re: So I found out bad news... My bd has a gf... And plans to mo

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I never said she couldnt get a job to help out if she's going to be staying at home, thats perfectly ... [snip!] ... 3-8 years experience or a Bachelor's degree - it's sad, but yeah, the economy is also having a huge impact on whats available. "

You make it seem like it's impossible for a 16 year old to make it. I don't know about where you live but here they will take you in as a receptionist in a heart beat. Specially with all these new apartment complexes getting built and new businesses opening.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweetie-Pie:</b>" You make it seem like it's impossible for a 16 year old to make it. I don't know about where you live ... [snip!] ... as a receptionist in a heart beat. Specially with all these new apartment complexes getting built and new businesses opening. "</blockquote>


Not everywhere honey. I live in South Florida and it's hell trying to find jobs anywhere. It took me four months to find a good job. So I imagine if I was 16 and pregnant, it would be even harder being that the only job experience I had ever had was working for my parents, which she stated earlier. It's hard enough to get a job no matter what age you are if you are clearly pregnant, which is why she needs to find one before she begins to show.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" You make it seem like it's impossible for a 16 year old to make it. I don't know about where you live ... [snip!] ... as a receptionist in a heart beat. Specially with all these new apartment complexes getting built and new businesses opening. "

Not "impossible" but "improbable".

And that's actually good to hear because I'll be moving to Texas in December.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweetie-Pie:</b>" Actually no, read my previous post. My aunt got pregnant at 14, got kicked out. Got a G.E.D as soon ... [snip!] ... was ready for school she went back to school. Now she is a very successful counselor who helps out mothers in need.   "</blockquote>


Well good for her, but to me that's the worst case scenario. I don't agree with kicking my child out no matter what she has done because I know I can help her make the best decisions for her and her child. That doesn't mean I will be raising her child and not having her work her ass off at a job and in school. Smurf that, I'm not raising a newborn at the age of 35. I'm planning on both my kids being out of my house and in college by the time I'm 41   I would guide her as my mom did me, but my mom made me work for it too and she then told me to get out and get my own place and I'm glad I did! I think it's very important to learn how to survive and take care of yourself and your own, but I DON'T agree and never will agree with the way your aunt had to do it. That's actually really sad, but I'm sure she is proud of herself that she made a bad situation into a very positive one for herself and her child.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Not "impossible" but "improbable". And that's actually good to hear because I'll be moving to Texas in December.  "

That's one thing I love about this city. There's always businesses opening.

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweetie-Pie:</b>" Actually no, read my previous post. My aunt ... [snip!] ... sad, but I'm sure she is proud of herself that she made a bad situation into a very positive one for herself and her child."

I would never kick my child out, unless she was acting the way OP was. Sometimes, the best love you can give to a child is tough love. Sadly, it doesn't matter if you agree with it or not. There's hundred and hundred of teens going through the same situation my aunt went through every day. When ever something like that happens to you, there's nothing you can do but look forward and do whatever it is that you need to do to make your situation better. Like my aunt did, she didn't have it easy but that experience made her the person she is and sort of helped her when it came to parenting her kids. I don't agree with you guys saying that a teen can't be compared with a grown women when actually they can. They may not have the work experience or the knowledge a grown women may have but with determination everything is possible, I speak from experience. Having a child so young, may be hard but it's not impossible to still finish school and go to college. If you love your child you'll use him/her as a motivation to strive for the best. I truly believe that age DOES NOT matter. A women is capable of many things regardless if she's 19-20-30 - 40. I was very bless to have wonderful people in my life thought my pregnancy. People who helped me get further in life and in my career, although I was very young.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" You've been defensive this whole time. Talking about how her parents have to take her in and help her. ... [snip!] ... nor diploma that have some of her skills like receptionist? Working for a business who has live chat? Teacher's assistant? "

I've been looking for a job since I found out I was pregnant. The economy is hard. And Receptionists, around here anyway have to at least have a High-school diploma. Most businesses only hire high-school graduates. And my mother is a teacher's assistant AKA Para-pro, she had to go to college to get paid for it. We cant work at corner stores, because we cant sell, stock or mess with alcohol, or tobacco. The best we teenagers(most NOT pregnant) can do is summer jobs for amusement parks. And with this heat, its not good for any pregnant woman outside for long periods.

Its not as easy as you make it seem. But it doesnt mean we cant still do our best. Shes working at becoming better already for this baby. We all do what we have to for our children.

Quoting AllieMae1219:" I've been looking for a job since I found out I was pregnant. The economy is hard. And Receptionists, ... [snip!] ... we cant still do our best. Shes working at becoming better already for this baby. We all do what we have to for our children. "

I'm sorry but parenting is never easy. I never said it's easy as a matter of face it's not easy, it's smurfing hard. It's a pain in the ass, it's overwhelming, it's frustrating, SPECIALLY if you have no help and I can keep going. However, I'm sorry but you young girls got yourself in this position. You can get all defensive and get your panties twisted but NO ONE has to help you. No matter how much of a "child" you think you are, or how much help you need. You can't make anyone help you but yourself.

She posted a new topic that she lost the baby so arguing about her parents helping her or her demanding help doesn't really matter much anymore.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carol Woldring:</b>" She posted a new topic that she lost the baby so arguing about her parents helping her or her demanding help doesn't really matter much anymore."</blockquote>




!!!!!!

Quoting Carol Woldring:" She posted a new topic that she lost the baby so arguing about her parents helping her or her demanding help doesn't really matter much anymore."

I bet this thread was bullsmurf! Regardless, my opinion doesn't just go for her. It goes for EVERY teen parent who thinks their parents should have to take care of them lol.

Okay...so I read up to page 18 so far. Not sure what all of the drama in this thread was about, I vaguely read over some debates and people questioning your story, but am not specifically sure what the main problematic situation here was. So I'm not going to touch on that for now.
I might be a bit late with my reply, so in case I'm not, here's my feedback if you're interested.

First, I want to say that I personally think you should do what you think is right for your child and yourself, not what another person thinks. And by that, I mean that I am advising that you don't make such a fateful decision based on what another person who thinks they know what is best for you wishes to influence. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but near the beginning of your topic, it seems like your mother is giving you the idea that abortion may be the best option for you. What I have to say to that is that I don't think you should be influenced into making a choice that you are not entirely sure about or seem skeptical of, you could very much regret it later on. So, again. Do what you think is best overall, 'cause I feel that it's important that you trust yourself in a situation like this.

I have to step away from my computer right now, I'll be back to edit and add additional thoughts to this post later tonight, though...

Quoting JudiAndPeridots:" Okay...so I read up to page 18 so far. Not sure what all of the drama in this thread was about, I vaguely ... [snip!] ... to step away from my computer right now, I'll be back to edit and add additional thoughts to this post later tonight, though..."

I hope this doesn't come across rude because i'm not trying to be but it's hard to tell over the internet..you probably should have read the whole thing because she posted a new topic a few days ago that she lost the baby.

Not trying to be a bitch but what are you doing out partying and having sex at 15? At that age I had never even kissed any one.
Abortion is not your only option and if you do decide to keep the baby think about how hard it is going to be not only to support youraelf and a baby but it is going to be hard to make it thru your pregnancy with no support. I am married with 2 kids and one on the way and it is hard being pregnant it is a very emotional time and you need support. So sit down and really think about what your options are and how you can deal with each one. I wish you the best

Quoting Carol Woldring:" I hope this doesn't come across rude because i'm not trying to be but it's hard to tell over the internet..you ... [snip!] ... internet..you probably should have read the whole thing because she posted a new topic a few days ago that she lost the baby."

It's fine, you didn't come across as rude at all. As I said, I only read 18 pages out of all 32 on this thread, mainly because I was worried about the OP from what I read regarding her situation and mainly wanted to focus on giving me consolences, so I'm sure there were vital things I missed on this thread, especially with people questioning changed details (cause I can see that there were) in her story...
I mean, I tried not to jump to conclusions about her pregnancy or anything due to her possibly being in a deeply troubled situation, and my not having read the entire thread.

But, when you say 'days ago', do you mean prior to this topic? :/