uappreciated!

SO how exactly do you deal with a highly ungreatful husband??


Me and my hubby hve been together for the better of 5 years and married for almost 1 and everything between us was PREFECT until we had our son...now he just doesnt appreciate anything i do... i mean yes he goes to work anmd makes the money but my job never ends! ill ask him to help me out with something when he is home and he will get pissed and when i tell him it wont ill him to do it once i do it 24/7 hebrings up the fact that i am not working but before our son was even born he said he didnt want me to work he would rather me stay home and take care of our son! so i quit my job......and now he hounds me about it all the time!!! Granted i do not bring home a pay check but my job is 1000000x's harder than his i mean ll he does all day is stand around and yell at inmate how hard is that???

I have thought about ways to makwe him appreciate what i do more but have come up empty handed leaving him with the baby while i have a me day is pointless because his mommy will just end up taking care of him!! NE ideas?? if you had similar problems how did you get your hbby to appreciate all the work you REALLY DO DO??

use reverse psychology on him!! tell him that you really appreciate how he takes care of yall.. blahblahblahblah and that you're proud of him.. blahblah. Then, he will be more willing to tell you that he appreciates you.

Men never understand how hard it is to stay home all day with a baby. Leave the baby with home one day while you go shopping or somehting, and ask him to cook dinner. His opinion that staying home will likely change.

Wow a radio station was talking about Mothers day and how mothers are unappreciated, yet they do soooo much more than people with jobs. They tried to figure out how much a mother should make and it was like 800,000 dollars. Because your a chef, a nutritionalist, a maid, a chaffeur, a doctor, and a million other things...

Sorry had nothing really to do with your post... but I found that really interesting and very true

Quoting AveryElizabethsMommy:“ use reverse psychology on him!! tell him that you really appreciate how he takes care of yall.. blahblahblahblah ... [snip!] ... home one day while you go shopping or somehting, and ask him to cook dinner. His opinion that staying home will likely change.”

Ive tried the reverse psychology on him and it doesnt work he just nods and says ahh huh and about leaving him home...we are staying at his parents waiting for our haouse to be done so that wont help cuz his mom would end up taking care of the baby not to mention she would yell at me for leaving without my son and husband!

Read the ENTIREpost before you get ticked at me... LOL Cause believe me, I am totally on your side...

I know its hard to put up with, but maybe you could just pull on the big girl panties and suck it up for awhile while you are staying at your in-laws until your house is finished.

Then once you move, take that day to yourself or ask him to go to the grocery store with the baby cause you forgot something and need to get into the shower or something. Once my hubby had been home with the baby when she was on a fussy streak and once he had to take her to the store (where I called him a million times to get something else) he started being A LOT more appreciative and helpful.

I also found out that having him help with the baby so that I can do something for him has really helped. For instance, I ask him to feed Kelly so I can make HIS dinner. Or if he could change her for me so that I can wash his work clothes. My favorite one is asking him to watch her while I run to the store so that I can get back quicker and he can play his XBox 360 that much sooner... (and of course I NEVER hurry or get back quicker - LOL)

Now he does pitch in more often on his own with out me having to ask. I do wish it were more often, but it's progress and I am not about to complain cause I'm afraid he might quit what he is already doing and Lord knows I can use all the help I can get.  

I would try having him take on your motherly duties for a few days. Tell him that for mothers day, or some other special occasion that your going to leave your son with him and go have sometime to yourself. Leave them alone together and turn off your cell phone (if you think he can do it on his own) so he knows he's doing this all alone. We'll see if he's so unapriciative (sp?) after that. Sorry thats a little long, but I think it might work. LOL

Quoting ♥Stacey♥:“ Ive tried the reverse psychology on him and it doesnt work he just nods and says ahh huh and about leaving ... [snip!] ... cuz his mom would end up taking care of the baby not to mention she would yell at me for leaving without my son and husband!”

Wow your situation is EXACTLY like mine.. except we're staying at MY parents waiting for our apartment to be finished.. sorry, no advicebecause I'm in the same situation...

I know how you feel when you say that you feel so unpreciated and what sucks the most is that I do work full time. He still expects me to take care of the baby, cook, cook, clean , and do laundry. If I dont do something he drops hints of how it would be nice it he ate a home made meal. I mean come on you get off work way earlier than me and still expect me to do all these things while he sits watching tv or playing online poker. I think that not fair at all, then still has the nerve to get mad if I tell him he doesnt do anything around the house to help me. Sorry I just realized I was venting.

I guess I am not help.

lol it fine i just dont get it...not only did we go trough a huge emotional roller coaster for 9 months the give them their children.... but we have to raise them alone too i mean its rediculas n to top it off my hubby VOLANTEERED[SP?] to go in at 6am mothers day and work a double so he wont be home til 11pm so ill be home alone with just my lil man.....my hubby is a jerk!!

Quoting ♥Stacey♥:“ lol it fine i just dont get it...not only did we go trough a huge emotional roller coaster for 9 months ... [snip!] ... mothers day and work a double so he wont be home til 11pm so ill be home alone with just my lil man.....my hubby is a jerk!!”

So sorry hun... if my hubby did that to me, I would immediately inform him he is on the verge of being replaced. On one hand, I can understand working extra hours to make extra money (hell we are trying to buy a house this summer) but on the other hand, why couldnt he have volunteered to work the OT on SATURDAY. And if he is doing it on Sunday just so he doesnt have to take care of the mother of his child, one thing comes to mind... Beyonce's song - Irreplacable! LOL (Heard that today after seeing and replying to your post the first time)

Quoting ♥Stacey♥:“ SO how exactly do you deal with a highly ungreatful husband?? Me and my hubby hve been together ... [snip!] ... care of him!! NE ideas?? if you had similar problems how did you get your hbby to appreciate all the work you REALLY DO DO??”

All he does it stand around and yell at inmates? Is he a Correctional Officer? If so, I was a Correctional Officer 2 yrs ago for a short time and it isn't just standing around yelling at inmates. It's an extremely dangerous job and there is alot of hard work involved in it. Give him some credit, damn....