Friends with extremely opposite parenting styles

*VENT*

So I went down to a baby shower this weekend with my friend and we have extremely opposite parenting styles. I am not a confrontational type, and I try to be open minded to what works for her, but she knocks everyone down for their choices, and I try not to say I agree with them because I dont want to get harassed. Shes just one of those loud obnoxious people who you just can never win a battle with, so I never say anything when I dont agree with her because its like beating a dead horse. Here's some examples of my pet peeves she talked about this weekend...

"I'm not even going to try to BF. It didnt work with payton, so im just gonna put this baby straight on formula. It's just not worth it".

We picked up the kids from a sitter and she threw her daughter in her car seat and didnt buckle her saying, "Oh well, we're only going a couple of miles down the road, she'll be fine".

"I only watched my one friends son 1 time because all he did was cry the whole time he was with me, and then as soon as he saw his mom when we dropped him off he went running up to her crying and she picked him up and he stopped. I'm sorry but i'm not going to hold a 2 yr old just to make him stop crying". (seriously? he just left his mom, and you are basically like a stranger to him, pick up the kid until he adjusts to the change".

"I will just put the new baby in paytons room. She'll probably wake up and help with the baby all night" (REALLY?!?! you're going to let a newborn wake up your 6 yr old all night when she has school and smurf? you cant just have them in your room?)

Plus she always stresses crib sleeping to everyone, when I am a big co-sleeper, and I just never say anything because she'll just bash my choices. She also is not a big fan of BFing (obviously) and I believe in self weaning, and she always makes comments to our pregnant friends who are planning on bfing suggesting they have formula around because it's so nice to just hand off the baby and make the dad feed them. She's just such a lazy parent, and it drives me nuts. When we picked up the girls from the sitter she was like "ugh I dont even want to carry her, my back is hurting so bad, and shes getting too heavy (she weighs way less than my DD and I carry her fine). This is what daddys are for, i just cant keep doing this". I dont know if she wanted me to have sympathy for her and carry her for her, or what, but it was so annoying.

End of vent. Thanks if you listened this long.

She sounds lazy.

Quoting lolajessup:" *VENT* So I went down to a baby shower this weekend with my friend and we have extremely opposite parenting ... [snip!] ... have sympathy for her and carry her for her, or what, but it was so annoying. End of vent. Thanks if you listened this long."

That's annoying.
I'm not gonna lie, I decided not to BF but (if I had another child) I would never leave them to take care of a newborn baby in the middle of the night. That's ridiculous.

I'm all for everyone having their own opinions and ways of doing things, but that smurf would annoy me. She should be worried about her own parenting style instead of everyone else's.

Quoting .Me.:" She sounds lazy."

VERY! it drives me the hell nuts everythime im with her.

I have my so carry my daughter in her car seat and up and down stairs bc we cant afford glasses at this time and i cannot see. ive tripped with her b4 shook me up lol. i cosleep and ebf. my lo is 6.5 months. i think its bullsmurf she wants her 6 year old to care for her infant. she didnt make the baby.

Well I don't agree with her not strapping her in the carseat or the baby in her older childs room but I guess I don't see how the rest is so terribly annoying. I don't like carrying my kids everywhere and often tell them no when they cry at me about it. I'd also honestly be super annoyed if I watched another 2 year old and he did nothing but cry because I didn't hold him. And I feel breastfeeding is a personal choice so who cares really? She's planning on feeding the baby so what's the issue?

Maybe I just didn't get your examples but it seemed more like she was just really open with her opinions rather then bashing you or anyone else. IDK I'm not in the situation but to me it seems like you are taking offense when it's not really necessary. Just from the OP.

Quoting lolajessup:" VERY! it drives me the hell nuts everythime im with her."

I've dealt with those kinds. i keep my opinion to myself unless they whine to me and ask me for advice. most of the time they still dont listen but at least I tried.

Quoting ღ my ☼:" That's annoying. I'm not gonna lie, I decided not to BF but (if I had another child) I would never leave them to take care of a newborn baby in the middle of the night. That's ridiculous."

I know people decide not to BF. and like I said I dont judge others for their choices, but its just her attitude about it that bugs me, and it sounds like shes doing because shes just to lazy to do it.

Yeah, IDK why you would put a newborn in a 6 yr olds bedroom. Theyre never gonna get enough sleep. At least put them in a pack n play in your room until they sleep through the night for petes sake.

You drove down the road with the child not buckled in?  

May I ask why you're even friends with this person? You obviously think so poorly of her.. So...

Quoting Discombobulated♥:" I'm all for everyone having their own opinions and ways of doing things, but that smurf would annoy me. She should be worried about her own parenting style instead of everyone else's."

yeah for sure, she's always dissing how everyone one else does things.

Quoting lolajessup:" I know people decide not to BF. and like I said I dont judge others for their choices, but its just ... [snip!] ... gonna get enough sleep. At least put them in a pack n play in your room until they sleep through the night for petes sake."

Or maybe she just doesn't want to breastfeed since she had a hard time with her older child. Formula feeding is an option, not a last resort. It's a choice for many people.

Quoting 3 little monsters:" Well I don't agree with her not strapping her in the carseat or the baby in her older childs room but ... [snip!] ... IDK I'm not in the situation but to me it seems like you are taking offense when it's not really necessary. Just from the OP. "

idk, I think 2 days straight with her is just too much. She just starts to get really annoying. I raise my child completely opposite of her, and I dont feel like I can ever say anything to her because she will just attack me, and I am not confrontational.

Quoting .Me.:" I've dealt with those kinds. i keep my opinion to myself unless they whine to me and ask me for advice. most of the time they still dont listen but at least I tried."

yeah thats what I try to do. But its so hard for me to bite my tongue. Oh did I mention she is always trying to parent my child? That pisses me off more. I just want to say "Leave my kid the smurf alone".

Quoting lolajessup:" idk, I think 2 days straight with her is just too much. She just starts to get really annoying. I raise ... [snip!] ... of her, and I dont feel like I can ever say anything to her because she will just attack me, and I am not confrontational."

I get that, I really do. But I think that you are offended just because she's vocal about her opinions and not because she's attacking your choices specifically. You are probably just tired of hearing them. I'd just find a good excuse to go home and not be around her for awhile.