re: I know it wrong, but is it the right decision?

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ I dont hate him, Im stupid for saying this. Yeah I have feelings for him..on some level I feel Im in ... [snip!] ... about what I feel is right for my children...I mean the first one came out fine, polite everything & I did it by myself.”

You are saying you still have feelings for a guy that would have his friends beat you to kill a baby   Riiiight. You are more deluded than you realise darling. One day you should come back and re-read this and see how ridiculous you sound... Grow up love and deal with your actions like a grown up.

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ I dont hate him, Im stupid for saying this. Yeah I have feelings for him..on some level I feel Im in ... [snip!] ... about what I feel is right for my children...I mean the first one came out fine, polite everything & I did it by myself.”

So then do this one by yourself, but don't lie. You can be a single mother with out telling the father that the baby is dead. Not that I would ever consider doing that, but I would be scared of jinxing myself by saying some shit like that.

Quoting Ashley [couldn't be happi:“ So then do this one by yourself, but don't lie. You can be a single mother with out telling the father ... [snip!] ... baby is dead. Not that I would ever consider doing that, but I would be scared of jinxing myself by saying some shit like that.”

Exactly! Me too.

Then you just need to say this is what I want, this is what's best for me. You want me to get rid of "it" then sign over your rights and "it" will be gone. I mean there are all kinds of other alternatives to what you did, that you could have done. And you say you still have feelings for him on some deep level, how is he gonna feel one day knowing he has a child? And if he is this bad now, okay, worst case scenario if you're this afraid or whatever of him now, in five six years or so when he finds out you lied and he really has a child, what do you think he's gonna do? If I was a man, and a woman did that to me, I'd kill her. I mean I'm trying to think like him here, if he is that bad then think of how mad that's gonna make him when he finds out. B/c he WILL find out eventually. Matter of time.

Quoting Nicole B:“ You had sex with him deal with the consequences! He's the father and has a right to know his child exist. ... [snip!] ... If you were hanging around with retarded wankers that act like they are 15 year old thugs maybe you need your head checked ”

okay maybe I should explain. Its like he so peaceful one moment...the next he goes hay WIRE. literally he just out of no were gets in these moods. hes so sweet and loving but as soon as our baby is brought up things go flying and his "friends' arent of helpp theyve called me on my phone yelling cursing to the point were I changed my cellular they try to get me fired its amazing about the things that they do for him and hes jsut a damn kid himself...Like I dont understand him AT ALL.

Quoting Ladee*6DAYS!*:“ Then you just need to say this is what I want, this is what's best for me. You want me to get rid of ... [snip!] ... he is that bad then think of how mad that's gonna make him when he finds out. B/c he WILL find out eventually. Matter of time.”

 

Or until the child turns 18, & wants to start looking for their real father. Imagine if they found him, & he has no clue they even exist. I'd feel broken it that were me.

Quoting Ladee*6DAYS!*:“ Then you just need to say this is what I want, this is what's best for me. You want me to get rid of ... [snip!] ... he is that bad then think of how mad that's gonna make him when he finds out. B/c he WILL find out eventually. Matter of time.”

Ive done it. Ive dont it Ive done it...He said "f U im not signen s*** I dont want sh** t0 do with this i dont want my name involved but yet comes back and acts like everythings fine.

Well, I think a Mother knows what the right thing to do is. You do what you think is best.

Thenwalk away. Don't answer the phone don't asnwer the door don't go where you know he goes and get a restraining order. If you care for him fine but sooner or later you would have realized it's not gonna be fine anymore. A restraining order would work but you don't wanna call in the cops b/c you still care for him...I'm not trying to be mean but you're a walking talkin contradiction sweetie.

Quoting Its Eh-Lei:“ Ive done it. Ive dont it Ive done it...He said "f U im not signen s*** I dont want sh** t0 do with this i dont want my name involved but yet comes back and acts like everythings fine.”

It sounds to me like you are going back and forth between making excuses for you and making excuses for him. If you are trying to defend something you can't defend it from both sides. Figure out what you want before you think about what you are going to do.

Quoting Mommy Of One Girl:“ Well, I think a Mother knows what the right thing to do is. You do what you think is best.”

lol NO.

Telling the father of your child that their kid is dead, is NOT the right thing to do. In any circumstance.

Quoting amy doll.:“ Exactly! Me too.”

I'm out. This chick just doesn't get it. People who support telling the father the baby is dead should be de-sexed so they don't breed with the morons they have sex with... Life is about the choices we make and how we deal with them... She made a bad choice and is making another one to deal with it. It will catch up with her so good luck to the poor child....

Quoting Nicole B:“ I'm out. This chick just doesn't get it. People who support telling the father the baby is dead should ... [snip!] ... She made a bad choice and is making another one to deal with it. It will catch up with her so good luck to the poor child....”

Are you goingggg?  

Quoting Mommy Of One Girl:“ Well, I think a Mother knows what the right thing to do is. You do what you think is best.”

  Are you serious? Is this posted in TP or something? Do you also support drink driving and other stupid choices? 

Quoting amy doll.:“ Are you goingggg?  ”

I don't enjoy smacking my head against a brick wall..... lol