done is wait this long to insist that he help you. He should be giving you at least one day a week off with dinner, dishes, and should let you sleep in... Both me & my dh work (I am on maternity leave now, though) and he cooks, I clean up. We both do what needs done. We are a team.... You need to sit down with him and tell him calmly what you need.
I have 2 kids & live in Pennsylvania
561 postsposted 11th May
I would tell him to get his lazy ass up 'cuz you're gonna catch up on your zzz's! Is he sexest or something? Does he think he's to good to watch the kids or do the dishes? Let him be pissed...hes just being an asshole!
-Sorry I have no patience for people (mainly guys) like that...
quote-Sorry I have no patience for people (mainly guys) like that...
I'm due December 6th (a girl), have 1 angel baby & live in New York
posted 11th May
Quoting LL H:“ The only wrong thing you have done is wait this long to insist that he help you. He should be giving ... [snip!] ... I clean up. We both do what needs done. We are a team.... You need to sit down with him and tell him calmly what you need.”
Yeah that would be nice, but he thinks he should come home and after I've worked all day too, he is the one who should get to relax. And so I'm left getting my oldest off to baseball games or practice, then having to come home and cook dinner and clean. And he's either watching tv or playing video games, or outside tinkering around in the garage!! And I've tried to sit down and talk to him, but he refuses to open up about anything, just gets upset, like just now, now he's in the bedroom pouting like my 8 year old would!
I have 3 kids & live in Washington
posted 11th May
Quoting timmysbabysmama:“ I would tell him to get his lazy ass up 'cuz you're gonna catch up on your zzz's! Is he sexest or something? ... [snip!] ... the dishes? Let him be pissed...hes just being an asshole! -Sorry I have no patience for people (mainly guys) like that...”
I don't know what happened in his childhood, but I am not, nor will I ever be one of those "super women" who work, watch kids, cook, and clean as if its just natural to do it all!! He's got another thing coming if that is how he's thinking!!
I have 3 kids & live in Washington
4450 postsposted 11th May
My hubby was like that when we both worked... I thinks it bc their Mommies spoiled them... It helps me to feel better about it to train my son how NOT to be that way LOL But, what helped with mine (until I started staying home that is) was I just would not do it. If he had a fit cuz I did not cook supper, I would say, "Well, I did not have time to do the dishes so its PB&J tonight" and so on, he finally helped some, but then i quit my job to stay home and that went right out the window LOL Good luck hon!!
quoteI have 3 kids & live in Indianapolis, Indiana
480 postsposted 11th May
I know what you are going through, same thing here. You are not alone and I know alot more women going through the same thing with their husband's and boyfriends. I don't know if they just expect it or if they just take us for granted. I try talking same thing...... pouts. If you find a solution let me know.
quoteI'm due September 3rd & live in Florida
posted 11th May
It sounds like he needs some tough love.... Try one last time to reason with him. If he walks away or sulks, leave.... Before you do, tell him that you are going out for a while. The kids need fed or dropped off or whatever. Tell him you will be back at 8pm or whatever...
Did his mother do everything for him? I know my MIL did not spoil her children and my dh is a great help...
quoteDid his mother do everything for him? I know my MIL did not spoil her children and my dh is a great help...
I have 2 kids & live in Pennsylvania
4204 postsposted 11th May
Quoting ~Expecting*number*3~:“ Well I did it now. Now Jack (my BF) won't even talk to me. Damn hormones. I was talking about how dinner ... [snip!] ... are swollen and killing me, I'm exhausted from waking up early, and I'm just plain crabby. Is that so wrong of me?? ”
wow what an inconsiderate asshole! i'm sorry but everything is supposed to be 50/50 in a relationship, where responsibilities are shared, its not the womans responsibility to do everything. and especially on mothers day... you said he threw something on the floor? i would have picked it up and threw it at the back of his head! but that's just me lol u may not wanna follow that advice.
I'm due October 6th (a girl) & live in Fort Lauderdale, Florida
85 postsposted 12th May
Im sorry but its both of your responsiblities. I agree with you, men should help out more! Do you work aswell? I am a stay at home girlfriend/mom to be and even though I am home all the time I still make Charles help me out with dinner or dishes.. Laundry or anything I need help with. He works four 10 hour days, aswell as building the house but I make sure he helps out with the dishes and dinner too. Tell your Man to grow some balls and take some responsibilites for his actions! If men want to be taken care of their whole lives they should of never moved out from there Moms house. But even now if or when i have a son he will learn responsiblity! And I agree with LL H just go out to the spa for the day.
quoteI live in Blaine, Washington
posted 14th May
Quoting ~Expecting*number*3~:“ You should get him to listen.... i know its hard ( my husband used to be exactly the same), i got to the point where i felt that low that i didnt care anymore, unbeleivably with that not caring came an attitude to match my husbands.... Now he listens, understands, cares .....actually helps and looks after me. Believe me you must find a way to get through to him, otherwise in the future you will despise him or even worse hate yourself¬ i know i have been there!!! Take care and good luck x P x
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