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Figured Out My BF Cheated On Me!!!!! HELP!!!!! ADVICE?

posted 4th Jul '12
So im due in less than a mostay truenth and I found out yesterday my BF has been having an affair with a girl at his work. He had lied and told me it was his "friend" taking him home everyday and he never wanted me to see him so i got curious as to why he was hiding his "friend" i put an app on his phone to have evrything he texts sent to my email and come to find out he is with another girl. he was with her for ovr a month having sex with her and everything. Now im terrified of what to do i pretty much horassed her with texts and calls and she is very afraid of me and my sister in law i jus dont know what it will take to have my BF to stay true. The birth of his son? im jus so stressed and idk what to do i want to leave but that will have me in the streets what do i do i need help someone no rude comments please!!!
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I live in Texas
posted 4th Jul '12
I think... you went a little crazy. You had no right doing all of that to his phone. And if he did cheat... you had no right to act like a child and harass the girl. HE cheated on YOU, be mad at him -- not her.

And you can't make him stay with you if he doesn't want to. Nor can you stay with someone who cheats, just so you have a place to live. Get on your feet, find family to help you out for a bit.. and you're just gonna have to do this on your own.
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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio
posted 4th Jul '12
Having your baby isn't going to automatically make him this loving faithful guy.
You need to leave, for yourself and your child.
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Chehalis, Washington
posted 4th Jul '12
You leave that fool.
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I have 2 kids & live in Texas
posted 4th Jul '12
You went overboard. You can't keep tabs on people, and you can't harass people for smurf your SO did. It's his fault, not hers.
quotesmurfs?
I have 1 child & live in Golden, Colorado
posted 4th Jul '12
Wow.

So you found out he was cheating on you by sneaking onto his phone and putting a tracker on it, harassed the women until she was afraid of you, and now want to know what to do?

Talk to your SO maturely and calmly. Try to find out where the break in your relationship was. If it's fixable - try to fix it. If it's not - stay civil for the child.

ETA: And apologize to that woman. If I were her there would be a restraining order against you in a heartbeat. It's not her fault - she's not in a relationship. Your man is.
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I have 1 child & live in Washington
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" You went overboard. You can't keep tabs on people, and you can't harass people for smurf your SO did. It's his fault, not hers."
 
quotesmurfs?
I have 2 kids & 3 angel babies & live in California
posted 4th Jul '12
haha I put that same app on m ex husbands phone. Hence why he is my ex. So it would be best he becomes your ex too.
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I have 2 kids & live in Ocala, Florida
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting Thread Killa:" haha I put that same app on m ex husbands phone. Hence why he is my ex. So it would be best he becomes your ex too."

  I could never...  
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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio
posted 4th Jul '12
u so all u kno before u sayy its all his fault she knew i was pregnant she is married and has 2 kids of her own she takes my order at his work being nice to me and then when i found out i texted her phone because i had his and just so yall know its my phone too we share a phone she was calling me names and saying she was going to beat my A** while im pregnant so i think i had every right to do what i did thank u )
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I live in Texas
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting kthx.:"   I could never...  "
I already knew what was going on. The phone was in my name and everything so it technically was MY phone.
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I have 2 kids & live in Ocala, Florida
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting ToriMacias18:" u so all u kno before u sayy its all his fault she knew i was pregnant she is married and has 2 kids ... [snip!] ... me names and saying she was going to beat my A** while im pregnant so i think i had every right to do what i did thank u )"

It's not her responsibility to double check who she sleeps with. She's not the one in a relationship.

Your immaturity is showing.

ETA: So she was in a relationship. Then that's between her and her husband. Your issue is still between you and your boyfriend. Leave her out of it, put on your big girl panties, and figure out if you're committed to fixing this thing and are looking for advice, or if you're here to have women go "smurf that ass hole and kick his ass to the curb." If it's the latter, just do it. If you want genuine advice, stop arguing and listen.
quotesmurfs?
I have 1 child & live in Washington
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting ToriMacias18:" u so all u kno before u sayy its all his fault she knew i was pregnant she is married and has 2 kids ... [snip!] ... me names and saying she was going to beat my A** while im pregnant so i think i had every right to do what i did thank u )"
No, you didn't.
And it is HIS fault. She could have flaunted naked in front of him, but he CHOSE to sleep with her. HIS fault. You can't put the blame on her for smurfing up your relationship, he did it himself.
quotesmurfs?
I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Chehalis, Washington
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting {The Socialist 2.0}:" It's not her responsibility to double check who she sleeps with. She's not the one in a relationship. Your immaturity is showing."
ummm ya she is MARRIED thank u
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I live in Texas
posted 4th Jul '12
Quoting ToriMacias18:" u so all u kno before u sayy its all his fault she knew i was pregnant she is married and has 2 kids ... [snip!] ... me names and saying she was going to beat my A** while im pregnant so i think i had every right to do what i did thank u )"


No... you had no right tracking your SO's messages. At all. Be a grown up and confront him about it. Tell him you're not comfortable with him getting rides home from his friend, etc. Be an ADULT.

In her marriage, it's her fault for stepping out of line. In YOUR relationship, it's his fault. He made the choice to cheat. He wasn't forced to do it.
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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio
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