Quoting Arjaye:" Mensioning the picture might help, everyone deals with loss in their own way. Our first misscarriage ... [snip!] ... Our first misscarriage was the hardest for both of us as neither of us has any children. Sounds like he is bottling it all up."He is. I know it. I think what it is when he was growing up his mom taught him not to be a sissy and that showing emotion was him being one. His mom screwed him up big time. Now he's hard as stone and while i know he cares and has feelings he just doesn't show them because he doesn't want to get hurt and he doesn't want to appear weak. She even tried getting him to realize that us having a miscarriage was a good thing. She told him it was a sign that he needs to leave now before I got pregnant again and he was stuck. It was his second chance to get his life right.
Quoting **§~~emily~~§**:" Mine still tears up about ours.. but I'm not really sure how to give you advice.. he is very open.. maybe ... [snip!] ... open.. maybe write him a letter about how you feel and felt that day , for some reason to me letters are always more powerful."I've done that before as well as come out and tell him how it makes me feel. We talk about that day some times or we just talk about DJ in a conversation. At first he wouldn't even mention DJ's name but he does sometimes now. At least that is good. I guess it's his way of healing. Being able to mention his son's name. It's just taking him longer than it took me. But that's because the only person he has to talk about it with is me and I think he doesn't want to talk about it with me is because he doesn't want to see me cry. Every time we talk about DJ I end up tearing up. I really think what is bothering him now is that we aren't pregnant again yet. I know he wants a baby. But like I told him he's only 21 he's got plenty of time.