I'm curious to know what everyone thinks about this holiday,and who all should be included in it.Do you think that just because a woman is pregnant she automatically is a mother and therefore should celebrate mother's day?Or,do you feel that it's a bit premature for them to celebrate the holiday,since they have not yet had to deal with children,and pregnancy is far different than actual motherhood?

My fiance told me "Happy Mommy-to-be Day," instead of Happy Mother's Day.

I say yes a pregnant woman is already a mommy. That baby's heart is beating, therefore its alive! She already has made a special mother/child bond with the baby so of course she should celebrate coming into motherhood.

I'm kind of in the middle.
Technically, you're not a mother yet.
Atleast in my eyes.
But then again, you're going to be a mother.
So I say if you want to celebrate it, what the hell.
Last year, my parents got me a "Happy Mother-to-be Day" card.

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ I'm curious to know what everyone thinks about this holiday,and who all should be included in it.Do you ... [snip!] ... celebrate the holiday,since they have not yet had to deal with children,and pregnancy is far different than actual motherhood?”

i think so. not the full on celebration when she actually has the baby. a card maybe breakfast would be nice.i think once you have your baby inside its your's, you are the mother of that baby. just because you havent met yet doesnt mean you arent a mother to that baby

I wouldn't have said yes if I had never been pregnant, but last year my bf got me flowers and a body pillow. That body pillow saved me during my pregnancy, it was a perfect Mothers Day present!!!

Quoting KT ♥:“ I'm kind of in the middle. Technically, you're not a mother yet. Atleast in my eyes. But then again, ... [snip!] ... a mother. So I say if you want to celebrate it, what the hell. Last year, my parents got me a "Happy Mother-to-be Day" card.”

i am like that too kinda between!!

i say yes we are moms but technically we havent went threw the labor(the hard part) of being a mom like the actual labor and delivery and the waking up at all hours ect ect

I'm on the fence about it-I definately don't think just being pregnant makes you a mother,just like getting someone pregnant doesn't automatically make you a father.But,I can see where a pregnant woman would want something special on that day for all the tthings she has to go through during pregnancy.I personally don't celebrate it either way,so I was just curious to know who all did,and who started before actual childbirth.

Pregnancy is rough (at least it was for me) and I feel 'moms to be' deserve a bit of recognition. But not like a huge extravaganza and tons of presents. A card would have been good enough for me, but I didn't even get a "Happy Mother's Day", from my bf last year.
This year, no card, but at least he said it. The day isn't over, but I'm trying not to get my hopes up, I tend to do that too much.

I think that if the bd is involved, he should do something for the woman carrying his child, but other than that it shouldn't be anything too spectacular. Yes pregnant women are mothers, but it's that much more special once you meet & care for that baby!

Well, the "life begins at conception" people will have no problem answering that. But I don't feel like a mother yet. So I just celebrated Mother's day by calling my own mother.  

My husband bought me a heart necklace with diamonds in it that said "Mom" and told me that the baby told him that's what she wanted to get me for Mother's day!

But I don't feel right to wear it yet, I think I will wear it for the first time when I'm delivering her if they'll let me.

Quoting 10.13.07:“ I wouldn't have said yes if I had never been pregnant, but last year my bf got me flowers and a body pillow. That body pillow saved me during my pregnancy, it was a perfect Mothers Day present!!!”

Thats funny, that is exactly what my husband got me. One of those huge pillows that goes all the way around my body. Too bad for him, I still cant sleep without that thing!

I'm ambivalent about Mother's Day in general. On one hand, as a mother, it's a nice thing to celebrate. On the other hand, I see it for what it really is - consumerism and commercialization.

On the subject of who should celebrate it, I don't care if men in drag want to celebrate it. I don't care if Taiwanese midgets want to celebrate it. Like I said, it's just an excuse, at the very heart of it, to make money.

Do pregnant women have the right to call themselves mothers? That's entirely a different discussion.

Legally speaking, they have the right to call themselves anything. I can, and often do, call myself a unicorn. That doesn't necessarily mean I am one. Would I say that a woman who was pregnant was a mother? I'd say she's a mother-to-be. To me, a mother is someone who is raising, or has raised (even if the span the raising lasted was two minutes) a child or children. I say raised instead of given birth because it covers both biological and adoptive/step/etc. children. So, I personally would not define someone who is pregnant, or someone who has miscarried as a mother. I did not consider myself a mother after I miscarried my first pregnancy. Nor did I consider myself a mother while I was pregnant with Colin. Though, had I been pregnant on Mother's Day, I probably would have acknowledged the holiday as a mother-to-be.

Now, here's where a lot of people have a misunderstanding. I would not say to a woman who is pregnant or has miscarried that "you are not a mother", because that's an absolute statement. "I would not define you as a mother" illustrates my feelings on the issue, without making a statement about what the actual truth of the situation is (i.e. whether or not said person actually IS a mother). I would not argue with a woman who was pregnant or who had miscarried calling themselves a mother, I just would not define them as such myself.

Anyway, that's probably way more in depth than was needed, but since the way I'm reading the question it's more about who do we consider a mother than do pregnant women really have the right to celebrate the holiday, this is what I've submitted.

heh

C.

I am also in the middle with my decision. I thnik that once you become pregnant you are nuturing, taking care of and bonding with the child so you are indeed a mother. I do not think that you should get upset if someone doesnt tell you happy mother's day. Today I catered to my mom with my younger brothers (breakfast & dinner) and we sent her to a spa. She gave me a mother's day to be card and a picture frame and told me to put my 3d/4d sono inside of it.

Quoting God:“ I'm ambivalent about Mother's Day in general. On one hand, as a mother, it's a nice thing to celebrate. ... [snip!] ... consider a mother than do pregnant women really have the right to celebrate the holiday, this is what I've submitted. heh C.”

That's the kind of answer I was looking for,actually.
I didn't consider myself a mother until after giving birth,either.Even if I had,I wouldn't have celebated Mother's Day,because I think it's a ridiculous holiday.Unless of course,there would have been a nice sale on gently used unicorns.minotaurs,or trolls,in which case I would have bought myself a few and made it into my "Mother's Day " present.