Ugh.

Don't quote me.

So, BD came home (We're still living together, and I am having our baby in 16 days) and informed me that about a month ago he heard a rumor. He wouldn't tell me who or what was said. But now, because of this rumor, he wants a DNA test.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not against it. If that's what he wants, that's fine by me. I know the answer already, but that's not the point. (Yes, he is the father.)

But holy smurf smurf dropping this on me 16 days before I'm going to pop out this kid. I'm already depressed and unhappy about how this whole ordeal is playing out. Why add more stress now? Why add way more to my plate?

Holy smurf this smurfing hurt to hear him say it. It hurts more than him breaking up with me did. And even then I was 7 months pregnant and that smurfing sucked. But to be accused of something (because regardless of how you look at it, he's accusing me, even if it's only to say that it's a possibility) so big. I mean, that would mean I've been lying to his face on the daily for MONTHS about something so life changing.

I'm so smurfing hurt.

Don't quote me.

If there is absolutely no truth to the rumor I would be hurt too and seriously re think the relationship if theres no trust ? it's your choice if you do the test but id be telling him to go fk a rock if he dont trust you .

Quoting Mez Mez:" If there is absolutely no truth to the rumor I would be hurt too and seriously re think the relationship ... [snip!] ... if theres no trust ? it's your choice if you do the test but id be telling him to go fk a rock if he dont trust you . "

We haven't been together for like 2 months now.

Quoting ^-^ Rawr.:" We haven't been together for like 2 months now."

oh sorry babe mis read   yea maybe you should so you can get some $ help I dont know if thats how it works in your country ? but yea that would hurt alot

Quoting Mez Mez:" oh sorry babe mis read   yea maybe you should so you can get some $ help"

Like I said, I'm all for it. And if he wants it, we'll do it.

If I was a guy and didn't know 100% I would want a test done too.

But it hurts so freaking much.

My partner wants a DNA test and we've been together for nearly 3 years. I don't mind, cos like you said you know it's his, but I know where you're coming from. I understand that with my partner it is because of his past relationships that he feels this way... He wants to be 100% certain as we're going to court about his daughter (to get a DNA test). Does your ex have any issues like this with previous partners? I mean it may not be something that has just happened but these rumors may have sparked it off and now he may be feeling even more insecure... xXx

Quoting Danielle Herring:" My partner wants a DNA test and we've been together for nearly 3 years. I don't mind, cos like you said ... [snip!] ... something that has just happened but these rumors may have sparked it off and now he may be feeling even more insecure... xXx"

Yeah he's got some baggage from a previous girl, so I am trying to be super understanding, but it's just too freaking hard right now. I'm crying and my heart hurts and I feel like hyperventilating.
Totally doesn't help that he's up in the room, likely asleep by now, and I've already had a panic attack today.

I just want to curl up in a hole and never crawl out of it.

Plus, when I'm upset the baby goes crazy and it hurts SO MUCH MORE.

Grrr.

Wow, what a smurffy situation to be in   Bet when it comes back that its his he will feel like a dick for putting you through that

Quoting milo456:" Wow, what a smurffy situation to be in   Bet when it comes back that its his he will feel like a dick for putting you through that"

I won't lie, there's a big part of me that wants to shove the fact that he's wrong right in his smurfing face.

But that's probably just the hurt and hormones talking more than anything right now.

Quoting ^-^ Rawr + 2:" I won't lie, there's a big part of me that wants to shove the fact that he's wrong right in his smurfing face. But that's probably just the hurt and hormones talking more than anything right now."

I was there for my ex through everything his family business closing his depression and his jobless 6 months. I supported him trying to get all kinds of jobs and supported him and his mother financially bc she blows all her money and he had a pt job. I forgave him for cheating on me and now since bout 4 months he has been on this it can't be mine kick. It sucks and it hurts, but I know its mostly because of his mother and probably because he cheated on me again. I'm doing the dna just to shove it in their faces. I haven't really talked to him in over two months now and yes I cry about it when I think that he would do this to me and not be supportive after everything I supported him through. But things will get better.