I know it wrong, but is it the right decision?

Okay Okay To start out with I know its really wrong of me that I did this, & Its not right...But I feel that It was in best intrest for me and my unborn. Basicly what Happened is that, My blood sugar was very low about two weeks ago..well the doctor said stop stressing because my blood pressure went threw the roof to. Well what I did is I lied, I told my babies father as well as everyone ELSE that I lost my baby & me and my mom came up with this idea to were I move to canada to give birth and to go on with my life. Because my babys father and his parents want us to get married and leave and he's acting all crazy always yelling fussing not doing anything I just dont know. I feel soo bad because I dont want to come back to visit my family one time and people just look and there like ohhh he/she looks just like him.?? Help please...Im taking in as much advice as I can get...

If you know you're in the wrong, then how on earth could it be the right decision?

I think it's ridiculous what you've done, & extremely selfish. What are you going to tell you child when he/she asks who their father is?

"Oh, it's this one guy, but I told him I lost you .. so he has no idea you exist."

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ Okay Okay To start out with I know its really wrong of me that I did this, & Its not right...But ... [snip!] ... people just look and there like ohhh he/she looks just like him.?? Help please...Im taking in as much advice as I can get...”

whatever gets him off your back.

But wouldn't it be easier to say fuck no and get child support later?

Isn't there some saying about the tangled webs we weave??????? This sounds WAY too complicated to ever work out. Sooner or later someone is gonna catch you in a lie. You cant just hide a child from its father for the rest of its life and expect its never going to want to find him, or that nobody will ever find out! I say this whole scenario puts you way in over your head.....   I think it would be easier just to say you dont wanna marry him, you're moving away to have some space and time to clear your head and get rid of the stress and try to break things off that way... odds are he's not gonna chase you down. Most guys arent gonna put in that much work. It may be easy to lie about it now, but I think down the line crap is gonna hit the fan that you are gonna regret in the long run. Good luck with all that deception and stuff!  

This is what I dont understand, did you not read the whole post? Do you not comprehend that If I stay around and deal with this that I might have a miscarriage because of stress because of his yelling and gfighting and fussing & the fact he dosent want our child?

Quoting amy doll.:“ If you know you're in the wrong, then how on earth could it be the right decision? I think it's ridiculous ... [snip!] ... child when he/she asks who their father is? "Oh, it's this one guy, but I told him I lost you .. so he has no idea you exist."”

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ This is what I dont understand, did you not read the whole post? Do you not comprehend that If I stay ... [snip!] ... have a miscarriage because of stress because of his yelling and gfighting and fussing & the fact he dosent want our child? ”

Yes I did read the whole post. Why don't you tell him that him keep "yelling" & what not is putting your child at risk .. so ask him to stay a way until your blood sugar is stablised. It isn't just about here & now, you can't just keep a child away from it's father for yelling at you & making you stressed  .

Your lie will eventually come out, & things will be A LOT worse. Just tell him you're moving away, to have a better life with your child. Why is there a need to tell him your child has died? It's very cruel.

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ This is what I dont understand, did you not read the whole post? Do you not comprehend that If I stay ... [snip!] ... have a miscarriage because of stress because of his yelling and gfighting and fussing & the fact he dosent want our child? ”

If you are that worried about having a miscarriage why would you lie and say you had one.. apparantly it isn't that big of a concern to you or it wouldn't be something you would lie about.

Quoting Sharonblueyes:“ Isn't there some saying about the tangled webs we weave??????? This sounds WAY too complicated to ever ... [snip!] ... the line crap is gonna hit the fan that you are gonna regret in the long run. Good luck with all that deception and stuff!  ”

Okay I did tell him I dont want to get married, Ive told his parents about my plan of school so everything wants something different. HE dosent want anything to do with me acts like he dosent care, screams yells we fight all the time for some reason one day we were laying down he was laying on me and it hurt so I told him to move hes like why your going to get an abortion anyways says things like I hope you have a miscarriage before I told him. His parents are threatning to do the craziest things..& that if we dont get married send him away I want to finish college my last month take a break and go back to school in January a unniversity you know? My mom seems to be the only one supporting me and yea I know but Ive done without the dad for my first son, I feel like Im a strong women & I can make it, &yes it hurts and to think the baby will ask but if its going to stress me I dont know.

then move away and dont tell him where or give him a number u dont have to give the baby up...this sounds like some old school stuff when girls parents would send them away so no1 would know...my friend penny is 89 and her mom made her do that when she was 16...she never had another kid and never got married........she doesnt leave her house 

It's easy to not asnwer the phone when he calls, and not let him into your house. If you're that concerned about him then don't go out without family or someone with you etc. And if you're that concerned you could try for a restraining order so he can't come around or call you, and if he does he gets locked up. There is no reason to take it to the extreme you have.

Ummm get a restraining order. Then he can't yell at you and cause you to miscarry...and if he tries to he'll be arrested.

Quoting amy doll.:“ Yes I did read the whole post. Why don't you tell him that him keep "yelling" & what not is putting ... [snip!] ... moving away, to have a better life with your child. Why is there a need to tell him your child has died? It's very cruel.”

:sigh: I know. But he dosent deserve it and I dont deserve his s*** either. =/ I dont know how to go about it this just made it so much easier. He stopped all the bs left me alone so did his parents, but I feel so bad because I want him to see his baby because it our baby you know? & I feel that Im at risk. oh no I know I wont have a miscarriage I take care of myself very very well.

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ Okay I did tell him I dont want to get married, Ive told his parents about my plan of school so everything ... [snip!] ... a strong women & I can make it, &yes it hurts and to think the baby will ask but if its going to stress me I dont know.”

Eh, it's not just about you.

Quoting 9 days left!:“ then move away and dont tell him where or give him a number u dont have to give the baby up...this sounds ... [snip!] ... mom made her do that when she was 16...she never had another kid and never got married........she doesnt leave her house ”

oops i dont think u said anything about giving her up oops sorrry but still just move

Quoting amy doll.:“ Eh, it's not just about you.”

Right now Yeah it is, about me my son and this baby. What I plan on doing for the better of their lives!


& Im not trying to deal with the cops in this anyway..Its not like I hate they guy?