Quoting Lovelyyy*:" I would tell her "Look, it's not that i don't trust you but I'm a first-time mommy, this is MY baby and ... [snip!] ... leave my LO overnight until he was 9 months old & even then, i didn't want to... i HAD to and i hated every second of it."good advice, thanks!
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" Don't give in. My MIL pestered the SmUrf out of me from the time my son was born. I finally let her take him overnight when he was almost 3. Wait until you are comfortable...she can smurfing deal."lol! my goal is to not give in!
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" Be assertive. Tell her that she will not be watching LO until further notice. And if she keeps bugging ... [snip!] ... she will/can watch him on your birthday and that if she keeps asking/insisting that you will keep pushing it back by a month."yeah, assertive is going to be the only thing that works on her. she may get upset her pestering getting is ridiculous
Quoting evilekat:" My DS is 2 months old and I am very attached to him, Im a stay at home mom and its just me and him most ... [snip!] ... to piss off MIL but she wont leave it alone. We are going to see her again tonight so ill keep you updated on the situation."
Quoting Tracy B:" I totally understand you, my MIL is just the same. DO NOT give in, he is your baby and when you feel ... [snip!] ... easily to make you feel guilty, IGNORE it they are only trying to make out they are the victim. STAY STRONG AND GOOD LUCK xx"thanks! yes im so much more assertive than i ever thought i would be, its crazy how much having a baby will change you! my MIL's mother told me "tell her the same thing she told me when she had her own childeren; IM the mother and I decide what is best for my children". haha, at least everyone else is on my side, and im not giving in!
Quoting Miss Ashley +2:" Does your SO say anything? I would let him start handling it. Tell him before you go that if she brings ... [snip!] ... My daughters grandmother was this way too, except she is a state away so was REALLY not okay with it. I hope it works out."he usually stays out of it but i told him about the rude stuff she said to me and he said that if she continues to push it he will have a talk with her.