My mother is DRIVING ME NUTS!!!

Ok so i know this is the first grand baby she is ACTUALLY allowed to be part of my brother and my sister in law lived 5 states away and we rarely see my nieces... but she's driving me crazy. I was told due to my endometriosis i wouldn't get pregnant without help..i'm 29 and pregnant with my second child ( my first one i lost at 9 weeks). I'm currently 26 weeks.. and she is buying a carseat and stuff and talking about how she's taking her baby whenever she wants ... i'm sorry to tell her tho she's not... i'm going to be frank i'm going to be completely selfish and keep him home with me and his daddy.. and enjoy it... I'm breastfeeding exclusively i do not want to pump and do bottles UNLESS I ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO which means.... she can't take him without me but she just doesnt get it.. ok sorry had to vent

Have you told her all this?

I understand the frustration. My MIL *thought* she would do all of this with my now 3 yo (though she was not buying us stuff lol), but she didn't, we didn't let her. She was able to visit and babysit whenever she wanted as long as it was once or twice a week, not more. She watched my son twice a week for a year and then started telling all her friends she was the one raising him  

When the baby comes and IF you stick to your guns, your mother will learn where her place is. She's probably TOO excited about becoming a grandma to a baby she'll get to spend time with, so I wouldn't be too hard on her. However, what she does or doesn't do with your baby is 100% your desicion. Good luck!

just to let you know from the other side, my kids grandparents don't have much to do with them, and it hurts to watch this. i really wish they wanted to be a bigger part of their lives. good luck and just do what you are comfortable with.

Lol, I went through the same thing but with my MIL. She even went so far as turning her guest room into a bedroom for my daughter.   Insisted she was going to take her all the time, blah blah blah. Babysit her overnight. Yeah, nah. Never happened. She didnt have her overnight until she was 2. lol.

i try to tell her lol she doesn't listen it's not bad i am glad she wants to be so involved but i also was never supposed to be a mommy and i want to give michael everything i can and i do not want to miss out on a thing... its just the thought of anyone taking him from me at all is a crazy thought in my brain

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda VanBogelen:</b>" Ok so i know this is the first grand baby she is ACTUALLY allowed to be part of my brother and my sister ... [snip!] ... UNLESS I ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO which means.... she can't take him without me but she just doesnt get it.. ok sorry had to vent"</blockquote>




Oh gawd. Overbearing family is the worst lol. So lucky my mom is haardly ever around and my MIL just comes around sometimes.