People Judging

I have been having a semi rough pregnancy. I have had some scares in the beginning, a subchorionic hemorrhage, borderline gestational diabetes, weight issues (first not enough, then too fast). I have been struggling with being very short of breath. I try very hard not to complain. I am very very grateful for this pregnancy and know that I am so lucky that even with all these scares and challenges my baby seems healthy and progressing well. The other day I mentioned something on my Facebook page about my hips being sore and that I couldn't wait to meet this baby in a couple months. I had three people post comments that I should stop complaining and consider myself lucky that I can even have children and am lucky enough to be pregnant. I finally had to block one person because of all the nasty comments she made. Now I feel like I can't talk to anyone about the fact that pregnancy is challenging and not always comfortable. I don't feel like I can ask for advice about aches and pains or anything. Has anyone else had any experiences like this? It has been so hurtful, and I am already in a tough emotional spot anyway with this pregnancy. It seems my hormones are even more crazy.

people are smurfs

just because you're complaining about the various discomforts of pregnancy doesn't mean you're not thankful. I'm sorry you were treated that way.

I agree. It was so upsetting because I have tried really hard to stay upbeat with this pregnancy. I see so many people that really are complaining bad and talking about just wanting to be done and hating pregnancy. I said my legs hurt and got attacked. I guess at least I know who my friends are.

Wow =/ I know how you feel momma. Ive had a hard pregnancy this far. With a subchorionic hemhorrage, borderline GD, OVERLY SEVERLY anemic, lupus, arthritis. Everything. I think I complain alot. But I usually only complain to my BD cus he understands. . I had to make a vent post on here one time. I think if people did that to me I'd go ape smurf. Complaining DOES NOT mean ungrateful. At all

i hear ya! i'm 37 weeks and feel like my body is falling apart, have had so many hospital stays and visits on top of it! i suck at being pregnant. it's hard, you never get a break and as wonderful as that bundle of joy at the end may be it doesn't make the process of getting them here any easier!! some women glow and some well... don't. i'm counting down too! anyone who doesn't understand that should know to keep their mouth shut!

Well the people being nasty probably aren't pregnant!!!! They are probably jealouse. Being pregnant isnt easy. Sometimes you always feel like crap, and it just makes you feel better to vent about it. Don't take it to heart what these people are saying, and if they were true friends they would be more supportive. Delete em.....who needs them anyways!!!

I agree nothing wrong with complaining about the aches and pains. It doesn't mean you love the baby any less it just means you are human and experiencing discomfort. People work out and then complain/brag about how sore they are, it isn't any different than that.

I had to get rid if negative "friend" at the beginning of my pregnancy. I was on medicine for my progesterone levels and my thyroid was way off but the dr still allowed me to continue to workout and exercise. My sister's sister in-law would comment on every post I made about exercising saying that I shouldn't be doing it , I was going to lose the baby, that since she couldn't even go for walks while pregnant then there was no way I should be allowed to exercise and not lose the baby. I finally went off on her and the friendship got removed. Haven't spoke to her since. We have enough stress during pregnancy, so if people are going to try and add to that then they can just get away from me. I say keep blocking the negative nancys'.

Thanks for the support ladies. Pregnancy certainly isn't easy at all. I am sure she is just jealous. I am now exactly a month away from my due date. Can't wait to meet that little one! Good luck to you all.

I've had alot of this aswell people are so rude they assume you should be pepped and happy all the time - my baby's father and I broke up. He harrassed me to the point of being charged and a restraining order waiting to go on him, I had awful Ms and two MC scares, I had exams and essay deadlines while Ms and nauseous, I faced homelessness and being put into a homeless hostel, I had my money cut off for a while because student loan company messed up so I lived on nothing and had a few days where I couldn't afford to eat, I tried to stay positive and happy but it was hard I said to one friend that I felt that I had no one and being single and pregnant was so hard and she said "but you've got a friend in your belly" I felt like crying, she was trying to be nice, I didn't complain very much and still don't but if I do I usually get "well you didn't have to get pregnant" or "people would give anything to be in your position" I was traveling to see my parents one day which is a 12 hour coach ride and I was trying to tell the bus driver I was pregnant incase we were in an accident I got to "I just need to tell you I'm pregnant..." to which he replied "well whose fault is that then?"

People are horrible it shocks me I even had a taxi driver say to me "why didn't you use protection?" When he asked where the father was it was so hurtful, I'm obviously happy I'm pregnant it was something I wanted, the worst thing is I'm so shocked by these things I don't think about how wrong they are untilled its over with.

Sorry for long reply you got me ranting - yes! I understand!! Xxxxx