re: if it's for the best why am I dreadfully miserable?

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" U have several more months to make ''logical'' choices and prepare yourself by researching all your ... [snip!] ... school & votech, while holding down a job and caring for my baby.....was it easy???? NO Was it worth it???? You betcha  "

I'm scared how hard it will be... But I have tried looking into what's available... But it made things like I feel limited given the location. But something just came to mind...

Just because you have an abortion does not mean you will not get a chance to be a mom and just because you have a child does not mean you will not be able to follow your dreams and become a lawyer. It will just make it alot more difficult. You seem like a smart girl. Trust yourself to make the right decision for you and only you. And whatever decision you make, know that you thought it out with your whole heart and your brain. No regrets!

Quoting sueforizzle:" Hey now hun, I'm in college.   As I said it's your choice. I share the same opinion as the other ... [snip!] ... right. It haunts me...not because having an abortion is "wrong" or w/e, but because I PERSONALLY did not want to have them. "

yea that's a part of my issue I don't think I'll feel at peace with one... afterwards... I'll be stuck on what could have been... and not what is... like its an unwanted choice but i wonder if it has to be done to be as successful as want to be....

Quoting RonniG:" Just because you have an abortion does not mean you will not get a chance to be a mom and just because ... [snip!] ... and only you. And whatever decision you make, know that you thought it out with your whole heart and your brain. No regrets!"

I know sometimes I think it's for another time. That I can have another baby later on... That helps. I'm still not happy about it maybe when it's over I can be positive with life the future I do have...

<blockquote><b>Quoting preggoteenconfusion:</b>" I'm miserable with abortion adoption and parenting. I just want to be happy I'm pregnant but people try ... [snip!] ... I make this out of logic knowing I'm terribly sad about it... Why do people have to make life miserable? Why can't I be happy?"</blockquote>




I had my son 3 days before I turned 16. I finished high school at 17 and worked. And when I was 19 I went to college. My son is now 10 and I love him way to much to have regrets.. people always use to ask me if I wish I would of waited and I say no because then I wouldn't have him. Having a baby so young is not ideal but possible and some times harder for others. Either way good luck and do what you feel is best for you.

Quoting preggoteenconfusion:" yea that's a part of my issue I don't think I'll feel at peace with one... afterwards... I'll be ... [snip!] ... been... and not what is... like its an unwanted choice but i wonder if it has to be done to be as successful as want to be...."

Making a decision that u dont really want to do can disable your plans of a successful future faster than having a baby does sometimes.I personnally know several women(i met at a therapy group) that have terminated pregnancy that they wanted because everyone coersed them that they could be a good mom and they couldnt have a good future......Even though each case is alittle different , the out come was basically the same....depression and guilt that led to either drug use, night terrors, ptsd, hospitalization, or a multiple of these things.
If u arent strong enough to overcoming your longing to have this child....dont u think it would be easier on u to obtain your goals while raising a baby then trying to live w/ a decision u didnt want to make????

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" Making a decision that u dont really want to do can disable your plans of a successful future faster ... [snip!] ... it would be easier on u to obtain your goals while raising a baby then trying to live w/ a decision u didnt want to make????"

i dont feel im being coerced just more aware of how bad the situation is... i dont feel strong enough to emotionally overcome this longing to be a mom.. you're right im weak with that. but maybe i can find a way to be ok with it eventually... i do feel like ill never get to meet this baby that makes me sad but maybe its not meant to be idk. today i have become more at a comfortable level to do an abortion i guess in 20 years when i have kids at a right time maybe ill think it was worth it. now it doesnt seem so its so hard to care more about the future than now though....