I don't want this baby.

I wanted to have a baby sometime next year, I have been partying on a weekly basis, I have been stacking diet pills, not eating, exercising like crazy. Things that yes I know are not safe and I shouldn't be doing them, But I was ( stopped today). My husband wants a baby. I do not. I do not want to be pregnant. I do not want a baby. Going by my last AF I should be 5.6 weeks Due March 8th. I'm considering abortion. I took 8 tests last night they where all very bright and dark. I'm fully not ready for another baby, My body is not ready. I cannot stop crying. I'm so scared of all of the horror story's Ive been reading.I am praying that I am not too far along to get the pill type, I'm fearful of the vacuum type one And a considering thing is that are the chances that I may of hurt my baby by doing these things?

I will be making the apt in the morning.

anyone?

Have you talked to your husband about your feelings? When did you find out you were pregnant? If you just found out I would give yourself some time to think first, let it sink in. Maybe write down some pros and cons before deciding. I wish you luck in whatever you decide and women are here to support you.  

Try googling how far along you can be to have the pill work. Good luck!

I was very depressed with my 2nd and didnt want her either however I'd never abort so I went through with the pregnancy. Now I'm glad I have her because she is the happiest baby I could ever ask for. My kids are my life, they put me on a good track to life. A baby may save your life with the way you're living. Just a thought. Good luck with your choice.

Quoting Clk:" Have you talked to your husband out your feelings? When did you find out you were pregnant? If you just ... [snip!] ... write down some pros and cons before deciding. I wish you luck in whatever you decide and women are here to support you.  "

Yes, and hes very pro life but in cases of rape, incest, or if somethings wrong with the baby. He wants it, when I told him he was happy, and his face lit up while all I feel inside is hate and confusion inside. He wants it , I don't. Hes worried something may be wrong with it, so that would be the only reason he agrees.

Just so I am understanding the story right. You already have a baby. You wanted another baby next year, but got pregnant. Your husband is ready for another child, but you are not. You want to have an abortion. Why is it that you are not wanting the baby now, but think you will be ready in about a year? Not saying that what you are going to do is the wrong thing just trying to understand the situation better.

Quoting We made a BabyBumpBelly:" Try googling how far along you can be to have the pill work. Good luck!"

I have & everything says something different.

*Hugs* I am so sorry hun. Life has a way of surprising us, doesn't it? I think abortion is what you feel is best, will DH be ok with that decision? I think right now, that is what you should do. You have a lot going on. I don't really support lying, but I would think a pill you could simply pass off for miscarrying? You also need to make sure if you have any medical conditions, they are aware. Those may limit what procedure you can do. As for what damage it could do, it's pretty soon so there really isn't any way of knowing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Let Me Tell You My Secret:</b>" I wanted to have a baby sometime next year, I have been partying on a weekly basis, I have been stacking ... [snip!] ... thing is that are the chances that I may of hurt my baby by doing these things? I will be making the apt in the morning. "</blockquote>




The vacuum procedure isn't so bad.It cramped horribly for a minute and was over very,very quickly. You're only about four days to a week farther along than I was when I had it done.

It's the best choice I ever made and the more time goes by,the more grateful I am that I aborted.

No matter what your husband says,if you don't want a baby now,get it terminated.It's not as though HE will be going through any physical/mental/hormonal trauma to get one>:-(.

Quoting leighleigh111:" Just so I am understanding the story right. You already have a baby. You wanted another baby next year, ... [snip!] ... in about a year? Not saying that what you are going to do is the wrong thing just trying to understand the situation better."

I don't think it matters why I am not ready for a baby now. But I think I would be in the future, And yes he knows.

There is a sticky in AS with the rules of AS. I suggest some of you go read those before commenting again.

Quoting Moses.:" *Hugs* I am so sorry hun. Life has a way of surprising us, doesn't it? I think abortion is what you feel ... [snip!] ... may limit what procedure you can do. As for what damage it could do, it's pretty soon so there really isn't any way of knowing."

I've read that alot of girls say it feels like a miscarry more then of an abortion when they take the pill. And the sites say you have to give a medical report anyways.