Ok, So I normally don't let my kids play with other kids outside of school w/ the exception of the park. I don't like nor trust other peoples kids, plain and simple.

Well, I'm trying to back off a bit and let them play w/ the neighborhood kids.

Here's a little back story. When E was in kindergarten, there was a mix up at school as to where he was supposed to be dropped off. He was accidentally dropped off at home when no one was there. after he calmed down enough to find help, he went across the street and this family called to school who helped us arrange my MIL to pick him up. The family who watched him until my MIL could pick him up has a daughter:

There is a girl across the street who I'm guessing is somewhere between 9 and 11. She's honestly kinda weird. She suggested the kids have a party and then came to me and said "we're having a party and need food for it!" Ummmm I'm not feeding you, you weirdo!
The kids have a battery operated tiny toy vespa. it's only supposed to hold a toddler, but still works w/ both the kids and they have fun riding it around the drive way and less than a mile an hour LOL Well, She actually pulled the handlebars off it "by accident" after I asked her what she was doing, she said "i was pulling on them!"
not to mention she's in my opinion too old to be playing with a 7 and 4 year old. The kids really like her, but something just feels off about her. I don't know if she's brain damaged or just stupid or what, but something makes me cringe when I see her. She's nice, just off.. Not to mention I'm pissed about the scooter being broken.
Normally, I wouldn't give a smurf and I'd tell her she's not welcome to play w/ the kids. However, because her parents took care of E last year, and we live on a small street w/lots of kids, I don't think I have room to tell her she can't play with them.

WDDYT???

We share a backyard and have horrible kids next door. They are 13,11,9,6, and 4. We have a 13 year old and a 2 year old. The kids knock on the door, seperatly, about 1,000 times a day. The 4 year old is awful. He takes things from Hailey, hits her, and breaks EVERYTHING. Our kids aren't allowed to have toys outside because of it. The 6 year old is sooo annoying, and asks for everything she sees in our house, and always picks up Hailey and has dropped her twice. We're in a similar situation as you, we can't really keep them away from our kids. Hailey only plays outside with me watching, and we just go in when we see them.

They're your children you have all the room in the world to tell her she can't play with them if that's what you want to do. Did you talk to her parents about her breaking the scooter?

I'd tell her not to come over, only so she isn't exposed to an smurf like you though  .

Wow..I'm a little taken back by your post. She's nine years old for crying out loud...and your not sure if she's brain damaged or stupid??? I think it's you that has the issue, not that poor girl

I would just go ahead and say "hey these toys are for smaller kids, sorry."

i'm kind of a freak about that too, i'm trying to let my guard down and let my girls play with the neighbor's girls, the first day i did i looked out the front (i have a huge front window) and couldn't see one of my girls so i stepped out and asked where she was and my oldest said she was in the garage w/the neighbor girl pouring something on the side of my suv i was PISSED... i'm sorry but a 7 yr old girl should know better than to pour a drink on somebody else's car right?! sheesh they haven't played with them sense i was so mad. and the little girl lied about it (when she came running out of my garage with her bottle of w/e she had) which really irked my nerves (i can't stand lying) ... but yeah your wording kind of sucked with the whole ''idk if shes brain damaged or stupid'' but if you aren't comfortable w/her playing with your kids say it. and talk to her parents about breaking the scooter.

The point is, with the whole "brain damaged comment" is you ALL have met a kid you know is just not right. You can't put your finger on it, but there is something seriously wrong with them. Some have an excuse and some are flat out stupid.
Don't deny you haven't and don't deny you haven't wondered what the hell was wrong with them.

Yes, I am an smurf. I don't deny it. I can't help if most of the kids I've been exposed to have not been raised with my standards. I expect a lot out of my kids in regards to manners and politeness. I expect the same level out of the kids they play with.
My folks let their friends kids' break my smurf all the time and never did anything about it. I'd be at my grandparents for the weekend and come back to my toys out of place and broken. I'm not letting other kids do the same smurf.
the only reason this girl was left alone w/ the toy was because I was going to the bathroom.
I've already told my SIL that if the girl comes over to play, she has to keep an eagle eye on her.

That being said, the little girl that lives on the other side of our unit is a dream. I love her. She's well behaved, take turns and doesn't break my kids crap.

I would just keep an eye on her. I am watching my nieces and nephew this week and they have already broken our teeter totter, emma's creepy puppet and a bunch of her doll house furniture. I'm going nuts.

Sounds like my 9 year old cousin.

Kids who aren't yours usually will always hit a nerve someway, somehow.  

I know I am late to this but my 4 yr olds best friend is 8 yrs old and I dont mind at all. She plays at her house and vise versa.

My 10 yr old plays with the 12-13 yr old boys across the street and it does not bother me, they are theonly other kids that live around here and have played together for years.