Lo's birthday party

Okay so I've been talking with a few other single mom friends and now I have been thinking.. how many of you other single moms invite BD and that side of there family to birthday parties/special events you throw for your Lo? The way I look at it I have invited BD and his family (including BD's fiance/wife and there daughter) to the past 2 birthday parties and all special events that have had to do with Lo even though they never show up, I still put it out there as my effort to try even though I know it's not my job I still want to be able to know in my heart that I did my part. Well a lot of moms that I've talk to have told me that I shouldn't even be that nice and that if they want to throw Lo a party with that side of the family then that's what they should do, which I'm all for that idea as well however I know they won't make the effort. What are your opinions ladies?

Also I have no problem having them at parties and special events for Lo, if they would actually show up and not just say they will be there and then bail last minute.

...ready for the lions to attack in 5..4..3..2..1.

Why are you "ready for the lions to attack"?
And growing up in a split household, my bio moms family was only involved when they made the effort to, if they want to be there for everything then more power to them, if not it's not your responsibility to try to make them, if just leave it alone if they repeatedly never show up.

I don't invite her dad to her parties. I do invite him to birthday dinners though. Parties are for her little friends. I just don't see any need for him to be there. I mean, I guess if he wanted to come along, I'd have no problem with it. But he's never asked.

My sister and her husband divorced 2 years ago, and she invites her ex and his entire family for all birthdays and special get togethers. And she invites his girlfriend too. And they almost always come. When I went to Fl to visit they had a party to welcome me and her ex and his girlfriend came. I think it is a good thing to do, others might be on bad terms with their ex so it might be hard to understand why you are inviting them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Damon Salvatore:</b>" Why are you "ready for the lions to attack"? And growing up in a split household, my bio moms family ... [snip!] ... to them, if not it's not your responsibility to try to make them, if just leave it alone if they repeatedly never show up."</blockquote>



Because on certain topics there are moms on here that
"Know everything" and will tell you everything yu are doing wong and they'll tell you there way of how you should do it..

Thank you for your opinion though I just wish there was something I could do, however I know it's not my place and you can't force people to be a part of something they don't want to be in.

i tried to be nice to LO's dad for the longest time but he always time and time again picks everythin and everyone over our son. i still invite him to birthday partys and stuff more of a way to get him to remember "hey dude you have another son your forgetting about." he never comes but its still away to get him thinking about LO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting →StangerDangerϖ:</b>" i tried to be nice to LO's dad for the longest time but he always time and time again picks everythin ... [snip!] ... remember "hey dude you have another son your forgetting about." he never comes but its still away to get him thinking about LO."</blockquote>



See that's like my situation with DB, he always picks anything and everything over our son, especially his other child which honestly doesn't upset me because at least he is there for his other kids and isn't a complete jerk. I just wish my son could have his dad the way his sister does.

Quoting ♥ Mommy Bear ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting →StangerDangerϖ:</b>" i tried to be nice to LO's dad ... [snip!] ... least he is there for his other kids and isn't a complete jerk. I just wish my son could have his dad the way his sister does."

i know the feeling, its def a smurfy thing to go threw. but you cant force him to be a good dad, as much as i wish you could. my LO's dad choosing has alot to do with his wife. she hates me and my LO. which is understandable doing that wen BD found out that LO was his he tried to get back together with me even thou there married. he hates her with a passion the only reason hes with her is because if he wasnt with her (damn sure isnt going to be with me) then he would have neither of his children. so he picked the son he already had over my LO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting →StangerDangerϖ:</b>" i know the feeling, its def a smurfy thing to go threw. but you cant force him to be a good dad, as ... [snip!] ... sure isnt going to be with me) then he would have neither of his children. so he picked the son he already had over my LO."</blockquote>


See we are on same page BD fiance doesn't like my son and I either but I guess there is back story to that as well (message me if you want to know) However I'd never want to get back with BD in a million years even though she'd probably assume otherwise. I honestly want nothing to do with him I just want him to step up and be a good father to his son instead of walking out of his life whenever a new baby comes or is on the way(Lo was his first born). I will never understand how some can choose one child over another.

Quoting ♥ Mommy Bear ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting →StangerDangerϖ:</b>" i know the feeling, its def ... [snip!] ... a new baby comes or is on the way(Lo was his first born). I will never understand how some can choose one child over another."

i would never get back with BD. hes a cocky ass mother smurfer, i cant stand it. i mean for a long time beforhand we had a soild friendship. specially wen we first found out that LO was his. he asked questions and called like all day to se how he was. i was also living 2 hours away. as sooon as i moved back smurf got so much worse. he went bat smurf crazy them i never hear from him. he accused my ex of molesting LO because he cried wen he took baths at his house. like for real? my ex never even gave him a bath before. let alone the fact that the person was up until that point the only father that LO had ever know. he couldnt even yell at LO let alone do that to him. LO hates baths no matter were it was. LO has cam back from his house with lumps on his head, totally filthy, diaper rashes that like he cried to sit down. dont get me wrong, my sons father is a good dad, some of the time. it wasnt til i found out that his wife was watching him alot of the time he was over there and coming back like that that i went off. he didnt get to see his son for almsot 3 months. now he doesnt really even seem to care. at his point its been a month snd half seen hes see LO even wen i offer to let him see him he makes crap up. iv come to terms that somethings were jsut not ment to be. BD being in LOs life right now just isnt ment to be.