Am I wrong to feel this way

So I'm 38 weeks pregnant and right now I'm feeling jealous and depressed.I've been waiting patiently for our baby girl to get here.The doctor said she is ready to come and so are we.But here's why I feel this way.My sister in law is 35 weeks pregnant and has been complaining about her wanting her baby here so bad that she's tried everything.Well today she had her baby after complaining to the doctor to get her out of her.I feel sad mad and jealous... I really want to hold my baby so bad.I've been in preterm labor once at 36 and they stopped it.Why was she able to have her baby at 35!!! My brother in law and mother in law keep bragging that she came first.Yes my husbands mother is ignorant. I know it isnt a competiton but am i wrong to feel this way? I dont want to tell my family or husband because they will just blow me off and tell me im nuts...

The reason your feeling this way, is "wrong". IMO.

There's no reason to be jealous that she had her baby before you, she's not even to term & that could have posed serious risks to her childs health. Why be jealous of that?

I don't think it is wrong to feel that way, everyone wants to hold their baby and you are so close! I'd say its normal...I rather feel jealous and depressed and keep my baby in as long as she needed to be then have her 5 weeks early.

What doctor lets a girl have a baby at 35 weeks just because she was tired of being pregnant?

You're not going to be pregnant forever. Be thankful your LO is still baking.

And your sil's Dr. is a dimwit for letting her deliver/inducing her or whatever at 35 wks. That baby could have easily had a NICU stay.

I'd hope you don't want that for your child.

Quoting Lovelyyy*:" The reason your feeling this way, is "wrong". IMO. There's no reason to be jealous that she had her ... [snip!] ... baby before you, she's not even to term & that could have posed serious risks to her childs health. Why be jealous of that?"

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Quoting Lovelyyy*:" The reason your feeling this way, is "wrong". IMO. There's no reason to be jealous that she had her ... [snip!] ... baby before you, she's not even to term & that could have posed serious risks to her childs health. Why be jealous of that?"

This!!! But in a sense I understand why you are feeling jealous! Just remember your baby is most likely going to be a hell of alot healthier than their baby is  

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" This!!! But in a sense I understand why you are feeling jealous! Just remember your baby is most likely going to be a hell of alot healthier than their baby is   "

 

She didn't give birth full term---she was 5 weeks away from that! That's nothing to be jealous of.

You only have 2 more weeks to go. It'll go by quicker than you think.

I understand the want and jealousy as well but I also agree that I wouldn't be jealous over her having her baby at 35 weeks! I also agree that her Dr. must be nuts!

There was just a report out this week that stated that babies born before 39 weeks score lower on tests in school, because so much brain development occurs in those last few weeks. I can't believe a doctor would even consider inducing her at 35 weeks unless there was a medical indication. After this study that just came out, I can't see doctors even allowing babies to be born at 37 or even 38 weeks without a medical reason. The longer a baby stays in the womb, the healthier they are. I know it's hard, but your baby will be here soon and will probably be a lot healthier (and smarter) than hers. (And....your baby has the added bonus of being the "youngest.") Hang in there momma!

I would be jealous, yes. But seriously a DR letting her have the baby at 35 weeks for no reason is asinine.

I don't think its wrong at all! its hard being pregnant at the same time as a sister in law, my sister in law announced she was pregnant 3 days after i did and i have been jealous and sad ever since. It is totally natural, or at least thats what i keep telling myself so i don't feel too crazy.

Your in laws are freaking idiots for being proud of that.

I can understand being jealous that she was being a total idiot and got the reward anyway, while you've been trying to be a good mom and do everything right, but even if the baby hasn't been shoved in NICU, she could still end up with some serious issues because of it, especially when it wasn't unavoidable preterm birth. I'm sure the reason she was able to have hers is because she effed around so much being a freaking prima donna that the doctors didn't have the OPTION of stopping it by the time she got in, just for the sake of the baby.

Ignore them and their idiocy. Your baby could be here any day now and do it much safer and she will be even more of a blessing because she got here safe and sound and on her own terms.

I was in a similar situation. SO's cousin was due the week after me and I was kind of excited about having the first grand baby of the family. Well she ended up being induced at 37 weeks after begging her doctor to and she gave in. I had my son about a week later. In the scheme of things I was upset while I was still pregnant but once your baby gets here it really won't matter at all. I understand being upset totally, but just know that it won't matter in the long run.

You sound like my bitchy SIL. She's mega jealous of the fact that I got pregnant and had Lincoln before she got pregnant. Now that she's pregnant I am pregnant again, I think she is like 3-4 weeks ahead of me and has pitched a fit that I am having a girl before she is, she's having a boy. She was seriously bummed when she found out she was having a boy because she wanted to beat me to punch on having a girl  

Anyways I think it's normal to feel jealous but seriously not at the expense of your child.