Advice? Long.

My sister is 17. She has a baby who is 8 months old. I love them both very much. When she was pregnant she use to always talk about things other young moms did. Like partying and such.
She was perfect for a while. Well, as well as would be expected for a teen mom. She always took care of her son. She never wanted any help! She wouldn't even be away from him for more than 20 minutes and would be calling to check on him. I remember once when she cried because she had been away from him for a little over an hour.
Her and the BD broke up the beginning of April. They tried working on things and it just wasn't for the best. She is now in her second relationship since they broke up! She really "cares" about this guy and blah, blah, blah. Honestly he is a guy and he is very good with the baby. He's a few years older so he's a little more mature.
Anyways, the point of this post.
I am 6.5 months pregnant. I always have the baby. He sleeps with me at night, I get up with him in the mornings, 90% of the time. She is usually getting ready for work, but is off at 2 everyday except for one day were she works until 4. She is always late coming home because for one she makes sure to pick up her boyfriend first. If they go somewhere and I have the baby I have to call over and over just to get her to answer the phone. I do everything for him even when she is around, 90% of the time.
She is a great mom in the since that she provides everything that he needs. He never goes without. She won't even buy something for herself unless she finds him something too. And that's great! I just wish she understood how much she has changed and how much he needs her in more ways then that.
I was just wondering if any of you could offer nice ways to talk to her about it. Like if it was you're sister how would you explain to her without hurting her feelings? I understand that she is young and please no rude comments. I just want advice that will help not hurt her.

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I don't get how it went from her having him all the time to you having him   Like... Even sleeping with him at night. Where the smurf is she ? Wtf

Explain to her that while she may provide financially, she isn't giving him everything because she's not there.
She won't be able to get the precious time back.

Why are you sleeping with him?

She's here at night, but so is her boyfriend! :/ She only has a twin bed. She is trying to save the money to get him his own bed so she can teach him to sleep alone. Something happened to his bed when they moved. Idk exactly, but it's broke. I have a queen bed and its just me. But I didn't think it was far for me to have to trade beds with her when it's her problem that the three of them can't fit in hers. So that's why he sleeps with me.
I also don't understand how she always had him and now I do. Something about her changed when her and BD split.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zoey Nire's Mommy:</b>" She's here at night, but so is her boyfriend! :/ She only has a twin bed. She is trying to save the money ... [snip!] ... with me. I also don't understand how she always had him and now I do. Something about her changed when her and BD split."</blockquote>

Why does he need to stay the night?
They've only been together for a few months, correct?

Well I'd tell her to put the baby in her bed and sleep on the floor with her bf if she has to. That's so selfish though.

Correct! But she thinks because she has a baby and pays half the bills that she is grown. I have once or twice told her that I don't want to sleep with him, but afterwards I feel bad and go get him. I feel like even though its not my place, I shouldn't take it out on him. I'm to nice I guess. He's just innocent and loves me so much. It's hard to tell her no.

So she is choosing a boy over her son... Wow. Does he have a job ? They should be able to afford a toddler bed... they aren't that expensive

Quoting £ex Zeppelin:" So she is choosing a boy over her son... Wow. Does he have a job ? They should be able to afford a toddler bed... they aren't that expensive"

He just got lad off and she is a waitress. The BD gives her 50 dollars a week and throws a complete fit if she ask for a dollar more!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zoey Nire's Mommy:</b>" He just got lad off and she is a waitress. The BD gives her 50 dollars a week and throws a complete fit if she ask for a dollar more!"</blockquote>




They sell the frames at babies r us for like 25$. Idk about mattresses though. She should take BD to court for CS

Quoting £ex Zeppelin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zoey Nire's Mommy:</b>" He just got lad off and she is a waitress. ... [snip!] ... They sell the frames at babies r us for like 25$. Idk about mattresses though. She should take BD to court for CS"

She is working on that now. She had to get them taking off his food stamps and stuff first because with her still being a minor it made things look as if he had custody of them both.

Are the two of you really close? If so, talk to her about her behavior. You don't have to be mean about it. Just explain to her that you are concrened. Explain to her the reasons why. Ask her how she would feel if you did the same to her. Let her tell you how she feels about the situation and about her recent breakup.