Being the bad person in your family's eye

The worst thing is, when your own family is against you and takes your baby's father's side. Technically we're still together, as in I'm still living with him because I have no where else to go for now, and I don't want to move my baby where I can't take care of him financially. Though I've been looking for jobs for 3 months straight :\ .But baby's dad and I have been having a lot of problems regardless of how to fix it. It's just gotten to the point where there's too much and too big that we can't. But anyways, I don't go telling anyone of our problems, because I believe it's between me and him. I might say one thing or two to my sister or friend (and I mean like, he does this, BUT it isn't why we're in trouble). But lately he has been saying things to my mom and one sister (since the other sister doesn't like him to begin with) about me and making him seem like he's an angel and a victim. My family is the only thing closest to me, since friends come and go and I don't have a "best friend". So I think he's using them against me. And I wish I could tell my family all the smurf he's done and does, but that's not the type of person I am. So yes, I'm the bad guy to my own family.

Oh I understand. My family blamed me for my BD breaking up with me -- I'm "just so hard to love".   and this is because when he came around my family he appeared to be an angel and I never smurf talked him.

:\ Yea it sucks. I don't even go to his family and say anything about him. I could if I wanted to be a bitch and cause drama, but it isn't me and I really don't want to. It will make me feel like I'm really the bad guy then! But no, he's up in their faces talking about me. I have my mom and sister asking me why I'm like this and that, and why I don't do this and that.. and I know it all came from him. He even texts my sister more than me!!

Speak to him and ask him to stop. My BD use to do the same thing with everyone in sight and I had to sit him down and let him know that our personal business and drama should remain OURS.

Sometimes men just dont have a clue -- but when they gossip they cause so much damage.