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if he is abusive you should get a restraining order so that he cant come near you when you give him the papers.

Call me when you can.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and thankfully I never married him! I had an abortion with him too, thank god because Idk how my life would be now if I didn't. Don't go back, please for yourself and your kids don't go back! Definitely get your smurf together and get the hell out of there, I'll be praying for you. I know how it feels to be scared but you can do it, if you surround yourself with enough support you can. I wish I took my own advice back then but the truth is that I didn't leave until he beat the smurf out of me and was caught in front of a ton of people, ending with him getting jumped by 30 guys and arrested. And what's sad is while I was bleeding and swollen everywhere, I was defending him asking people to "please stop". Pathetic I know, but what I'm saying is I know how hard it is to actually leave and stay gone without letting them manipulate you back in. I would think with kids it would be easier to force yourself to go but I can't say because I don't know. I wish you all the luck, and please stay updated so we know you're okay!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:</b>" I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and thankfully I ... [snip!] ... yourself to go but I can't say because I don't know. I wish you all the luck, and please stay updated so we know you're okay!"</blockquote>


Do you live near Pasadena? I know that sounds creepy, but I looked at your pictures and the picture with the statue behind you looks like it's from the little garden area in a park in Pasadena. I'm from Maryland, btw.

I would say he deserves to know. Cause... well .. maybe he needs to get his ducks in a row as well, and if you just hit him with it out of nowhere, it's not gonna be an easy transition. There are 2 of you in this afterall. Besides, both knowing and being on the same page, might help both of you get your ducks in a row quicker and easier.

Quoting 624582:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:</b>" I'm so sorry this is happening to ... [snip!] ... picture with the statue behind you looks like it's from the little garden area in a park in Pasadena. I'm from Maryland, btw."

Lmao yeah I'm from Pasadena, and yeah that's down's park

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:</b>" I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and thankfully I ... [snip!] ... yourself to go but I can't say because I don't know. I wish you all the luck, and please stay updated so we know you're okay!"</blockquote>


II will. Right now he's been trying to act all sweet and smurf but I'm not buying it. He has never beat the smurf out of me. It has always been small things here and there but once he got back from deployment he promised it would stop but it hasn't. It at times seems more frequent then what it used to be. He can say he has PTSD(which he doesn't say) but that doesn't explain everything BEFORE the deployment. I just think now if he ever claimed PTSD that he would think he has an excuse to make it right.

Kayly, I personally don't think I would tell him if I were you. I would try to make arrangements to get yourself and the kids out. As long as you aren't trying to give him false hope and flat out lying to him to make him think you're staying, I don't feel like you're in the wrong. Text or call me any time you need to!! <3

Quoting SKANT:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:</b>" I'm so sorry this is happening to ... [snip!] ... BEFORE the deployment. I just think now if he ever claimed PTSD that he would think he has an excuse to make it right."

Yeah, they always start out as "small things" trust me, the last year was the worst he ever was and never saw it coming. Yeah don't let him make excuses, and don't let him screw you up anymore than he already has..it will cause issues in future relationships. That's why I'm in therapy   but I can tell you're strong like me so you'll be fine.