Quoting bazinga!:" Today was supposed to be THE day. The day we found out what our EDD would be. The day we saw our baby's ... [snip!] ... to get it all out. We haven't even told family yet that we lost the baby. This is going to be a VERY difficult week for us "
This is my only piece of advice I can give you, and it saved my life when I was in your shoes.
Call your mom, his mom, a sister, someone close, who youre the most comfortable talking to about it............
tell them what happened, then ask THEM to tell everyone. tell them you dont want to keep reliving it, but you want people to know.
Usually, people are hoping to help as much as possible, and this gives them something to do, while giving you and your husband a buffer, to heal and mourn within your own home, in private.
Im sorry for your loss.