re: Should there be a limit?

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I cant say its irresponsible but possibly inconsiderate of the other children. I understand one person ... [snip!] ... may need help with serious issue and end up feeling like one of their siblings is more of a parent then their actual parent.”

I guess because I actually know a family who had a lot of kids (15, 16 kids) I don't see that.

Quoting Leeeendaaaahhhh:“   I have those. Does it help that they have kick ass personalized pictures with really cool fun ... [snip!] ... is a Dinosaur Routine, one is Space, one is Skateboarding, one is a dragons....I even have a routine for my toddler....haha....”

Hey! Thats how some people work! Im always a fly by the seat of my pants kinda gal myself lolIt is cute and they all are very well behaved, it just makes me sad seeing the kids taking care of the kids=( Me personally? I dont rely on anyone else but myself to take care of my child, but then again I only have one and have no IDEA what its like to have 17 kids lol

Quoting Giner Weiners:“ I guess because I actually know a family who had a lot of kids (15, 16 kids) I don't see that.”

I do to. My BIL alone has 10 kids and they want more and are trying for more. They can support them financially but I see a lot of emotional support gets lacks with more kids. The older kids tend to be forced to watch the younger ones. There is one family back home that has 19 kids that has truely made the older ones reliant on each other.

Quoting OhBaby!1974:“ Overpopulation”

Some people have 1 kid, others have 18. I think more people have 1 or 2 than the families who have 20   So it evens out.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I do to. My BIL alone has 10 kids and they want more and are trying for more. They can support them ... [snip!] ... the younger ones. There is one family back home that has 19 kids that has truely made the older ones reliant on each other.”

I don't see anything wrong with siblings being close that way. It doesn't mean that the parents aren't involved at all, sometimes you'd much rather talk to a sibling than your mom or dad.

Quoting Giner Weiners:“ I don't see anything wrong with siblings being close that way. It doesn't mean that the parents aren't involved at all, sometimes you'd much rather talk to a sibling than your mom or dad.”

What is wrong with it is because they are "forced" to do that because their parents dont have physical time for all of them to sit and talk out problems.

Quoting Giner Weiners:“ Some people have 1 kid, others have 18. I think more people have 1 or 2 than the families who have 20   So it evens out.”

Maybe in the US, but not in the world. There are a lot of overpopulated countries who simply don't have/use/know aboutbirth control. We do know and to still do that (have that many kids) makes no sense to me. Unless, of course, you live on a farm. Now that actually makes sense. We have a huge population problem in this world exhausting our resouces and having 18 kids just because you can or want to seems irresponsible to me.

I also agree with Cowgirl's posts on the sheer amount of time you can spend emotionally with each child.

Quoting OhBaby!1974:“ Maybe in the US, but not in the world. There are a lot of overpopulated countries who simply don't ... [snip!] ... to me. I also agree with Cowgirl's posts on the sheer amount of time you can spend emotionally with each child.”

I don't agree with birth control and unless I have some medical reason to be on it, I won't be taking it. So if I have 20 kids it was meant to be.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ What is wrong with it is because they are "forced" to do that because their parents dont have physical time for all of them to sit and talk out problems.”

Maybe in some families, but I don't think that happens in every single family with a lot of kids. I'm sure the parents make time to talk if any of their 100 kids needs to.

Quoting Giner Weiners:“ Maybe in some families, but I don't think that happens in every single family with a lot of kids. I'm sure the parents make time to talk if any of their 100 kids needs to.”

...the point being though.... it shouldn't just be when the child 'needs' support.(IMO) It's always needed, and shouldn't have to be scheduled.

this is an awesome debate! Everyone keeps making such good points and Im just like "YEA! thats a good one! im on your side now" then someone else makes a good point and its like "alright, well Im on your side now!" hahaha

Quoting AngMC:“ ...the point being though.... it shouldn't just be when the child 'needs' support.(IMO) It's always needed, and shouldn't have to be scheduled. ”

My point is that the parents probably talk to their kids all the time. I've never seen the show but don't they have every meal together as a family? Great time to talk. Tucking the kids into bed at night? Great time to talk. I'm sure if one of the kids came up at an "unscheduled time" with a problem, the mom wouldn't shoo them away.

Quoting Giner Weiners:“ Maybe in some families, but I don't think that happens in every single family with a lot of kids. I'm sure the parents make time to talk if any of their 100 kids needs to.”

Put it this way. You spend a hour with each kid a day talking thats 18 hours in their case total. Consider how much of that time has to be spent doing things around the house or shopping or changing dirty diapers and making bottles plus meals and homeschooling. Few if any of those talks would be private in any way so they are forced to tell everyone their porblems because they cant get a quiet moment alone with you. Either you put all your house stuff and their siblings off on the kids to do or you arent spending quality time with each kid.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Put it this way. You spend a hour with each kid a day talking thats 18 hours in their case total. Consider ... [snip!] ... Either you put all your house stuff and their siblings off on the kids to do or you arent spending qulaity time with each kid.”

So you fold laundry while you talk to one kid, or make breakfast while you're talking to another. I'll bet if you would ask any of them, they wouldn't say that they don't get quality time with their parents.

I'm sure they do spend a lot of time together as a family.... which is great! But with all the contact w/ everyone else 24/7do you really think they're all able to fully develop their own personalities?