Quoting brendaruth:“ but omgosh, isnt that exactly what drug users say? or alcoholics? how many addicts do you know ... [snip!] ... problem. she used to say the exact same things. "its fun. im not addicted. some people are, but not me, i can live without it."”

So since my BF and I enjoy watching porn, we're addicts? We can get in the mood without it, sometimes it's just more fun with porn on. We don't watch porn everyday, nor do we watch it everytime that we have sex. It's a once in a while thing that we enjoy doing.

Quoting ♡Kimi's Mommy:“ So since my BF and I enjoy watching porn, we're addicts? We can get in the mood without it, sometimes ... [snip!] ... We don't watch porn everyday, nor do we watch it everytime that we have sex. It's a once in a while thing that we enjoy doing.”

Oh yes.

You are normal therefore fucked up.


Experts are ALLLLLLL wrong.

Quoting Satan:“ Oh yes. You are normal therefore fucked up. Experts are ALLLLLLL wrong.”

Lol. I just don't understand where she's getting that everyone is suddenly an addict because they watch porn. If that's true, then I guess everyone who drinks is an alcoholic, everyone that gambles is addicted to that, ect.

Quoting ♡Kimi's Mommy:“ Lol. I just don't understand where she's getting that everyone is suddenly an addict because they watch ... [snip!] ... watch porn. If that's true, then I guess everyone who drinks is an alcoholic, everyone that gambles is addicted to that, ect.”

Yup. and if you throw up when you are sick you are bulemic and if you skip one meal you are anorexic.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ A lot more women would enjoy their sex lives a whole lot more if they would think of it that way. ... [snip!] ... what makes them almost "afraid" of pornography or anything out of the ordinary. They are all stuck in romance novels :-\”

I think I love you lol...but for real...that's pretty much how I feel. I don't really care what my husband looks at..I know he is mine and if he ever wanted to cheat, then it isn't because I let him watch porn, it's because he wanted to cheat.

Quoting brendaruth:“ pornography is an ADDICTION. and yet so many people on here treat it like no big deal. yeah, go take ... [snip!] ... any other sexual act... both partners should feel 100% comfortable with it. oh man, this is sooo long. lols. sorry bout that.”

wow....to me sound slike a bunch of bull coming from someone insecure..JMO and perhaps I am wrong...yes porn can be an addiction..so can food and shopping so you're never supposed to do either of those thing? Anything a person can enjoy could become an addiction, it's unique to the individual. You shouldn't live your life out of all the "what ifs"...

And I definitley disagree with porn being more of an addiction than something simply enjoyable. You're trying to tell me that out of all the people who watch porn, it truly affects (in a bad way) their entire life, and that they are addicited??

There's nothing wrong if you don't like porn, that's fine, but it just seems like you are degrading people who do enjoy it because it is something horrible, and comparing it to drug addiction is a big stretch. To me, that jsut makes you seem more insecure with how passionately you feel about it.

Doesn't bother me at all.  I know who he is home with at night and I know he's with no one but me so I don't care.  As if there is anyone that has never looked at someone else and thought they were pretty or anything.  come on.

Quoting brendaruth:“ pornography is an ADDICTION. and yet so many people on here treat it like no big deal. yeah, go take ... [snip!] ... any other sexual act... both partners should feel 100% comfortable with it. oh man, this is sooo long. lols. sorry bout that.”

You are taking it to the extreme.  Yes, it may be an "addiction" for some but not everyone who looks at porn is addicted.  And you are ridiculous for comparing pornography to meth.  I mean, seriously.

Uhm, has anyone failed to notice that porn can't actually kill you as the addctions she named can? Something tells me miss brendaruth is afraid of her no-no spot...or seeing other people's :-P lol

alright. well you guys seem to have me pretty well figured out  

does it seem so crazy to you guys that an average person could NOT like porn and think that is a disgusting and degrading part of our society?? i think its sad that everyone is acting so shocked. did none of you all grow up with any sort of religion or values?? i think porn is so degrading to our society, but mostly to women. When i was growing up, i was taught to respect myself and others. Porn is the EXACT OPPOSITE of respect. complete and utter degradation.

Quoting brendaruth:“ alright. well you guys seem to have me pretty well figured out   does it seem so crazy to you ... [snip!] ... growing up, i was taught to respect myself and others. Porn is the EXACT OPPOSITE of respect. complete and utter degradation.”

I'm not shocked. I'm actually shocked more people like it than I first assumed they would.

What annoys me is your belief your husband is always thinking of you while you're in bed. You honestly think that EVERY time he fantasizes it's solely about you?

Porn doesn't wreck marriages unless it is a strong addiction. And even then sex addiction cannot actually be diagnosed, technically. Porn is at hand everywhere you look now and many scientists cannot prove or disprove it as being a psychological problem because, well, let's face it, we're sexual beings. We do things because it is in our nature to do them. We need sex to function. All kinds of sex.

How long have you been with your husband? I am not trying to be bitchy, so give me an honest answer.

I'm also, by the way, not offended by your dislike for porn. Whatever floats your boat. But your view is completely unrealistic. Especially when comparing sexual addiction (in this case porn) to an addiction to meth or coke.

Quoting brendaruth:“ alright. well you guys seem to have me pretty well figured out   does it seem so crazy to you ... [snip!] ... growing up, i was taught to respect myself and others. Porn is the EXACT OPPOSITE of respect. complete and utter degradation.”

Oh, and I must post again...

It's the degradation and the naughtiness that excites people, especially men. It's raw, primal instinct at viewing things you'll probably never do. It is exciting to see and fantasize. There is nothing wrong with that.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ I'm not shocked. I'm actually shocked more people like it than I first assumed they would. What ... [snip!] ... view is completely unrealistic. Especially when comparing sexual addiction (in this case porn) to an addiction to meth or coke.”

me and husband have been together since senior year of high school... soo, like 5 years.. we have been married for almost 2 of those years (this june). My husband doesnt look at porn and he doesnt masturbate... you all can tell me im in denial or whatever, but he really doesnt. Porn tore his family apart. He feels just as strongly about it as i do, if not more so.

Im sorry that some of you ladies have men that fantasize about other women during sex or even masturbate to other women and wish they were having sex with them. Im sorry that anyone does that. I think it is sick and wrong and definitely not part of real love.

Yes, we are sexual beings... but sex was meant to be an experience ONLY shared between a man and his wife. not with porn stars in their bedroom AND in their head.

It is so sick and sad what the media has done to all of us.

Quoting brendaruth:“ me and husband have been together since senior year of high school... soo, like 5 years.. we have ... [snip!] ... wife. not with porn stars in their bedroom AND in their head. It is so sick and sad what the media has done to all of us.”

Who says sex is only meant to be experienced in such a manner? That is a BELIEF, not a fact.

I'm sorry that something bad happened in your husbands family or even your own for you to have such strong feelings against such things. But things such as masturbation and porn are healthy for anyone's active sex life. Masturbation alone and fantasizing is healthy.

And I have some serious news for you, you are NOT in his head, you cannot begin to imagine what is going on in there. You may believe you do. You may believe everything he says in that regard. But the fact remains we all do it. No one, absolutely no one, is innocent of the fact.

I've never been with anyone else. Don't want to be. I enjoy my sex life immensely and can get wickedly creative. I'm fantastic, if I do say so myself. It absolutely does NOT mean I want my husband to stay faithful to me even in his own mind.

Boredom does things to people. I can almost guarantee, sweetie, he has thought of other women. I can also guarantee unless you have him on 24/7 lockdown, the boy has rubbed one out himself a few times in the 5 years you've been together.

Try it for yourself, not porn, but at least masturbation. There is nothing evil about enjoying your own body. I'm sorry you have such negative views on veryhealthy activites. If I were you, I'd get some sexual help asap. Not because of a dislike for porn, but for things that are actually very normal and healthy HUMAN acts.

can be bad if it's abused. Good as a once in a while stimulant or whatever but bad if that's what a person turns to more often than turning to their significant other. I've known men who end up watching it so often that they base their sex life off of what they've seen... which means they expect unrealistic stuff in the bedroom, and that then always causes problems. there IS such a thing as addiction.