re: making me paranoid

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Do you know his email password? My friend did something to her boyfriend Facebook because he was acting this way. I thought it was childish but desperate times call for desperate measures? Lol. "

Sadly not! And he knows mine but when I asked for his he said no - men eh?

I'm in the same boat! he always says hes hiding nothing....but I've been there done that in the past. So I know all the signs and whatnot
and all of his actions say hes hiding smu*f and honestly his phone and secretiveness will be the end of us unless he changes.....
Im not down for living like that

I've been trying like hell to take his word and trust him....but I just cant ='(

Trust your gut. ExDH would hide his phone, change passwords on his laptop, hide his laptop. Turns out he cheated on me...alot.

My DH now has every one of my passwords and vice versa. If I wanted to look at his phone, I could take it and he wouldn't say a word, and same with me. But neither of us have nothing to hide. You could always flat out tell him that you know he is hiding something. It is easier to confront him first.

Amen I have gone through this with almost every boyfriend
My ex was acting the same way and I found out that he cheated on me twice in my own bed in my apartment with a friend of mine.... I have major trust issues with my SO now n I've explained why to him but I find myself wanting to check his phone n fb   I just can't help it not to mention I'm 36 weeks pregnant with twins and our sex life is barley there ... I worrie hes going to go some where else to get it ...

I just went for it last night and told him I want him to stop being like it or it will ruin us because he knows I have serious trust issues and if he can't handle that then well...
He said 'I always delete old texts when I've finished talking to that person and I log myself out of facebook so you can go on yours', which doesn't answer my question at all -.- I don't want to know why he deletes his texts, I want to know why he looks terrified when I touch his phone. And why would I need to go on my facebook from his laptop when I have my own and have it on mobile?? Arghhh!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" I just went for it last night and told him I want him to stop being like it or it will ruin us because ... [snip!] ... touch his phone. And why would I need to go on my facebook from his laptop when I have my own and have it on mobile?? Arghhh!!"</blockquote>




Then tell him exactly that. My DH and I delete old texts...when our inbox is full. DH always leaves his facebook open, and we just log each other off and on, we have a tab and a laptop.

If there is no other reason for you to suspect he is doing something wrong then idk why you're being so paranoid. He is a person and is entitled to his own privacy. As are you. If you feel that strongly about it then don't let him on your email, phone, or Facebook anymore. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Just bc you have been hurt in the past, doesn't mean your current SO should take the fall for it. If you are concerned about your sex life then talk to him and tell him you're feeling neglected and concerned that he isn't attracted to you or something. My SO has a pass code on his phone too and we don't know each others passwords to anything but I have NO other reason to think he is guilty of hiding anything and he leaves his phone laying around so I don't worry. Plus I wouldn't like it if my SO looked through my phone, not bc I'm guilty but because I talk about him when I'm aggravated with him and just conversations with my friends that isn't his business. And I'm sure he does the same so I'm not about to invade his privacy. I used to, but I never foud anything on his phone except porn and I don't care about that. Plus now my thing is that if I'm in a relationship with him then I need to trust him fully unless he gives me a tangible reason to think otherwise. Not every guy is hiding something. And if it just so happens that he is, it will eventually come to light. But looking through his smurf won't prevent him from doing anything wrong anyways, and he may push you away for constantly being on him about it. Relationships aren't about having full control and surveillance over another person. That sounds like a job.

My husband is the same way, I have gone through all of his stuff several times.... all the time, never found anything. Guess he likes his space. The only thing I have ever found is porn which Im not worried about.... but every guy is different. Wait til he goes to sleep and go through his phone. Ive done it. someones phone holds the answers to everything. I can access all of my husbands emails, social networks, etc with his phone.

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" If there is no other reason for you to suspect he is doing something wrong then idk why you're being ... [snip!] ... on him about it. Relationships aren't about having full control and surveillance over another person. That sounds like a job."</blockquote>
I think you're missing the point of what I said completely. I don't want to check his phone just for the hell of it because I don't want him to have privacy. I simply asked if I should be worried because of how suspicious he acts.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" If there is no other reason for you to suspect ... [snip!] ... hell of it because I don't want him to have privacy. I simply asked if I should be worried because of how suspicious he acts."</blockquote>




You said him acting suspicious "makes you want to look through his stuff".....I think you just need to tell him if he has no reason to be acting that way then to please stop because it's making you uncomfortable....but if he is doing something wrong there would usually be other fishy signs. Just try not to worry so much, it will get the best of you. Like I said, IF he is doing wrong it will eventually come to light. He will slip up.

you know what, if you want to, go for it. hack his smurf. if he is hiding something youll know NOW rather than later. the longer it continues the more youll think somethings up. its kinda hard to just forget about it and act like it doesnt bother you. if you do hack his smurf, and find nothing, tell him or not-up to you-that you hacked his smurf and say youre sorry, he was just acting too weird to let it go. but if you do find something, or a few things, better to kick him out of your life now than later and be hurt worse that it lasted this long when you knew all along something was up. but thats just how i am. ive been cheated on before too and it sucks because i had that gut feeling something wasnt right. he made me feel stupid for thinking so, until i decided to take matters into my own hands and find out myself.