okay i have been seeing a lot of post about poor sahm saying that there men dont help with the baby let alone there home. Then saying to thewife or gf that they work.Thene have the nerve to bitch about whyisnt the house clean bla bla bla.I just feel bad i know its not easy but i work and come home help clean. Take lizzy off my hubbys hands so he can have some time to relax AND cook dinner.I dont say anything if the house is not perfect. oh well life goes on.I would love for a man to come up to me and tell me they work and they dont have to do that because thats why there wife is there. BS men need to help too.I work and i help and dont say one thing about it cuz that islife . Just cuz someone stays home dosent mean its easy let alone with a baby.I just want to know where do men get off thinking this. They have a part to and they need to man up! Im sorry to all the sahm that have to put up with this crap. I guess im just tired of reading about dads that do not help because they work!Thats bs its called life everyone has a part. Just cuz you work dosent mean you cant help! egghhhh sorry a little vent.

Hey i was about to post something similar... with the exact same title

Quoting Mary.:“ Hey i was about to post something similar... with the exact same title”

lol what can i say... damn men

Quoting just call me mama:“ lol what can i say... damn men”

Ughh tell me about it. I am so pissed at my bd right now....

Quoting Mary.:“ Ughh tell me about it. I am so pissed at my bd right now....”

im not mad at mine hes a stay at home daddy. but i just feel so bad for the sahm that there bd works so they feel you have to do all the work BS some men are so selfish.

Quoting just call me mama:“ im not mad at mine hes a stay at home daddy. but i just feel so bad for the sahm that there bd works so they feel you have to do all the work BS some men are so selfish.”

Lol so your one of the lucky ones. Haha im mad at mine for other reasons, but still damn men.

Quoting Mary.:“ Lol so your one of the lucky ones. Haha im mad at mine for other reasons, but still damn men.”

lol sometimes i feel lucky but hes still a man. lol

Well, Im not sure how I feel about this yet. I guess Ill know more once I have the baby and Im staying home and he's working. After my recovery, I plan to do most of the housework, laundry and cooking, because he will be at work all day. I enjoy cooking for him and doing his laundry. And yes, I do think he should chip in. Maybe put the dishes in the dishwasher or give baby a bath.

The home will be more of my duty though I think, although yes he should help here and there. But he should come home to a nice dinner and a clean house. If ive had a bad day and didnt cook, he shouldnt bitch or ill whip him. lol. So I guess Im kinda in the middle - give and take on both sides.

The stay at home person doesn't get a day off.

and NEVER gets two days in a row off.

Often doesn't get adult interaction ALLL day. No watercooler gossip no friends from work no drinks at lunch.


I MY opinion the working person should take at LEAST one of their days off to give the stay at home person ONE day OFF and i mean OFF.

Quoting Satan:“ The stay at home person doesn't get a day off. and NEVER gets two days in a row off. Often doesn't ... [snip!] ... the working person should take at LEAST one of their days off to give the stay at home person ONE day OFF and i mean OFF.”

yeah i dont get any of my days off but im okay with that i miss the fact that i cant spend all day with my lizzy! yeah she can be a pain sometimes but shes a baby thats life. i just wish some men saw it that way.

Quoting Satan:“ The stay at home person doesn't get a day off. and NEVER gets two days in a row off. Often doesn't ... [snip!] ... the working person should take at LEAST one of their days off to give the stay at home person ONE day OFF and i mean OFF.”

Yes yes yes yes yes yes YES!

I guess I can't really complain, because my fiance does try to help out, and on the weekends he lets me sleep in for a few hours so I can get some rest, but in all honesty, his housekeeping skills suck. Do I think that he should do more than he does, yes! Does he actually try to help out, sometimes. But I think the reason that he doesn't help out very often is because I have very high standards, and I have a certain way I like things to be done, and in being so picky, I tend to nag at him a little bit. So, in my situation, it is partly my fault as to why my fiance doesn't help out with the housework as often as I'd like him to. I really need to just keep my mouth shut when he is actually trying to help! Lol On the other hand, there is a mess that follows my fiance around, because he still does not know how to pick up after himself. It drives me crazy! Ironically enough, I don't mind cleaning, and the only thing that I actually ask my fiance to do is to do the dishes(I hate doing dishes and I am allergic to most dishsoaps, and most kinds of cleaning gloves) and to take the garbage out. Well, I am sure, if I didn't end up having to do the dishes myself, and ending up with a severe and painful rash from the dishsoap, they would probably still be sitting there 2 months down the road, so at this point I have no choice. As for the garbage, 50% of the time my fiance forgets to take it out in the morning, which means I than have to carry my 7 month old down 3 freaking flights of stairs with a huge bag of garbage in the other hand all the while making sure that my 3 year old doesn't fall down the stairs. There are no elevators in my building as it is only a 3 storey building, but either way, trying to take out the garbage while juggling to kids, while going to 3 flights of stairs isn't easy. I don't even bother with it now. I just put the garbage out on the balcony(so it doesn't stink up my apartment) so my fiance can do it when he gets home from work. I don't think, asking him to do the dishes and take the garbage out is too much to ask. Ohwell, I still love him to death, and at least he doesn't give me the "oh well, I work all day" bullshit.

My only complain is that my husband is such a whineeeerrrr! He gets a little sniffle and it's the end of the world. Both my kids have been sick, and me, so they've been waking up several times a night EACH. Needless to say, I'm getting no sleep. Then my husband came home, said he hasn't been feeling well because he must have caught whatever me and the kids had, and he went to bed! At 7!! I was pissed. Damn men. But really, I'm grateful to be home with my kids and that my husband makes enough money to make that possible. But he's still a big baby....