Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" I've said this before, but really, Z's dad and your LO's dad have to be the same. They just gotta be. ... [snip!] ... advice would be, establish custody if it's not already done. From there, you have more options. IS your avi from damnlol.com??"
He's seen LO once and called occasionally long enough to ask how he's doing, and then immediately change topic and start talking about his life. He didn't even know our son's full name until about three months ago.
And custody has not been established via courts, though I have LO 24/7 and his daycare is aware that BD is not allowed to pick him up nor see him without my consent, which has never been an issue thus far because he's never wanted to see him.
And it probably is, I don't remember lol.