How can a grown ass woman be so disrespectful?

I have an older half sister, 30 years old, unmarried...She lives the party life. Her life has always revolved around her friends. She would ditch her family, to kick it with her friends. All of her friends use her...For rides, money, etc. She would take from her family to give it to her friends. It's always been that way.

She thinks she's black, like her friends. Every time I see her, she is always saying something about "this smurf this, this smurf that..." She thinks she is a "bad bitch.." and...She's 30 years old.

She moved away....to live with one of her friends that was using her as a babysitter. Her friend kicked her out...My mom drove ALL THE WAY to get her, brought her back here..Talked my grandma (not even my sisters real grandma) into letting her stay with her. My mom got her a job with her, helped her get a car, and did whatever she could to get her on her feet. My sister almost lost her job (at a catholic monastery) because she couldn't not smoke weed (knowing there would be drug tests..) My mother has bailed her out of jail more than once, loaned her large amounts of money, and has done everything she could for my sister.

Every time my sister is around my mother...All I can hear is my sister running her mouth. Cussing my mom out, screaming, and so on and so forth. Today was my nephews 5th birthday party....She showed up and not even 20 seconds after she walked through the door...She was screaming at my mom and calling her "smurfing crazy.." in front of my nephew. Why? Because she thought my mom told her the party was at 1 and it was really at 2. She was pissed because she had to leave her friends house earlier just to show her face at my nephews party. The whole time she was there....Her mouth was going nonstop.

My sister passed away last year and my mom is still torn up about it. We all are, except my oldest sister. My oldest sister told my mom to stop posting stupid smurf about how she misses her and loves her on my dead sisters memorial page because SHE didn't want to read it...

I just don't understand how a grown ass woman can sit and talk to her mother like a dog, in front of everyone. I don't understand how one person can be so selfish.

Sorry it's s so long. I needed to vent. I kept my mouth shut all day and couldn't hold it in any longer.

Sounds like she needs a good old fashion ass kicking.

Quoting MommyOf2Monkey's:" Sounds like she needs a good old fashion ass kicking."

I know, right? If my child ever talks to me the way she talks to my mom, she/he is gonna get a slap to the face. Or two or three.

i think if my grown ass child treated me that way, i'd kick her teeth out of her mouth.

damn.

i'm sorry for your poor momma:-(

Quoting MommyOf2Monkey's:" Sounds like she needs a good old fashion ass kicking."

This!! BD is the same way though so yeap I feel ya on this oone.

Well, it sounds like your mother has coddled the smurf out of her so therefore she doesn't respect her. Honestly, none of this is your business anyway.

Quoting K.MarieAnnette:" i think if my grown ass child treated me that way, i'd kick her teeth out of her mouth. damn. i'm sorry for your poor momma:-("

this!!! lol

I'm not trying to cross any boundaries, but your mother is enabling your sister's behavior by always babying her and giving her things. She is thirty years old and has the means to provide for herself! I know it's hard cause that's her daughter, but maybe you should talk to your mom about distancing herself.

Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Well, it sounds like your mother has coddled the smurf out of her so therefore she doesn't respect her. Honestly, none of this is your business anyway."

It is my business how my mother is being treated.

Quoting Young♥:" I know, right? If my child ever talks to me the way she talks to my mom, she/he is gonna get a slap to the face. Or two or three."

I don't even think I could controll myself. It'd be an instant slapping reaction.

Your Mom should kick her out and let her fall on her ass. She sounds alot like my Mom and the more you help her the worse it gets. My Mom is 41 and is just now able to finally support herself.

Quoting Young♥:" It is my business how my mother is being treated."

No, not really. It's your mom's business. Your mom allows her to do it. She enables her.

Quoting O ♥ G:" I'm not trying to cross any boundaries, but your mother is enabling your sister's behavior by always ... [snip!] ... for herself! I know it's hard cause that's her daughter, but maybe you should talk to your mom about distancing herself."

The thing is...My mom is like that with all of us. She helps us when we're in need. She's not going to up and cook us food every day, bring us a gallon of milk when we're out, or baby us in that sense. She gets in our asses when we get ourselves in smurffy situations, but she still tries to do what she can to help us back up. Like mothers do.

But my mom feels guilty because she distanced herself from my sister that passed away for similar reasons. She doesn't wanna make the same mistake again, ya know? But my dad has told her that she needs to "lower the boom" (as he says..) She knows she does and she will wind up doing so. It NEEDS to be done.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" No, not really. It's your mom's business. Your mom allows her to do it. She enables her."</blockquote>

So you would just stand by and let someone treat a family member like that? Even if it is another family member? Glad we're not related  

OP I know how you feel, the whole time I read this I was thinking of my sister the entire time (she is only 18 but it's been going on for years and it's horrible!) my sister and I have gotten into SO many fights because I want to just bash her teeth in (as cruel as that sounds) but my mom won't even let me say anything to her. The best you can to is try and convince your mom that it's best to stand up to your sister and stop giving her crap.

Quoting Carol Woldring:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" No, not really. It's your mom's ... [snip!] ... to her. The best you can to is try and convince your mom that it's best to stand up to your sister and stop giving her crap."

I'd tell my mom that she only acts like that because she allows her to, and then I'd stay out of it. If she doesn't have the ovaries to deal with her own child then why should I get invovled?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carol Woldring:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" No, not really. It's your mom's ... [snip!] ... to her. The best you can to is try and convince your mom that it's best to stand up to your sister and stop giving her crap."</blockquote>



Oh. I know. My mom knows what needs to be done. She doesn't give into her, as far as money or stuff like that anymore. But they work at the same place and my sister literally finds her to sit and bitch at her. Which is nuts because my mom is the mother of all bitchers. She keeps her mouth shut to avoid fighting with her at work.

She's my own sister and I choose not to be around her. She calls my husband to borrow money all the time and he tells her no. She even came into our room and took our change we were saving...so today, I didn't say a word to her and avoided her at all costs.