re: HELP!!! Inlaw's and breastfeeding

Quoting AshleyShuff:" WOW!!! So sad they just can't understand we are doing this because its best for our baby and there is such an amazing bond when you do it."

yeah i thought it was really rude. but honestly, she doesnt really consider other people, she was asked to leave the room when i was in labor and came back in without asking or anyone asking her to come back in and watched the delivery lol

Its probably already been said but this upset me!! No you are not selfish for wanting to feed your child how dare she!!! Breastfeeding is brilliant for your child as is contact with its mother and feeding when she wants is important you need support to breastfeed the best you can don't doubt yourself!!! They can bond in many many other ways with your baby than feeding and breastfeeding is what's best for her so tell them to BACK OFF and don't question yourself whether its hormones or not those instincts are your mothering instincts and it is the OPPOSITE of selfish to follow them!!! Xxxxxxx

I feel that you are completely right to want to breastfeed! It is best for your baby and you shouldn't feel like you have to give that up because people don't want you to so it is easier for them to keep your baby. Just explain to them your feelings as nice as possible (I know that it is hard to do with all of the hormones.) They will understand and if they don't then at least you tried. I understand that you don't want to leave your baby I never did either and the baby needs time to bond with the parents and siblings before anyone else. Your in-laws can always come and visit the baby or if you are comfortable let them watch the baby for a few hours and supply them with an adequate amount of milk. These are just a few suggestions that I have I have not had to deal with this situation personally the only grandparents that wanted to keep my son were on my side but they just came to my house to visit and my mom stayed with me for a little while to help. I hope that you get through everything okay and that they can understand your feelings and just visit until you feel comfortable with the baby leaving overnight. I know as a Mom it is hard to put your children into the care of someone else no matter who it is! Best of luck!

<blockquote><b>Quoting AshleyShuff:</b>" Looking for a little advice on how and what to do. My inlaws have never really supported me breast feeding. ... [snip!] ... but it is a big stress for me and I don't want to be the bad guy but this is my baby. Any advise will be helpful. Thanks!!!"</blockquote>




Not selfish at all girl your baby your choice. I would just let them know how you feel and let them know you will be doing what's best for you and baby and not what's best for the n-law grandparents.

Sorry this is just my thoughts on the matter and I feel it is mom and babies choice and no one else.

I know what your going through. My MIL thinks the same way. But I want to breastfeed until he/she can eat food. It's a special bonding time that no one else can have and from what I've heard it's healthier than formula (& cheaper!). If she still doesn't understand after telling her, then that's her loss and selfishness. Your baby is only gonna be small for a little bit of time.