Hitting and saying NO!

Ugh! Evan is going through the stage where no matter what we say to him, his answer is NO! He gets all mad about everything!

I have started just picking him up and taking him to his room and telling him when he is done having a fit and telling me no he can come back out.

Also..when I pick him up for that, or to put him into time out, he has started hitting me. The entire time I am trying to set the timer (on the stove near his time out corner) he is hitting me. What the heck am I supposed to do? For a long time, I just ignored him, but there have been a few times when I smacked his butt. Logically, I know that hitting him back is not going to teach him not to hit...but I just seem to have no patience with him (or anyone!) right now!

Any advice for either of these problems?

BTW- he is 3 and I am 13 weeks preggo which is why my patience is pretty much non-existant!

You have to just ignore it!! Put him in time out, not in his room either, find a central location, put a mat down or a small chair, put him in/on it tell him why and walk away! If he hits you just walk away, he does it for your attention. Dont talk to him anymore during his punishment, if he gets up, just put him right back and start timer over, start it over everytime he gets up. He is hitting you to get you to interact with him, don't let it work. Be consistant, don't give in!!
I know, its hard to teach them not to hit, especially when you say dont hit and smack them, , we have all been there!! And I firmly believe in spanking, nothing wrong with it at all, but yea its hard not to smack them when they do something like that.

Im in a similar situation right now, i try time out but i havnt been to successful. i think he knows somethings different (the baby coming) and wants attention, maybe your son can sense somethings different too.

Hi I'm sorry that you have to deal with this, but it is one of those fun things we parents have to go through.Iused towork in a preschool. We would put themintime out and talk to them. Now of course that doesn't always solve the problem obviously especially when it is a child who is doing it more and more. We would then take away something whether it be a toy or an activity. We would also move them away from the area they were playing and make them play somewhere else. Each week we changed all the toys and they were only out for a week so of course they wanted to play with the new things. It gavethemsomething to work towards. Is there a toy, video, show or something you guys look forward to doing or an activity that is done all the time? If so threaten to take that away for the day or the week and see his reaction. If he doesn't stop then of course you will have to follow through with it and that way he knows you are for real. Sometimes it takes more then once to get it through to them. I used to have parents come and tell us they took almost every toy away and put it in a box and away. Eventually it started to click. This of course was happening to parents that seemed to always give in to their kids and so it was harder for them. Please just keep working at it, I know personally how hard and challenging it can be especially when your pregnant and you have no PATIENCE, lol. Good Luck.

if my son says no i just tell him to get in the corner cause hes being bad so he starts crying and walks to the corner but he gets out as soon as he stops which doesnt take long but he doesnt do it again for awhile. you just have to be presistant

He used to walk to time out for me. Now he refuses to budge and I end up picking him up. Perhaps I need to take away something if he refuses to go to timeout on his own accord. I can't see me picking up a 35# kid when I am huge preggo...nor do I think I *should* be picking him up. Thanks for the ideas ladies and the words of encouragement!

I will continue to ignore his hitting and just restart the timer.

Thanks again!

Quoting KellyTheChef:“ Ugh! Evan is going through the stage where no matter what we say to him, his answer is NO! He gets all ... [snip!] ... for either of these problems? BTW- he is 3 and I am 13 weeks preggo which is why my patience is pretty much non-existant!”

oh man my parents made me stand military style in the corner. I HATED it.

I totally agree with the loosing it part, I understand that,, but I found just walking away from my son does it. Although, he doesnt hit, so that part I am unsure about, I couldnt pick up my son either, so walking away used to be the way to go for me....

My friends daughter used to hit her,, and she wouldnt stand close enough for her too hit, I hope that you can cope with the constant 'NO' you are going to hear from him,, I think he has just found a way to push your buttons thats all,, ignore him when he says it, and if he gets no reaction,, then hopefully it will stop,,, best of luck