Child Support+Extra Money

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine about if a parent that pays child support regularly should give extra money for birthdays, proms, cheer uniforms, or football camp etc? Or should child support be enough? She doesn't have kids and she says Im not really sure but personally I would give help with things like that. It's a big deal to me especially birthdays, senior trips, and proms. Im the type of parent that likes to do special things for birthdays so I always spend extra money. I feel if the other parent is in a position to send extra money for special occasions then they should. I thought this made for good convo! Thoughts?

Child support does not take into account these special occasions, I think both parents should split the cost of extracurricular activities and celebrations.

Yeah i think both parents should contribute. Because child support may help a little but definitely not a lot. My dad paid $500 (rare for majority of people) a month and when you think about the cost I accumulated a month its over 500 doubled a month and my mom didn't have a job after I was 10 because of a injury so that's what we lived off of after her workers comp.

This was a HUGE deal to me so when we did our paper work for custody it was noted that his dad is 50% responisble for EVERYTHING. nc bday presents, parties, gifts, anything the baby wants thats expensive is 50/50. Had he had a job at the time i would of asked for him to pay 75% or more bc he CAN afford it and i struggle. (he makes alot more than i do and waste alot of it on promo parties and himself, he gives f ask but throws it in my face so i put it in writing so basically he knows hes doing it bc hes ordered to)

Quoting *TwinMonsters*:" I was having a discussion with a friend of mine about if a parent that pays child support regularly should ... [snip!] ... is in a position to send extra money for special occasions then they should. I thought this made for good convo! Thoughts?"

I don't expect it. But, I don't expect my child support, so I'm not the best judge haha. It would certainly be nice Z's dad would help with that stuff. His mom buys her gifts, sometimes he does, too, and they'll give them to her when they see her... but I don't expect it.

But, I do think child support is applied to basic living expenses.

If they agree on it ok, but it shouldn't be expected.

Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" I don't expect it. But, I don't expect my child support, so I'm not the best judge haha. It would certainly ... [snip!] ... them to her when they see her... but I don't expect it. But, I do think child support is applied to basic living expenses."

its basically only applied to basic living expenses now a days sad but true. but i mean i gues not everyone slpurges the same.

Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" its basically only applied to basic living expenses now a days sad but true. but i mean i gues not everyone slpurges the same."

Well, when I get child support, I get - max - $~250 a month. That's like nothing. So if LO needs clothes, I'll pick her up some at a consignment shop (for now or the next season). She constantly needs new shoes, her feet grow like freakin' weeds, so usually I buy a couple pairs of shoes (you can tell how rarely I get child support). If I'm late on a bill, I might apply it there... but I try to save a lot because I know I won't get "extra" help for her birthday or Christmas.

If I got more, I'm sure it would be different. If I got it consistently, it would be way different.

Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Well, when I get child support, I get - max - $~250 a month. That's like nothing. So if LO needs clothes, ... [snip!] ... her birthday or Christmas. If I got more, I'm sure it would be different. If I got it consistently, it would be way different."

i know how you feel. i get 150.00 a mth even though he makes enough t opay me that weekly if not close enough. im very aggressive w him whn it comes to money bc i know he can afford or can find a way to make it happen. W my son i buy him everything i can but i didnt always have it this way. i did shop consignment for 2 yrs and i would get like hand me down shoes. Now that we seperated i can afford more bt trust and believe i make his daddy pay bc if hes not going to be around due to his promo work and clubbing he can at least pay for what my son wants. the way i look at it its not fair that im stuck w 150.00 a mth when i spend that in a week on basic kid needs. not cloths or even shoes just food and diapers. like he now sees that its nothing only bc i askfor 1/2 of everything else i send. im thankful its in writing if not im sure he wouldnt pay up as much or as fast

Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" i know how you feel. i get 150.00 a mth even though he makes enough t opay me that weekly if not close ... [snip!] ... only bc i askfor 1/2 of everything else i send. im thankful its in writing if not im sure he wouldnt pay up as much or as fast"

It's good you got that in writing. So you have it ordered so he pays 1/2 of everything major?

Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" It's good you got that in writing. So you have it ordered so he pays 1/2 of everything major?"

Yes. we had it drafted up in our custody agreement so theres a specific section that specifies extra curicular, day care, so forth and in there its added that any major items, major and important decisions and cost are to be made by both. So like say he wants to do sports ok i pay 50% dad pays 50%. his bday gift is a power wheels car and dad pays half. whether he agrees to the gift or not as long as our son asks he has to pay. it works. its helpful bc you know what he probably would act like a douche if i asked for bday money and stuff out the blue. but best believe i keep reciepts and everything for whatever i pay for alone so i know i always spend more on hi than his father and he can never say he does more or i do less than him bc i dont. i thnk everyone should tr to get that in writing bc child suport is basically a way to provide a good life for the child as if both parent income were involved so bdays holidays and big major purchases should be included.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Whitney +2:</b>" Yeah i think both parents should contribute. Because child support may help a little but definitely not ... [snip!] ... a month and my mom didn't have a job after I was 10 because of a injury so that's what we lived off of after her workers comp."</blockquote>



That's definitely rare to receive so much but a very good thing

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" This was a HUGE deal to me so when we did our paper work for custody it was noted that his dad is 50% ... [snip!] ... himself, he gives f ask but throws it in my face so i put it in writing so basically he knows hes doing it bc hes ordered to)"</blockquote>



Hey hun hadn't talk to you in forever! And why would he throw it in your face? That's crazy all he is doing is being responsible and taking care of business as a dad I don't get why he would brag!

<blockquote><b>Quoting anonymom + 1.5:</b>" I don't expect it. But, I don't expect my child support, so I'm not the best judge haha. It would certainly ... [snip!] ... them to her when they see her... but I don't expect it. But, I do think child support is applied to basic living expenses."</blockquote>




I figured that child support only covered necessities and that the other parent would understand that and want to help but alot of parents don't

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" i know how you feel. i get 150.00 a mth even though he makes enough t opay me that weekly if not close ... [snip!] ... only bc i askfor 1/2 of everything else i send. im thankful its in writing if not im sure he wouldnt pay up as much or as fast"</blockquote>

That wouldn't even cover groceries for my 2 wth are you suppose to do w / that he should help and give extra every chance he gets