Quoting 20andneedtotlk1:" I need his consent to an adoption... I would do it but I just legally can't."
Surely if he cares about you (if your still in a relationship) then he'd understand that this is something you need
him to do for you?
To me that seems like the best option for you.. just looking in on the situation i can imagine how torn you are feeling at the moment mama & I really feel for you.
If you both aren't willing/wanting to raise a child, you feel abortion is weighing heavily on your heart, so adoption sounds like the next best option.
If he can't see that & is so selfish that he'd break your heart & basically force you into a corner/abortion or force you to single parent then I think you should consider lying & saying you don't know who the father is so you can legally go through with the adoption.
How would he feel if he were in your position?
Would you force him to abort or would you agree to the adoption?
To me if you sincerely care about someone then you need to sacrifice & come to a mutual agreement.
Please talk to him & let him know your true feelings before letting him push you into a corner.
Claiming you don't know who the father is would surely allow you to place your baby for adoption?..
If that would leave you feeling at peace with a decision that will weigh on your mind/heart for a life time then that might be the best option for yourself.