abortion clinc issue needing advice please

sorry I asked this in the wrong section I just wanted to ask your opinion. So I finally made an appointment to get an abortion I did at a certain clinic I like. Well more than the others. I'm in a delicate emotional situation. I don't need it to be any harder of a decision for me. But I told them I was around 4 to 5 weeks and they only did them at 6 weeks at the least... So I'm set for next friday... I don't think I can hold long enough that I'll easily change my mind. I've been seemingly changing. At heart I want love and adore the child I have and hold him or her in my arms and be amom. But logically I know my future would be better if I did this. But it's just that emotionally I don't think I'll hold on long enough... I'll easily say I'll parent. My mom made an appointment at another clinic they have bad reviews but they do a surgical procedure at 5 weeks. So I am set to go in their tomorrow. And the bad part is idk if I can handle it if they're a bad clinic. But I think it would help me that I wouldn't bond over the week it is just tomorrow morning and over. It seems like a relief but I'm scared of what the clinic will be like... I don't want to wait though... I don't trust myself... And I don't want a bad experience along with something like this... Advice from women who've btdt?

Never been through this situation.. What do you mean by bad reviews on a clinic?

I posted in your other thread but thought I would repost here. Feel free to Pm me and ask me anything you want.

I had an abortion scheduled one day, went and walked out. I couldnt do it, I wasnt ready. Scheduled another appointment for a week away and was able to go through with it. I had time to mentally prepare and as weird as it might sound, spend time with my baby. I got to explain to my baby that it wasnt that I didnt love them, it was bad timing and that I wasnt going to be a good mommy (I was 15). I felt at peace when I was in the clinic, kinda like my baby understood.
Waiting isnt always a bad thing. Dont go somewhere you wont feel safe. Its a hard enough experience to go through as it is. Your mom probably feels like if you wait that she might be the one to change her mind. Years later my mom finally admitted that she was afraid she would change her mind and thats why she pushed me into it so much.
Best of luck.

Quoting preggoteenconfusion:" sorry I asked this in the wrong section I just wanted to ask your opinion. So I finally made an appointment ... [snip!] ... I don't trust myself... And I don't want a bad experience along with something like this... Advice from women who've btdt?"

This was a bit confusing to read! Anyways, are you getting an abortion because that's what you want to do or because that's what someone advised you to do?

What do you mean by bad clinic? Like, rude staff, or botched abortions?

DON'T go anywhere that you don't feel comfortable, especially for something as sensitive as that. The place that I went to, I felt like we were treated like cattle. herded from one room to the other. Its hard enough to do, don't add extra stress on yourself.

Quoting Nicholl Rowe:" DON'T go anywhere that you don't feel comfortable, especially for something as sensitive as that. The ... [snip!] ... like we were treated like cattle. herded from one room to the other. Its hard enough to do, don't add extra stress on yourself."

yea I heard the staff was rude and the description was like being hearded like cattle....

Quoting *MamaDobbs*:" I posted in your other thread but thought I would repost here. Feel free to Pm me and ask me anything ... [snip!] ... mom finally admitted that she was afraid she would change her mind and thats why she pushed me into it so much. Best of luck."

I'm sorry you had to be in that situation

I feel like my mom is kind of just worried I'll change my mind... That's why she's upset with me. I know I can't take it back if I get there anyway because we'd have driven 2 hours for nothing...
For me I kind of feel like it's too much of a risk to go tomorrow I mean it'll be an extreme risk... But it's a lot to think I'll not change my mind in a week's time maybe I'll become stronger in my belief of going through with it. I guess I'll see how I am between today and tomorrow and all... Plus maybe I could go to counseling before so I'm sure...

well I convinced my mom to wait a week...

<blockquote><b>Quoting preggoteenconfusion:</b>" well I convinced my mom to wait a week..."</blockquote>




That's good.
If you want to go through with it then its best to wait until YOU are ready to do so.

Good luck with everything

Quoting preggoteenconfusion:" I'm sorry you had to be in that situation I feel like my mom is kind of just worried I'll change ... [snip!] ... it. I guess I'll see how I am between today and tomorrow and all... Plus maybe I could go to counseling before so I'm sure..."

Honestly, its alright. Im at peace. I did what was best for me. Im glad your standing up for yourself. The situation is hard enough as it is so its good your doing what you feel is best. I hope everything turns out for you.