How to tell BD..

I recently just found out (yesterday) that my ex (also my BD) is dating someone else, he's 26 and she's 18. I'm not fully up to telling him I'm pregnant yet, considering I know what he will say to me about it. basicly he will say I'm trying to get back with him, which isn't the case I can promise that, cause him and I were only together for a month then broke up not too recently. should I just wait to tell him, or should I just text him and tell him? cause he said "we can still be friends.." since it's what we were before him and I got together. I'm just really confused on what to do about this..

Do you plan on pursuing child support? I think regardless of what his role is going to be when baby comes, you ought to tell him. If he isn't violent, face to face would probably be best. Unless you don't want the stress of the reaction that you expect; in the latter case, a phone call would probably do. We don't really know what kind of person he is so in the end it's up to you, doll!

I would tell him...

He's a nice guy, it's the reason him and I were together cause he's a sweetheart. but I'm just scared of his reaction when I tell him, I reacently stopped getting the shot for birthcontrol and was switching to the pill instead when I got pregnant. so he's just gonna say I did this on purpose and I didn't at all. you know?

Quoting LoganoFan20:" He's a nice guy, it's the reason him and I were together cause he's a sweetheart. but I'm just scared ... [snip!] ... switching to the pill instead when I got pregnant. so he's just gonna say I did this on purpose and I didn't at all. you know?"

did you tell him about switching the BC at the time ?

just tell him that you just found out you're pregnant and that you don't want to be with him...that smurf happens and babies are the results sometimes and that since you guys aren't together that he can be in our out of this babies life but he deserved to know the fact that he had helped create another human being.

Tell him, he needs to know. If your scared to see him in person, just tell him over the phone.

Yes, I did. but he said "oh well.." and we didn't ever use anything the whole time him and I were together.. I'm stressing over telling him cause him and I haven't really talked since we broke up.

Quoting LoganoFan20:" Yes, I did. but he said "oh well.." and we didn't ever use anything the whole time him and I were together.. I'm stressing over telling him cause him and I haven't really talked since we broke up."

That's a really smurf attitude for him to have.   Welp either way he's gotta know. What a dick, though.

I want him in his son/daughters life, I just don't want to be with him. I'm just not sure me and him can co-parent together.. cause we had our fights and arguments and they weren't pretty.

Quoting LoganoFan20:" I want him in his son/daughters life, I just don't want to be with him. I'm just not sure me and him can co-parent together.. cause we had our fights and arguments and they weren't pretty."

in a month?...just tell him..honestly he helped create this child and he has every right to know...and even if he thinks you tried to have this baby it doesn't matter, whats done is done and just let him know you want nothing but his support from him and for him to be a father

Quoting LoganoFan20:" I want him in his son/daughters life, I just don't want to be with him. I'm just not sure me and him can co-parent together.. cause we had our fights and arguments and they weren't pretty."

you were only w/ him one month, it got that bad ?


& you two can figure things out in court if you can't co parent. some parents just can't. they have third parties when they switch kids, etc. Just tell him... if not in person, then via text, phone call

It got that bad because he wanted to be with his truck more than me, or fishing. so I'd complain about it, it's childish I know but when he got home from work he'd grab his stuff and just tell me to go fishing or to work on his truck with him, he'd never just wanna be with me he'd always just wanna complain about me being clingy which I wasn't I just wanted to spend alone time with him, which out his friends, his parents or brother always there. the only time we had to ourselfs was when we went to bed, I just got tired of it and left one day. Maybe I'm at fault for all this, I don't know but I'm not a needy kinda girl. you know?

I Just don't like being 2nd choice to a truck or fishing..

Quoting LoganoFan20:" I recently just found out (yesterday) that my ex (also my BD) is dating someone else, he's 26 and she's ... [snip!] ... still be friends.." since it's what we were before him and I got together. I'm just really confused on what to do about this.."

I would tell him somewhat like that.

Just explain that you found out you're pregnant, but your intentions aren't to get him back or be together, you just thought he should know. If he responds in a negative manner then just ignore it & let it settle in a big & respond back either tomorrow or later in the day explaining further.