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Quoting → Jasmine Janelle &:" Before me and BD got our own place like a week ago before that we've been living with his mom. Well one ... [snip!] ... know it just bothers me, am i being a bitch for being mad that he gives her alot of money out of his check? Ugh, i dont know."

I think it is his decision. Especially because it is his mother and his money.
I would personally leave it alone.

If it's posing a detriment to the care of your child, at that point I would complain. Outside of that though, I couldn't see telling my boyfriend basically that he couldn't give his own mother money - money that he works for.
Maybe not bitchy, but I wouldn't think you should have a whole lot of say about it.

Yeah, i know he works for it. But we're a family and i know he's trying to help his mom, but he's 1 out of 5 and one is in the navy, i mean i just don't think he should be doing it all by himself.
If it were me giving money to my dad, he would have a bitch fit.

I guess it all depends on how much you need the money. 1000 a week can sound like a lot but taxes and insurance take out a chunk and then all the other bills on top of it.But if you are sitting fine financially then it's a different story. I'd say if he does end up helping her out this time, then he needs to set an ultimatum with her and let her know his limits of helping her out and that it's perhaps the last time.

Quoting → Jasmine Janelle &:" Yeah, i know he works for it. But we're a family and i know he's trying to help his mom, but he's 1 out ... [snip!] ... mean i just don't think he should be doing it all by himself. If it were me giving money to my dad, he would have a bitch fit."

You guys are not married, just boyfriend and girlfriend. Is your account joint? If not, it really is just his money. I can see why you are upset, but it may cause problems.
Look at it differently and try to understand the bigger picture. Does him helping out his mother, the woman that raised him, really affect you?

I can see where you're coming from, seeing as how she would blow the money you guys gave her to begin with, but if he's making $1000/wk and is only giving her like $300 here and there, it shouldn't be THAT big of a deal.

I wouldn't say anything...just let him give it to her, and if she blows it and loses her house, then maybe he'll regret it.

Quoting Cassi♥DLK[29]♥:" I can see where you're coming from, seeing as how she would blow the money you guys gave her to begin ... [snip!] ... I wouldn't say anything...just let him give it to her, and if she blows it and loses her house, then maybe he'll regret it."

Its out of every check he gets.

It's his mother, and you shouldn't get in the way of that

Quoting ♥ Olive Oyl:" You guys are not married, just boyfriend and girlfriend. Is your account joint? If not, it really is ... [snip!] ... and try to understand the bigger picture. Does him helping out his mother, the woman that raised him, really affect you?"

Yes it does bother me if she doesn't take it in considerate, or use it for what he's giving it to her. It wouldn't bother me if she would use the money for what she needs it for like her house.

Its his money. He can spend it how he wants

You want to know what tremendously bothers me?

The fact that you said 'kind've' in lieu of 'kind of' - does that matter? Not particularly, no.

Ought your opinion count? Only if he believes so. Thus far, his mother is exactly that, his mother, and the rest is seemingly not your business.

I don't necessarily agree with everyone saying that it's his money so he can do whatever he wants with it. If you guys are a serious couple with a child, living together, sharing expenses, planning to get married, etc then I believe that it is both your money and you guys should both have a say in it-although he obviously gets the final say.

Quoting Tasha & Nika:" You want to know what tremendously bothers me? The fact that you said 'kind've' in lieu of 'kind of' ... [snip!] ... count? Only if he believes so. Thus far, his mother is exactly that, his mother, and the rest is seemingly not your business."

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Quoting Tasha Norman:" I don't necessarily agree with everyone saying that it's his money so he can do whatever he wants with ... [snip!] ... then I believe that it is both your money and you guys should both have a say in it-although he obviously gets the final say."

We do have our own expenses, meaning we SHARE our money. Whats mine is his, just like any other married couple. Not saying we are married but pretty much are. He does have the final say i'm just saying i wish she would take advantage of the fact that he's helping her and use the money wisely and what he's giving it to her for. Yes i may sound like a bitch but i'm not the only one that gets a little itch from there MIL i think everybody does. He would be devastated if she lost that house.