heartbeat for the first time

so i get to hear the babys heartbeat for the first time on tuesday! im so excited it just sucks because still no support. i know my parents are bound to come around once the baby is born (then again you dont know my parents ha) but thats still 7 months to be handling this by myself! but yeah i kinda wish the dad was going with me   yes i know hes an a-hole but i still wish he was involved if only for the babys sake. i still love him too and it would be nice. urg. on a tangent im also kind of scared because i have arguments with my mom and with the babys father a lot. im really scared something will be wrong because i know its really bad to get your blood pressure up. has anyone else had similar fears where everything turned out ok? or am i seriously in trouble? i know i need to talk to my doctor too but just looking for a little first hand experience.

Quoting shamutrnr:“ so i get to hear the babys heartbeat for the first time on tuesday! im so excited it just sucks because ... [snip!] ... ok? or am i seriously in trouble? i know i need to talk to my doctor too but just looking for a little first hand experience.”

I was with my husband when our oldest was born, but he was in college and I was only seventeen at the time. We stayed with my parents and there was constant fighting and a lot of stress. I got into physical fights with my sister, father, AND grandfather on several occassions.

Somehow, my baby boy made it through. He'll be six on Halloween :-D

hey sorry i dont have much advice for u but i wanted to tell you that im due on the same day as u and im so jealous u get to listen to the heart beat lol my doc hasnt done any of that i have to wait for my next appointment which is 3 weeks away   goodluck with everything

omg how cool! definitely keep me posted for when you do get to listen to the heartbeat and all!

EVery single new mother worries about stress on the baby etc. I'm sure you're gonna do just fine, and that your baby will be fine! I worried constantly until we hit 13 weeks, and even then i still had bad dreams etc. Hearing the HB for the first time makes you feel so reassured, b/c it's like OMG there is actually a BABY in there! Also, my first U/s was just magical. There are literally NO WORDS to describe it, although I tried like hell in my about me haha. I'm sure your parents will come around they usually always do, but if your BD never does then be glad you and your baby won't have to deal with him being a negative influence. Some men just need time to get their shit straight. But honestly, yes I'm sure you're fine. Please keep us updated are you going for a full U/s or just a check to hear the HB and all?

Edited, also Happy Mother's Day! It still counts!!

i will defintaly!! are u going to find out what your having/?? i cant wait to find out!! im sorry you dont have the support of your family but id love to chat to you the whole way through, i cant wait to actually look pregnant lol have u been sick? ive been really lucky so far no sickness   it all still feels so surreal!! how old are you?

yup pretty much everything gets better, i was single in the beginning went through hell it seems like with the dad also hes in iraq so im pretty much alone.
but we're working things out.
my dad wouldnt talk to me up until last month.
the only person that lives in this state with me is my mom, its hard but when you feel your baby kick everything is so much better and day dreaming about all the things you want to do with her makes all your problems go away. ;]

Quoting shamutrnr:“ so i get to hear the babys heartbeat for the first time on tuesday! im so excited it just sucks because ... [snip!] ... ok? or am i seriously in trouble? i know i need to talk to my doctor too but just looking for a little first hand experience.”

My mother was 16 when she had me. She got pregnant again when I was really tiny, and gave that baby up. So you can imagine my grandparents anger and dissapointment when i got pregnant...but...they really do come around. My grandmother loves her to death(my daughter) and my grandfather does too, but hes the type of man who doesnt really forgive easily. I just gave up trying to please him. But dont worry. Even if the situation isnt ideal, this is still a baby who is a blessing and will be beautiful and wonderful!

I left my baby's father when I was 2 months along. I didnt see him again until recently when i gave him a shot at being involved again. I gave him simple stipulations to follow, and he effed up. so I told him he couldnt see her anymore. Its hard....but sometimes whats best for the child, is NOT having the father in their life. its REALLY tough. I wont lie. Sometimes I still hurt about it, but I have to do whats best for her. And I believe whole-heartedly that whats best is for her to have positive male figures in her life, rather than a flaky father.

Just make sure he is the right guy to be in your childs life before you allow him to be. Its hard, but you can do it! And try not to stress. Stressing only makes things worse. it doesnt get anything done.....or fix anything. The fact is you are pregnant, and keeping(im guessing) the baby and now that you have made that choice....you just do it.  

goodluck! and congrats! there are lots of fun things to look foreward too

You'll get through it.   I know it's tough - I went to all the appointments alone...except my second u/s when my mom and best friend came with me and my very last one when my ex-boyfriend came (not my baby's father). Everything else - alone and it sucked seeing all those happy couples in the waiting room. My son's father hasn't even bothered to reply to my emails and text messages that I sent to tell him his son was born.

It sucks but I look at it like this:
with the pregnancy and appointments - it made me stronger and it was something special that I did for/with my baby alone.

the lack of a father - better to know NOW that the father is an idiot and won't be around, than to find out in a few years and to have to argue and fight when the child is here and then have to go through an ugly divorce and custody issues.

Things will work out for you. And in the end, you'll have an absolutely wonderful baby that you'll love more than anything and it'll help make up for some of the hurt.

Quoting Amba~new to all this!!!:“ i will defintaly!! are u going to find out what your having/?? i cant wait to find out!! im sorry you ... [snip!] ... pregnant lol have u been sick? ive been really lucky so far no sickness   it all still feels so surreal!! how old are you?”

i really want to be surprised about the sex but i figure it will be easier to buy things knowing esp because its kinda like im doing it all by myself you know? i havent been sick or had any other symptoms besides being really tired. i cant wait till i start showing either! ive gained weight but im pretty sure its just because im eating a lot more now lol. im 18 right now but i turning 19 at the end of june. how about you are you going to be surprised about the sex or find out? have you started doing any shopping yet?

Quote "i really want to be surprised about the sex but i figure it will be easier to buy things knowing esp because its kinda like im doing it all by myself you know? i havent been sick or had any other symptoms besides being really tired. i cant wait till i start showing either! ive gained weight but im pretty sure its just because im eating a lot more now lol. im 18 right now but i turning 19 at the end of june. how about you are you going to be surprised about the sex or find out? have you started doing any shopping yet? "


nah i cant handle the suspense of not knowing, im guna find out as soon as possible! ive bought i few little bits here and there just like singlets, washers and stuff but i want to wait till im past 12 weeks! i have a friend who was a single mum at your age, she's doing great, he's 2 now and she couldnt be happier, you'll be great  

haha...sounds like a good plan! thank you for your encouragement!